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the god that people are believing in isn't god, osho just like buddha spent his life railing against this quick find quick fix mentality when ramana was asked what is god he said, what is is god you only find this within and cannot see it with human eyes osho preferred words like existence the all i am for the ultimate reality since 'god' could appear to align him with the day's religions

whenever a person crosses your path, whether or not you both communicate, even if you are sworn enemies, they are seeking to love you they want for you the same portion they have for themselves they want you to see feel affirm approve validate corroborate savor their existence this is what love is all is love viewed through a clean lens

when you don't change the world seems like the same ol' messed up hell hole, when you change the world seems like a veritable garden of eden, everyone seems a little softer more relaxed more childish, more pure more worthy more vulnerable you don't see the world as it you see the world as you are

it is fraught with risk that you morph into a hating bitter twisted unbalanced deeply injured money grabbing prima donna making deals with the devil doesn't end well no matter how open eyed and worldly wise you are ... you encounter society's worst and you will not be immune to its contamination when you lie down with dogs you get up with fleas

seems like censored or restricted is the correct word if you fail to toe the progressive line, we don't want to listen to your musings

both is best i'd say ... being an outsider isn't good being an insider gets old, balance is where it's at you can have your cake and eat it too nothing to stop us each day doing 8 hours sleep 8 hours inside 8 hours outside all those domains are important, nothing better than socializing and nothing better than meditating we are lucky in this day and age that we need shut no door, take advantage of this and live full on all fronts

for the most part we're all looks obsessed when we're young, either into our own looks or into other's looks or both; it is biology doing its job to keep the species going; question is can we mature beyond that to see the whole person, the complex package of attributes and quirks that everyone presents; i tend to find attractive just as many older people as younger people, i enjoy things like confidence openness curiosity simplicity ... and these qualities suffice to make someone attractive ... having said that i have my prejudices too; if someone doesn't exercise that is hugely off-putting to me as i like someone who chooses to put their body through its paces at least a few times per week; exercising takes many forms and can be as simple as taking frequent brisk walks mono is much simpler more stable more safe and the basis for having and raising a family in this society so it is the best choice for most people

between a 1st date and a 1st sleepover (for a relationship foundation) 0. current relationship status ... how many partners/spouses in past 5 years ... how many children if any and how many children/exes being supported 1. your/their porn appetite ... do you consume porn regularly or rarely and are you comfortable with a partner consuming porn 2. are you/ they decidedly monogamous or open to more than one partner 3. in favor of protected sex or non protected sex? what kind of protection? 4. std status 5. seeking to have children at some point or comitted to a child-free life 6. any significant sexual trauma experienced any others?

favouritism is seeing with faulty eyes; every person is extraordinary in their own way; comparing is the habit of the conditioned mind; of course some one will have a super body another one will have a super charm yet another will have a super wit; if you connect with someone it is not about them being a most gorgeous specimen, for me attraction casts a much wider net as for them having conflict, this can happen but more often if they both like you there is good chance they will get along amicably and if they don't there is no reason why they need to ever see each other ... if they have another partner or partners i am fine with that as long as everyone is honest and upfront about what they are doing ... i will not ask them to be mono if i myself am poly but if they are mono already then that can work too getting and maintaining a long term partnership isn't about their level of attraction it is about their level of self respect to make the best of the card they have been dealt, are they taking care of themselves are they living a balanced life are they engaging their passions etc ... this is what makes someone attractive, looks fade but laughter lasts ... i want them to become the best version of themselves then i will be happy and they will be happy as for me i don't think i will ever have more than two concurrent partners purely because the logistics get tricky so two is the sweet spot for me, in practical terms that means i will most usually have one partner i see frequently who lives nearby and one partner who lives far away and i see rarely if at all though we communicate every day ... that seems to work well for me

yes you're right but porn is such a big topic nowadays that just talking to a person about it is revealing and insightful no one of these questions guarantees honest but all of them together paint a very good picture of the person's character, at least how they see themselves ... only time will tell if they are self deceiving or worse still lacking self knowledge or lacking self control there is a lot of truth to the saying ... if you want to know me, come live with me

yes all correct ... relationship isn't a priority though so i am not systematically looking or doing pick up ... nice to have a partner or two to share one's fruits with but much more important is doing what i am here to do

the checklist is a highly useful process in my experience for example i have no interest need desire for porn if the person i am contemplating enjoys porn and likes to consume it, i am extremely cool with that, it displays a healthy open minded sexual appetite what i do not appreciate is if someone says i despise porn and then i come to find they have a secret porn habit that for me is cheating and would be the end of the relationship

intent is to share some wisdom that has worked for me in parts ... was hoping for more ideas ... but maybe as it stands it's good and yes i agree most will not warm to this clinical approach to match making but i like to cut to the chase and eliminate the misfits

i couldn't get the thought out of my mind on day 1 ... at least you have some time to be rid of it ?

also this is not a rule book, it is just be honest about the person you are from day 1 so on day 100 we are both not suddenly surprised i don't mind who you are, just be honest

let me state it plainly then - these are the necessary preconditions to have a chance with me these are simple questions and a very low bar to meet in order to be a match with me have not implemented in one swoop like this before, but it's on the agenda if others here thinks it silly, i am cool with that, no harm no foul

glad you get it, you have to be there to get it ?

are these pet peeves deal breakers for you then? if you are sharing personal items in that case each one needs to modify their behaviour, the ideal alternative being just have separate bathrooms ... so find out if they are flexible in their behaviours ... for me i am happy to sleep with them before digging into such details since if i bond with them i am much more happy to compromise how i do things

an --- eeeee --- chaaaa --- the end of an itcher sit don't scratch the name of the game follow the instructions no pain no gain ?

f-eel e-verything a- r-isk is it ok to venture out yet? nah why not wallow here a few more eons

1st half of life LP 2nd half of life balls to the wall enlightenment ... in the first half you are making yourself comfortable so 2nd half you can put your feet up i still advocate plenty of spiritual work no matter what season of life you're in

i sleep at 7 and get up at 3 so the day is won before most are getting up ... best life change ever ... i realised the night hours are utterly wasteful futile unwholesome and turned my life around ... i allow two cheat days per month for say a date or a live sporting event

universe puts two people together all the time, don't fall for the hormonal trap ... ensure you are on the same page with life direction before sleeping with someone or pay a hefty price in wounds conflicts and tears

bless you ?

yes that's in line with what i am saying i am talking the period between 1st date and 1st sex this can be out places, texting, phoning ... just cover all the bases and make sure the person is what you need