Princess Arabia

I get what you're saying and youve been saying this for a while now with the same tone. I don't want to get in a debate with you, but here's what I'm saying as far as the Universe part, which is really you, BTW. If you're constantly feeling that way you're only going to keep getting the same results. You probably won't understand this and think its some mumbo jumbo or disagree but how we react to things is very important to what comes our way. The Universe knows nothing about bad feelings, rejections and bad mouthing, it only can read your frequency and vibration, so those feelings that come when you're thinking those thoughts and reacting the way you do, is just going to bring more circumstances to you that matches that. Maybe not the exact situation but similiar. Why? Because any reaction symbolizes a preference. You like this, here's some more. That's why it's imperative to just ignore the things that doesn't serve you and react more to the things that do. I have seen this time and.time again in my experience. Both ways. I try to change my perspective on things that are important to me and try not to put too much energy on what doesn't. Reality is not set in stone and it.is.constantly shifting and expanding and is revolving around you as Consciousness to suit you. You're just.not aware of how it is happening and that it is happening. This is.a brief explanation and I don't expect you to get it here, but why don't you just try to change your perspective about how you see this. Understand that these perceived bad guys that are getting the girls don't see themselves as.bad, they think they're the shit or they don't go around paying attention to other people, they are reacting to what they like and are seeing results because of that. They may be narcissistic but narcissistic men are usually full of themselves.and emit a.kind of energy that says yes this.is what I want and I'll get it because I'm all that. It won't be a pleasant relationship but that doesn't matter in this regard. Work on how you see the situation, see yourself as worthy, stop reacting to women who "reject you", change your beliefs, see women as worthy of you, build yourself up so you can feel worthy, not saying financially, but the way you are, how you act, the things you say to yourself and others etc.etc. Make this a month's project and I guarantee you'll start to meet women who are into you and who would want to date you, but you would have to change your state and how you see yourself first.

That was like 2yrs ago. People change. Plus it was all in joke and fun. Some guys can pull that off innocently, and some can't. Dating advice should be used with discretion. If a white guy told me he was black from the waist down, I would find that funny as hell.

He's just gonna ignore these instructions.

You: Yo bro, what have you been doing wit yourself. Leo: Nothing much bro, just chillin' at home. You: Oh just wondering what you've been up to and doing wit yourself. Leo: Got a minute bro, let me take a break from this goddamn course i've been working on so hard and these long ass video outlines I've been preparing and this stupid geographic thing I've been pursuing to come chit chat wit you. Hold up! You: Still waiting....

That's nothing compared to business men, lawyers and CEO's who love to go on their knees in handcuffs and be told to bark like a dog. Lol

Interesting. That sounds like music to the ears.

You are just resisting these terms and just sticking to your human form. Not saying I'm not, but atleast I understand and get what they're saying. You don't know of people with cancer who have not identified with that cancer. It is possible to still live a life of peace and contentment under.those circumstances because you've recognized.and embodied.your true nature as the one who is cancer free.

Save the morality. Nothing about fully actualized.has to do with sleeping with someone directly for $$. Husband's do it everyday. It's just being done indirectly. If you're gonna go that route about fully actualized then how about deliberate one night stands. Sleeping with.someone you dont care about, sleeping with a girl you just met an hr prior to. I mean the list goes on. Nothing wrong with those things as sex is just an act. You put your own meaning to it.

Next week you'll be a horny dog again. You just probably got some lately. Can't wait to see the post about how horny you are..lol

It's not about you. Don't feel hurt. You're just taking it that way. You say better but that person she chose may end up abusing her while you might not have. Then she ends up being abused and having to deal with trauma and whatever else comes with that. How's that better. Maybe in your eyes but ends up not being in hers. We never know. So him being better is just how you perceived him to be for her.

Don't mind him, he's a mess.

I try to stay away from too drunk. Why? Their dicks typically or sometimes won't get hard and they'll ask for their money back or some of it. That doesn't happen in this community. Then an argument can persue. I mean really drunk.

You got it, and some.

Most women already sees a guy's ego as fragile. But it only worsens with the putting down of women to inflate yours or trying not to feel bad. It doesn't work. It's not about a "normal person just goes, well, .......but more about the best approach in dealing with the circumstances. Direct experiences teaches us more than a coach or guru can in certain situations, but saying what a normal.person would do and blowing it off and going back to the normal way of handling it while complaining about women and seeing it as a rejection won't advance you into becoming better at approaching and dealing with perceived rejections.

