Tristan12

So beautiful. I really love this

Alicks (Downtempo)

That's a good point.

Pretty much anything by these artists is good. Not sure about the powerful stuff you want but these artists are gentle and chill. search up their albums and playlists if you like it

I guess that's why so few people awaken. If you are happy with your normal every day life then why would people care about finding a deeper meaning to life? Why go through all the difficulty of awakening? That's why I feel like a lot of the people who awaken go through a lot of suffering in their lives beforehand which is what leads them to it.

@Gianna I don't know. I would have to have direct experience to fully understand what you're talking about and then to see how I feel about it. But it's interesting.

@Gianna But if reality exists as a singularity then technically it is alone, right? If it is not alone then are you saying there is something else? Or are you just saying that viewing reality as 'alone' is a human perception but once you directly experience Oneness and God there is no feeling of aloneness? Even if you don't feel it technically you are still alone if everything is One. It's hard for me to speak about beyond human understandings and perceptions because I don't have direct experience of this.

Technically God is alone because it is everything and so it is singular and there is nothing outside of it. It doesn't mean it feels lonely, it just physically is alone. So I'd say Leo is right when he tells people they are alone but he should make sure they know that he means alone as God and as the Whole, not just alone as a single person, like what solipsism says

Ultimately self-love at a basic human level (not at a super-transcendent spiritual level) comes down to your relationship with your emotions. Your emotions are the core parts of yourself, so if you avoid and dismiss how you feel, you will not have a good relationship with yourself. Think of yourself as the parent and your emotions being a child, and then how you feel about and towards yourself is how your emotions feel about you based on the state they are in (if they are stuck in trauma) and also how you treat them (if you abandon them or be fully with them). Generally the main reason you would have a bad relationship with your emotions to begin with is because they were hurt and separated from you in childhood, and now they are stuck in that pain, and so your emotions are in a shamed and hurt state already (which you feel because they're your emotions) and then when you avoid or run away from your emotions it just makes it worse (you as the parent ignoring the hurt child) and that leads to spirals of shame, self-hate, etc. This is something that affirmations or rationalizing to yourself about won't fix, at least at the root, because this is strictly an emotional matter and about your relationship with your emotions. If you want to genuinely feel true love towards yourself and not have some fake bullshit cover up like what you mentioned in the beginning, this is what you need to focus on. Everything you feel is valid and there for a good reason. If you don't understand why you feel a certain way, it doesn't mean the emotion is invalid, it means you don't understand where it is coming from and you're not seeing the root of it. Therefor when you go against your negative emotions and treat them like an enemy, you are hurting yourself. What I would recommend you to do is start learning about emotions, childhood trauma, etc. so you can get an understanding of where your emotions are coming from and why you feel the way you do. Then you will start to develop empathy and understanding towards yourself, you will be more accepting of your difficult emotions and not push them away so much, and then that hurt child inside of you will feel a bit more loved and you will improve your relationship with yourself. Ultimately to heal completely and genuinely love yourself you will need to heal and process whatever blocked emotions you are holding within you. Without that, parts of you will always be hurt, you will always be stuck in a state of shame to some degree and you won't be able to have a very good relationship with yourself. Also, don't pressure or expect yourself to love in this state. It's not realistic for you right now. You are better off being more accepting and understanding of these hurt emotions you are feeling, not trying to force them to change or be loving and positive. Just doing that alone will improve your ability to love, counter-intuitively. Also, you can check out my youtube channel if you want a place to learn about this stuff. Good luck

Yes, generally people will to hurt others as a twisted way of getting their own needs met, which happens when they have been emotionally wounded, left with unmet needs and denied the love they need. Basically their needs weren't met the first time around so subconsciously they resort to more twisted and distorted ways of trying to make it happen. A person who has had their needs met in a healthy way and who has been given the love they needed throughout their life wouldn't be the type to actively try to hurt people. "Those who are hardest to love need it the most" - Socrates

"You're such a dork." or "They took you to school in the short bus, didn't they?" or just roll your eyes up at her. When a girl a being stupid, sometimes the best thing is just to say nothing and give her "the look". When all her friends come over: "Hey I didn't know the circus was in town!" This one kills me We should start a thread of witty lines and jokes so that people can pick and choose ones that they like to build up a collection of witty lines like you talked about in your how to get laid pt 3 video

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No, you don't have to let "the system" tell you how to help people. I 100%, wholeheartedly agree with this. If you want to help people as much as possible then use the alternative healing techniques that you find to be the most effective. Don't just be another product of the system. The techniques of standard therapy today barely help people compared to what's possible

