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@electroBeamwell said. actually, most stage green people here are still blind to this. Only a stage yellow person and above would see casual sex and long term partners this way. Like a good ol growth hierarchy. Either one being fine. Stage green is blind here and think that their moralistic stance for equality and mutual consent is absolute, bringing out the pathology you see here. The problem with green is they are still unable to comprehend the perspectives of all the other stages which can make them self righteous in the midst of their good intentions for equality, peace, and love

people here are getting way too moralistic and religious about pickup. Is there some law written in the universe how one should or should not approach a girl? No. If a guy wants he can approach a girl, have sex with her, treat her like a sex object and leave. You have to bite that bullet that people can do whatever the hell they want. And no amount of your whining as a woman will stop men. Its basic biology. The entire reason a guy approaches a girl in the first place is because he finds her physically attractive and wants to fuck her. He doesn't know anything about her personality or anything at least in traditional pickup. You are demonizing men for an inherent biology of attraction they did not choose. for most guys 70-80 percent of why a guy likes you will be physical. Now more evolved and conscious men will generally treat a woman better in a relationship. They will probably care about the girl's feelings more and actually care about relating to the other person as a human being and so on. But demonizing men who view and treat girls as sex objects is like criticizing your own cat for licking its own butt to clean it. Both involve innate survival strategies and mechanisms at play that you may find disgusting, but thats what is. THATS LIFE. Deal with it. This MEN SHOULD DO THIS. MEN SHOULDN'T do this is bullshit. You'll get nowhere with this mentality but dysfunctional relationships and shadow material Its not a question of should or shouldn't. It's a question of what do you want and what best serves that

@Anna1Fair point but in this thread he's just trying to get advice for actualizing his life purpose. Just trying to better himself. Don't you think its still a little much to bully him off the forum in every single thread you see him? In this case, this guy doesn't seem to me like he's deliberately hating or trolling people. He wants to better himself like all of us. People can change you know...especially people doing this kind of work.

@Anna1 Hey, he's trying his best for the level of development he's at. Remember, he is loving from his level of consciousness and his understanding of reality. Evil, sexist, racist people, selfish people etc, are simply people who have very little Self-Love (capital S and L) and we judge and demonize them harshly for it. I am by no means justifying any inappropriate talk of women or any other group of people for that matter. But attacking him won't help him to learn or expand his love for others or reality. Try to think from his perspective. He thinks what he is saying and doing is right. He wouldn't be saying these things if he thought it was evil. Rather than demonizing these kinds of people on the forum, why don't we try to see from their point of view and help them instead? It seems you may have some pain from the past maybe from a guy in your life that mistreated you. This may be why you react so strongly? May be an aspect of your shadow? Just some food for thought

@Radicalyou are lost in mental masturbation. @Inliytened1 is not talking about a philosophy he subscribes to but a direct awareness of ultimate reality itself. Looks like you just need to do more consciousness work. When we are dealing with ultimate reality, we cannot reason our way to ultimate truth.

of course you can master anything. But you gotta be extremely patient and examine your intentions for wanting to master psychedelics if your trying to master psychedelics for the wrong reasons your journey may come to a catastrophic collapse or end If I were you. I'd research psychedelics from hundreds of perspectives like a madman and trip carefully testing different doses of different psychedelics depending upon their intensity and the effect they have on the human system buy books. Leo has videos. Experiment with different things while in the trip.

just be mindful after the practice and abide in that parvasthats state. Do nothing. Just observe

hardcore meditation is actually probably one of the most macho-masculine things out there imo

keep poking around and trying new things. Trying various things people have said here can work nicely as well

what it is and how it works on the physical and metaphysical levels

@electroBeam From the looks of your post. Your girlfriend seems more like a liability rather than someone you actually want to build a future with. As a man, your mission and your life purpose is your 'souls' top priority. This means you will inevitably be unfulfilled if you are denying yourself any opportunity or potential in regards to your life purpose to keep a woman around. The reason you want to detach your happiness is because you fear the suffering that happens when you inevitably have to break up. If your relationship was actually healthy, the relationship between you and your woman would SUPPORT the actualization of your life purpose or career. Think about it, if you are hanging on to her because you fear you won't find another girl whose into self actualization, your relationship will inevitably turn clingy and sour very fast. From my point of view, if this career step is what you feel is right in your heart, you gotta let her go. She would want a relationship where the man is into her and loves her. Not one where she is a liability holding someone back. It sounds very much to me like you want to let go but you are afraid to because you fear the suffering that will come from that. In this situation, just cut the line. I don't know you or your situation completely so I would encourage you to do a lot of thinking and introspecting being radically honest with yourself. Why am I in this relationship? How bad do I want this step in my career? Is it what I REALLY want? Why do I want it? Why am I afraid to let go? Keep asking these why questions I'm sure you can get some profound answers.

