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This is why I add the word "subtle". The difference is so subtle. @Carl-Richardis making some good points, which I'm trying to make discernments on to see the differences, but the point you just made about description is also notable. Geesh, this subject is more complicated than I thought. Lol

Maybe that's the difference i'm indirectly referring to - condescending. I try so hard in my mind to analyze what I'm trying to say because I still stand by my stance on it. I use examples to try to clarify the minute, subtle differences between judging and, like you say, description. I see the differences now I think "condescending" is where my mind draws the difference. Even though I still think we can make observations without judging it because it's what is and i'm trying to train my mind to accept what is without interpretation and with full acceptance as my Signature suggests. But thank you for this and I will contemplate on it a bit more as I recognize some judgement is needed for us to maneuver our way around life - just not condescendingly.

I kind of resonated with most of what he said so I can agree that he does see it in the same light as I do, somewhat. Close.

I'm not really concerned with what humans do all the time because humanity is in trouble as far as what i've observed and all of us experience emotional pain and a lot have traumas and emotional baggage and so on. We think it's all normal and we try to fix it externally thinking it's something out there that caused it. I'm more in the business of going against the grain and normality of human behavior (including my own) to try to alleviate the amount of suffering we put ourselves through. What causes it and how to reduce it. I look at normal human behavior and try to put the pieces together to see if those behaviors can be traced back to why we suffer and try to see what we can do differently in the way we think which leads to the actions we take which determines our way of being.

To me, just saying someone is fat, isn't judging. Example 1. She's fat - not judging. Example 2. She's fat and that's disgusting - judging. 1. He said some inappropriate things to me - not judging. 2. He's an asshole for saying some inappropriate things to me - judging. You're adding stories behind your observations. That's observing with judgement. Observing without judgement is observing something for what it is without making condescending remarks about what you're observing. It's hard to explain because of the subtle difference. We all put stories and meaning to things we observe, that's what we do as humans but we can observe, analyze compare and explain without being condescending and labelling things without judging them. That's the best way I can describe what I'm trying to say. Making a judgement call about a decision you have to make is not judging, calling someone's decision after them making a judgement call silly or stupid is judging. Saying you think that judgement call you made is not a wise decision isn't judging, that's an opinion. Saying someone is silly and foolish for making a particular decision is also an opinion but it's still judging because you're not calling the decision silly you're calling the person silly. I'm trying to explain the subtle difference very delicately the best I know how, but I can see it in my mind's eye the difference, but it's nit easy to explain on paper.

You don't build a website of this caliber without putting passion into it. This was very well thought out and took a lot of time and energy to build. You can also see the passion in his eyes in most of his videos. Everyone has to make a living, but you can tell this means a lot to him. To what degree, idk, but it's more than just business. Anyone else who knows what passion feels would be able to sense that. Even if he's out "living his life", as you phrased it, it is well deserved. All of us are reaping the benefits of his hard work, including you just from having the opportunity to voice your opinion here, so that in itself is worth it for you to be able to "have a voice", even if it is to criticize.

I like this advice and that's what I try to do. I can't even separate the two even if I tried.

I opened up a Mega Thread for Spiritual movie trailers/documentaries. Can you post that movie trailer and the link over there please. It's in the Off-Topic/Entertainment section. Thanks. Would love to add that to the collection.

When I'm reading a post that's well written and oozing with tasty vomit, I don't mind if it's a bit lengthy. I myself can write some lengthy remarks but sometimes that's what's needed to get a point across. People tend to have short attention spans for note-worthy readings and tend to give their attention to twerking booties and 3hr bloody movies that raises their blood pressure. A bit of humor there, but you get what I'm saying.

At least you didn't try to fight me this time. Fear of being broke can make you strive for financial success, and you may get it yes, but it will come at a cost. Love for feeling abundant carries a different energy and that's more sustainable. Love trumps fear. Focus on what you love over what you fear because love is all there is. Fear is an illusion that exists in the mind and will destroy you if you let it.

I can see through God's bullshit, don't think I can't see through your human shit. I know what you're saying, you Merkabah Starry fishtail you.😜😜

You might just want to follow me to my house if I really get real down and nasty on this forum that's why I try to behave myself and stick to the Spiritual aspects of things because my sleeping with women ain't nothing compared to what other toys I've slept with. You'll be begging to unfollow me by the time I'm done showing you. Don't mind me, they say it's the ones with all the talk that ain't doing shit. That's me. I ain't doing shit but all talk. Come here Amy, let's show them some talking.......blub, blub.....cumming Princess!!!