I struggle with this too. Just like you said, I waste hours every day pacing back and fourth just thinking about things. My mind is obsessed with it and its so hard to get myself to stop. I have a lot of trauma and blocked emotions that I am trying to work through and heal and its extremely obvious to me that this is what is creating this obsessive day dreaming. Its common for the mind to become obsessed with thinking as a way of avoiding the difficult emotions that are trapped within you, because they make your normal present experience so uncomfortable Meditation has not solved this for me either, nor do I expect it to, at least any time soon. I've been meditating an hour a day for 2 years now and my thoughts still race like crazy. I know what I need is to heal my trauma and release my blocked emotions because that is the only thing that will solve this problem at the root

Is this like the faceless men from Game of Thrones? Where they say "a man has done this" rather than "I have done this", because they seek to become nobody

I've noticed my general level of awareness has gone up quite a bit. I find that a lot of the time I get into a meditative state during random day to day things whenever I get really focused, like if I am trying to pay close attention during a conversation, or if i'm working on something really intently. I also find that my memory has improved quite a bit and I learn things faster, probably just because of increased focus and awareness. I also find awakenings and mystical experiences happen a lot more frequently than they used to. I think the results I have gotten so far are decent but I expect them to pick up a lot more later. I went into meditation knowing that the first few years are generally slow and results pick up a lot more later on, and that sort of mentally prepared me to not expect too many results right away and to just focus on building the habit. Now I am entering my third year and I can feel my meditation getting deeper, so I think results should start to pick up more over the next few years. I remember before I started meditating, I heard Leo say that meditation should be the one habit you stick to in your life more than anything, and you should try to never miss a day no matter what, because of how important meditation is and also because meditation compounds on itself so its a bigger deal to miss a day of meditation than it is to miss a workout or something like that. I made a goal for myself to do that and to try my best to never miss a day, and so far I have done it. I started December 28 2019 and I haven't missed a day since. Even during the times I have gone on vacations to stay with friends or something, I still did it. I find that having a habit like that where I never miss a day, no matter what, has helped a lot for my discipline in other areas of life. I've tried to start meditating a few times before, but I would always end up stopping, but this time I was able to stick to it because of the level of commitment and dedication I had to it. I decided that this habit and the development that would come from it was too important for me to miss out on and I wanted to make it happen no matter what, so I committed myself to it 100% and that's what made it stick. That was also an important lesson for me, because I learned that that's how I need to be for developing anything else to my life. I need to be 100% committed to developing the habit no matter what, anything less than that and it probably won't work. By the way, I know Ethan too, we've talked a lot and he's helped me along my journey of meditation so far. That's cool that you follow his channel, his stuff is really great

@Breakingthewall I feel like that would traumatize him lol, it would be way too intense

Hey, good luck with the meditation habit, keep it up! I started meditating 2 years ago. I started with 20 minutes a day, then a month later went to 30 minutes, then 45 minutes, then an hour and i've been doing that every day since. After a few months doing an hour a day, it was easier than when I started with 20 minutes a day, so keep it up. The beginning is the hardest.

@Blackhawk In your situation I would only recommend taking psychedelics if its for healing trauma/emotional wounds, in which case something like a mushroom/MDMA combo would be better than just LSD, but even then, because of how psychedelics have been for you in the past, I would recommend trying to resolve your issues sober first and only taking psychedelics if you think absolutely necessary. Based on what you wrote its obvious that they are very risky for you so it wouldn't be smart for you to take them right now

Over the past few years I have become so passionate about spirituality, psychology and personal development, and at this point that is all I want to pursue and spend my time doing. Because of this I have lost interest in a lot of the other areas of life, including dating and relationships. I try to keep the other areas of my life balanced (I still exercise and take care of my health, I have friendships I maintain, I am working on my career, etc.) but dating and relationships is something that is not a part of my life and I don't have much interest in it becoming one. I can see the appeal in a deep romantic relationship, but still it's not something that I really want. For sex, if it fell in my lap I would take it but i'm not interested in it enough to go out and pursue it. I would rather focus on my work and the things i'm passionate about. The thing I am concerned about is that I have basically no experience in this area and I am wondering if it would be a hinderance to my development if it stayed that way. I'm 21 and I am a virgin and i've never been in a relationship. I know because I am young that I could definitely change my mind in the future, but i've already been this way for a few years and I'm just wondering if it would be a problem if I stayed this way. Even if I ended up having sex and getting into a relationship in the future, that still doesn't mean that i'd necessarily put in the time and effort to develop skills in that area, and i'd probably still be pretty underdeveloped. Do you think that the area of dating and relationships is something that is necessary for everyone to develop skill in whether they are interested in it or not? I'm curious to hear about this from people also deeply into spirituality who would understand why someone wouldn't be interested in this.

@The0Self I love that song. Its sooo nostalgic

@Gianna Can you recommend any books, videos or other resources on doing inner child work?

If you can't find it, just download it as an mp3 file and then you can listen to it