Well, many times guys don't reveal their true intentions at first either, so we've developed a sixth sense of detecting certain things using our bullshit detector. It's not about revealing the truth but more about reserving our true feelings because of having to always be on the look out for predators.

That's your P.O.V. Not every escort will sleep with anybody and there have been times when they have chosen not to be with a particular person for various reasons. Street hookers doing it for Crack or drugs might fall under that category of sleeping with anybody but I'm not referring to them.

I understand your point. Mine is more about not having any perspectives about the matter at hand and just to see it for what it is. No stories or attachments or even interpretations. Can you imagine how many different stories and interpretations it will take if men were to evaluate all their perceived rejections. This is why it gets tiring for some, or it becomes a chore or some men get angry at women. If it wasn't so much as a man's role like society put on you all to do, it wouldn't be such a tiring task. So to put less pressure on yourselves, I'm just suggesting to not take it personal nor add a bunch of perceived stories to the mix. Why do you think it's such a wide topic of discussion in the PUA community. Because its a challenge. To make it less challenging, try to stop the.personal analyzing so much. That's my point. Something that isn't required to be done as many times where the risk of getting "rejected" wouldn't need these.kinds of precautionary measures, but because you guys have made.it into a.culture and a role it needs to be done strategically and I'm suggesting to not add unnecessary meaning to the ones who didn't say yes.

How does astrology and moon cycles fall into the same category with menstruation blood as far as on a first approach in respect to having a conversation. Most women tolerate men and the stuff they talk about, so she might not say anything verbally, but she's thinking it.

You know what youre saying isnt true of all pretty women and you know youre just venting. That's why you name the thread "biases and bigotries". It's pent up energy that just needs to go somewhere, and this forum is the perfect place for you to vent. 10yrs from now you'll be married to a pretty attractive woman and in retrospect you'll look back and say to yourself, "I can't believe I was such an asshole".

It's very rare that women use logics when it comes to dating. Especially when they're younger. They usually go by how they feel. Men usually go first by what they see. Then what they think, then how they feel. Even though it's still all about feelings. How they feel by what they see, how they feel by what they think. It's all about feelings. If you can make someone feel good, that's usually a win win. Why do you think women love men who makes them laugh. It feels good to laugh. Laughing is therapy.

Don't agree, but you're entitled to yours. Everything is an appearance, so appearing to be a rejection can be interpreted in any way. All you're saying in your remark are just stories. Stories the mind is concocting. A belief. An assumption. You can feel and believe that if you like, but on a subconscious level we are all wired differently and perceive things differently depending on those beliefs. It's another assumption saying men will become lazy. Some may see it as a way to improve, some may see it as "next!". You're making assumptions. The point of my post is for men to not put stories behind that perceived rejection, take it for what it is and move on. Our minds can play tricks on us and lead us into self-sabotaging ourselves into believe things that isn't true and then we act upon those beliefs in negative ways which can lead us to self-destruct.

You're welcome. Thanks for reading.

You're probably right about that. Just like how people bow to certain things as a sign of respect. So I understand your point. Even extending your hand out to a woman first to shake it is considered a no no in certain cultures. She should initiate it first. But that's kinda outdated. So, depending on your culture, yes. But on a general scale, we need to be aware of how we physically touch people we just met and don't really know on a personal level. I personally don't see anything wrong with a tap on the shoulder, though. I do that with people all the time if I see where they dropped something or to bring their attention to something. There's a reason for common sense and using judgement.

No you can't touch her hair, arms, back and shoulders all you want, nor her face and hips, ALL YOU WANT. He's speaking of someone he just met and had a casual conversation with for the first time. If you're speaking of a gf.or someone you've slept with already, maybe yes, and that still depends on the circumstances. He mentioned her shoulder. That's fine. Any man touches my hair, hips or face that I just met without my concent, I will have a problem with. A tap on the shoulder.is a different story. We have to respect people's boundaries; and until we know who they are and what they're ok with on a.physical level, it's best to stay clear and use proper judgement. Of course, not everyone will take offense but it's not about "all you want".

Seriously?? Overthinking is a bitch. The egoic mind is good at self-sabotaging. Many guys can't even get to hold a nice conversation but you're worried about a touch on the shoulder. Think about it, can't you see how our minds can fucking destroy us if we let it. It tries to keep us safe but ends up limiting us instead. Save your thinking energy for real problems to solve and limit the amount of stories you place behind every experience. Just allow.