This happens as a result of judgement, judgement of yourself and others. When I say certain things, it's because i can sometimes see the bigger picture. What the results will be. A lot of times it's unknowable in the moment, but I know the result will not be satisfactory because of the structure. So, the results will be difficulty in certain aspects of your life, disappointments and disdain, just as you stated. And to address your last statement, the result of all that will be blame. Now you're blaming what you call uncultivated people for your suffering - which is a judgement to call them uncultivated. I'm not trying to come down on you, I'm trying to let you see you can't win when it's not love. If it's not love, it's fear. Judging people isn't loving people, accepting people or exercising empathy towards them. Those qualities are God's qualities. We are far from becoming the Godhead, but moving away from it will not sustain itself. Those negative qualities will need other negative qualities for anchors which will eventually lead to a crashing down of the whole structure. Having high standards is great, but are they coming from a place of superficiality and materialism or high standards for quality interactions with people and the outside world, quality way of being, qualities for expressions of love and creativity. If those high standards are for pretty women, fancy cars, nice clothes, expensive this and expensive that, those standards will not create in you a sense of worth, peace and contentment for long because it is not who you are at your core. You will start to notice that no matter what you do and what you try to achieve materially, you will feel as if you've not really achieved what you really want and that is to feel loved, at peace and filled with joy and contentment. This is why I said when we judge others, we are only judging ourselves because now we have set a bar that becomes higher than what we are judging, that we have to live up to and beyond, so we can feel worthy enough to continue judging others and now the internal competition begins with ourselves and when we are unable to live up to those bars we feel disappointment and disdain for others when in truth we are only disappointed in ourselves. It's a cycle. A good rule of thumb is to forgive yourself for your own self-judgements and to understand that people are where they're at in their own unique journey and that environment plays a role in how one is developed and that's sometimes out of one's control. Everything we give out comes back to us 10 folds. Learn the art of understanding yourself and others and why they are the way they are instead of judging them for being a certain way because circumstances and environments produced what you are seeing and observing. You are judging your ideas of them and not who they truly are.

Never know on this forum. I try not to jump to conclusions on that anymore. Learnt my lesson on that.

You're male, right.

That's why I said what I said in my first few sentences that weren't quoted. That was the important part that went with what you're saying here, please go back and re-read it, starting from "there are other call to action....." Furthermore no judgement is needed for survival. Observations, choices, proper discernment, refusals and many more facets are required but not judgement. Edit: I think I get it now. You guys description of judgement and mine are different. Using better judgement is not the same as judging someone. I think that's where the miscommunication is arising from.

Thought you were referring to my sleeping with women. Was gonna say you're not missing anything. The men is where it's at, for the gays that is.

Good, less to unfollow if you come out. Come out with anything.

People's beliefs aren't their own doing. These are just thoughts that were repeated over and over and over and over until it got cemented in the brain and now they call them their beliefs. No amount of 5min talk and forum explanation will change that. It would take a replacement with another repetitive thought to do that. It's a program you're talking to. Don't try to change the belief. Give some views on how you feel about the belief but leave it at that because the faulty wiring will electrocute him if tampered with and not carefully rewired.

I've slept with women. I only have like 14 followers here. If I lose any followers for saying that, it will be the few women because the men would be like, can I watch and join in. I bet most of those Billie followers are women. Men will call out the gay men and women will call out the lesbos. While the straight jackets would love to watch the women and the dykes wanna watch the straight men. Fucked up humans can't even get their biases straight but they're hating on gays and lesbos. Lock their asses up and straightness goes out the window.

Ok..I'll drop this. Thanks for your response.

Not sure what the "why" is referring to, judging pageants or lessening our judgements. There are other call to actions we can choose to make better options for ourselves and making an observation based on our preferences and choosing one thing over another isn't judging. Saying someone is mean, based on their relationship with you isn't judging. Saying you think someone is more beautiful in your eyes than another isn't judging one over the other. What's judging is saying homosexuality is wrong, abortion is wrong, that man cheated on his wife and he's a prick for doing that, is judging. Just saying he cheated on his wife isn't judging, that's just a statement. Pouring on your opinions about his cheating and classing it as wrong or right is judging. Do you see the difference. There is a subtle difference but there is a difference. I judge, so I'm not saying I don't. But I'm trying to reduce the times I do judge and trying to eliminate it all together which might not be possible but I'll try. Calling someone out for making judgements isn't judging. Showing someone why their judgements are hurting them and how it might be or is coming from a limited perspective isn't judging. Calling that girl ugly isn't judging. If a mom hits her child and you say that woman just beat her child isn't judging. When it becomes a judgement is when you say that mom is a bad mom for hitting her child. That's just my take on it.

Thought you would say that. If every species was a cat, there would be no dogs. Diversity is here to stay. There are gay people. Everyone isn't gay. "If" has a different meaning than "is". If your shirt was white it wouldn't be black. If everyone was straight, you would probably argue that to reduce the population, some of us should start to sleep with the same sex. I mean, what is your point? If everyone was gay? Well, everyone isn't. There's a reason why some people enjoy same sex. If the moon was square, it wouldn't be round. If the sun was cold it wouldn't be hot. We could go on and on with these if's that doesn't exist. Homosexuality is Universal. Did you choose to be straight. We're probably going to be extinct at sometime anyway, why not concentrate on ways to improve society instead of worrying about whose sleeping with who. It's all God sleeping with itself anyway and the Universe is having sex with itself. So it doesn't matter. Don't worry, we'll still be having babies to carry on your imaginary legacy.

Yea i didn't think so. My post was meant for you to see, so no problem. But I do love men, not a feminist and I have been with women. But I understand the appeal for straight men to like to do that, because I've been around it. So not saying you have gay tendencies just saying some do. Enjoy what you like, doesn't make a difference to me.

Sorry, my punctuation was off. "If you are Ivankiss" should have been "if you are offended, Ivankiss". I was talking to him on just that part. I should have been more specific.