SonataAllegro

@Leo Gura on the plus side, congrats on taking up that much bandwidth

How do you make sure this doesn't happen to you, even if you aren't doing psychs?

Thanks for this! Also remember y'all, even though most therapists won't understand how to address the spiritual sides of your problems, very often the thing that is needed to counter the negative effects of solipsism, nihilism, and confusion is grounding, community, and confidence, and any therapist worth their salt can help you with that.

Sounds like you over exerted yourself and burned out. There’s nothing wrong with you for burning out. Try to pay attention to your energy and motivation levels and conserve them. And be softer with yourself. Counterintuitively, your harshness at yourself is not helping you get back on track, it’s throwing you off.

Nice!

Anyone have good tips to avoid putting a partner on a pedestal? Every time I think I'm not doing it, I later find out I was. I never think someone is "the one" but still they become very special to me, especially if things become exclusive. But how do I distinguish between seeing someone as "important" (not needy) and seeing them as "special" (needy)?

I love this, do be careful though as people have mentioned. Imagine your vulnerability as a bag of gold coins that you want to give out little bit at a time. If you give them all away at once she'll lose interest.

I'm going on a 30 day experiment/challenge to see how high pranic my diet can be and what the positive effects are. After that i'll reintroduce other foods (meat, breads, spice, alcohol) on occasion. Doing it as an experiment/challenge is good for getting your mindset out of desperate mindsets. It also ensures consistency; cravings for junk food can be curbed in the name of doing the experiment correctly. And after 30 days, your palettes and attitudes toward food will have changed enough that you probably wouldn't even want to fall back into the cycle of eating, or if you do, you will have an easier time getting out because you'll know the magic of having a really good diet. Food should be fun, not misery!

Consider that "dating" is an orange/green invention. At Blue, there's pre-arranged marriages and love affairs. At red, there's men conquering women and having multiple wives. At purple, there's pairings that were chosen by the spirits/ancestors. So at later stages of development, relationships can look radically different. Specifically, much less projection, romanticization, and neediness, and much more understanding of one another's differences. Mostly the changes occur within yourself. Even if the other person doesn't see it, you take responsibility and realize that the success of the relationship depends on your well being and you avoid idealizing the person (which earlier stages do incessantly, thinking that's love). You're conscious that the love you feel for them happens entirely within you, and therefore it doesn't go away if they decide to leave you. Though you still play the "dating game", you're both conscious that it's a game and can be less serious about it. Don't make the mistake of falling for a partner who appears to be higher up the spiral believing that makes them inherently better in relationships. They could be turquoise and treat you like shit. Or they could be red and be great for you. just be keenly aware of the assumptions you make about someone new, that's the essence of yellow.

Of course! Laughter breaks through the ego's density and belief that it needs to hide itself in shame.

See them both, love them both, see the conflict, love the conflict. You can’t force a reconciliation, it comes through honesty.

My friend is experiencing a delayed sense of touch... he'll put his hand on something and then feel it a second later, he has trouble doing tasks like putting on gloves. This occurred for 5 minutes yesterday and for over 3 hours today. He says its similar to being on cannabis or shrooms. Anyone experienced this?

Look at your actions, they don't lie.

This is probably the most helpful advice, but all of you are giving wonderful words. I think my issues come from ignoring someone's "faults" and red flags and only seeing what I want to see in them. Same thing happens within myself.

It's called "Anal al haq" cause awakening feels like the ego dropping out of your anus

What you may notice if you take the LP course a year or 2 later is that your values didn't change much but your understanding of them deepened. For example, my highest value is truth, but I had no idea what that meant when I first took the course. I have a much deeper understanding of truth now but the value hasn't changed. A value is like a direction, not an ideal. Yes, rank them according to how you feel now (when else could you do it? )

Ask yourself what exactly you feel uncomfortable with in the moment that it's happening. See that if you really trust him, there's nothing to worry about and that's just who he is. Notice also that your discomfort is part of who you are and don't judge yourself for it.

You love gossip. So does every human on the planet. Do it more consciously and less viciously, but don't feel bad about talking about it. See if you can talk/think about other people without getting sucked into the universe you're creating with your words. Stay grounded in the present. You'll notice you tend toward less judgemental/divisive thoughts. Your friend seems quite puritanic.

You have to look at these models not as precise observational data points, but as general trends and characterizations of different stages of development. Every individual is a complex amalgamation of many different stages, operating in a society that is also a complex amalgamation of many different stages. To label this muslim scholar as "underdeveloped" is to use SD improperly. That muslim scholar is exactly where they need to be. You can be muslim/christian/buddhist and be Turquoise. Just as science doesn't disappear after Orange, religion (morality systems) doesn't disappear after Blue. It's not the contents of the beliefs but how much one clings to them as the absolute truth. Think about each stage like this: Purple: person develops connection and belonging to family/tribe Red: person develops sense of individuality and ability to exert their will Blue: person develops morals that help them get along with society Orange: person develops sense of agency and ability to raise in social ladder Green: person develops refined ethics and a desire for meaningful contribution Yellow: person uncovers their authenticity and speaks their truth fully Turquoise: person develops true holism and love from within See how when you frame it like this, it doesn't matter so much if SD is "scientifically verifiable"? It's a metaphorical model that helps you look into your own development. It will have tremendous benefits if you use it for what it's designed for, but will get you into trouble if you use it to create an ideology.

Make one!

Hi all, I'm writing for a philosophy essay competition. What are some topics you'd suggest writing about? It can be on any subject; logic, metaphysics, epistemology, ethics, aesthetics, history of philosophy, politics, etc. I want to drop some truth bombs that I've learned from actualized.org but in a way that won't give the reader an existential crisis (if possible). Thanks!

You had dreams of breaking these materialists out of materialism, and that isn't going to work. If you want to make programming more of a conscious field that's awesome, but you're gonna have to do it alone, or find like-minded people. I'm in a similar place with my own LP of music composition, because there isn't any discussion of consciousness in music whatsoever at the conservatory I go to. It's disheartening, but I can't expect that others would understand if they don't have any idea what I'm talking about. If you're passionate about taking programming to a more conscious level, work on consciousness. The grand inventions and impacts you make will likely come in a later part of your life.

Depends on which parent was what to you. For me Natasha's analogy works because my mom was whom i learned from while my father was more distant. But i can see both ways. The word "Matrix" derives from "Mother".

Haha no. I meant that I would draw upon insights that actualized helped me come to in answering some question. But not necessarily quote Leo directly or copy his intellectual property.

Give more info on these daydreams. Generally they're a distraction technique from some trauma, creating a scenario that parallels the emotions you're avoiding in a fantastical way as a way to help you process them.