it can be extremely tough getting yourself out of a rut. My advice to you is try to quit one bad habit a week however small and replace it with one positive habit that you enjoy. When we are in one of these ruts, it can either feel absolutely hopeless like we don't want to take action at all, or we want out so bad we want to take all the action right now. Both of these are traps. You gotta take the middle route and go slow and steady. I want you to notice your mind telling you things like "I am a lazy fuck." And . "I'm so fucked. Life sucks." Your mind will tell you these things in the worst of times. They aren't actually based on anything true though. Just your system freakin out because it wants to survive. Let your system scream all it wants but go slow and steady. The habit I would try to eliminate first is porn. -masturbation or irresponsible use of sexual energy is the best way to drain all your motivation away. Depending how addicted you are, you might not be able to quit cold turkey. Lets say you jerk off 3 times a day. For one week try to level it down to 2. And then to 1. Or if you jerk off one time a day maybe try to jerk off only 2 days of the week or only 3 days. You set your own pace that works best for you. You don't want to move too slow but also don't bite off more than you can chew. The habits I would encourage you to implement in your daily schedule are exercise and a short meditation session. -the meditation session will increase your discipline capacities and give you some distance from your mind so it doesn't have as much influence over your mental state -Exercising consistently over a long period of time will increase your physical vitality allowing you to feel more energized throughout the day.

imo, if you are going to buy one course and thats all you could ever afford in your entire life, its definitely leos life purpose course. This course builds the entire foundation for not just your life purpose, but all of self actualization work. Definitely worth far more than 250 dollars. It provides you with so much insight into who you are specifically as a unique human being. You will have to see for yourself but its just about the best way you could ever spend your money. STOP READING FORUM POSTS. BUY IT AND GET TO WORK.

You don't need to be married or in a relationship to have a valid opinion about them. Its counterintuitive but some of us single people have the best relationship advice

i dont know what your talking about he seems more joyful than ever

Ego backlash. Can happen whenever you make big change in your life really fast This video might help explain some of what your feeling

its not black and white like your conscious means your rich or not rich or your unconscious means your rich or not rich. You can be a billionaire and be fully enlightened. Its just that when you reach that level of consciousness, you will probably realize the limits of hoarding that much for yourself. Or not. Ultimately your decision. Go and see for yourself. Most agree that Osho had some stage orange shadow material so hes an exception to this general trend

your separation of financial freedom and passion won't work in the long term. What will happen if you get rich with a business you don't like very much is you will realize that it's better than the position you had before but is still shallow and doesn't fulfill you in the end. You'll be still stuck forced to work on a business doing work you are not passionate about even if you are financially free. Passion is your only way out. The goal is not to find a job that allows you to escape work, but finding work that fulfills you even more than not doing work. Work that you naturally want to do. You THINK right now: "Oh if I could just not be a 'wagecuck' and get some money I would be good". Don't listen to that voice. Its bullshitting you. Once you climb that mountain your just going to want more. So is the solution not climb the mountain at all? Not at all. Just climb the mountain with a smarter vision for the long term. You should also focus on doing work you love and your love for it rather than escaping work you hate. If you focus too much on escaping the work you hate you will have a hard time actually finding work you love.

Study the model and do your own assessments. No one can do this work for you but you. also your posts are so neutral any stage could have written them

Reading sucks in the beginning. Then its alright. Then it becomes an amazing flow experience of exploring life. Just keep showing up and putting in the hours. Also If you have Leo's book list he has a fantastic book on speed reading that helped me a lot

Hey Yannik. I'm no expert on eating disorders (which is what I think you may have) but I found this site that has some information on various ones that you may or may not have https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/eating-disorders/symptoms-causes/syc-20353603 I would reccomend researching the bejesus out of and pinning down your exact disorder in all its detail and recovery methods. Buy books on it, research websites, seek medical help, whatever it takes. Also agree with @Bill W, intermittent fasting is a fantastic diet strategy for not just weight loss, but having a lot more energy, focus and discipline. I do 12pm to 8pm and skip breakfast which works fantastic for me. it turns out millions of Americans have food disorders so this is not uncommon at all. The good news is, is since the problem is so abundant, solutions and support for these problems must also be abundant. You just gotta find the right sources.

@UnjigorjigorGreat point about the whole "You are God" shtick. I actually went through a dysfuntion where my ego thought it was God and denied the existence of other sentient beings. Thus, my ego projected itself onto everyone else showing up in reality is "everyone is my ego" which looks the same as "everyone is God". I think this is why the great mystics mostly never talk about you being God because it can cause all sorts of issues. Better to work with the divine in 2nd or 3rd person realities before owning the 1st person realization for oneself. All are important, but I think people should be aware of dysfunctions like these that can occur.

Yeah the mind is rough on us when we try to change any aspect of our life. My best strategy for change I have found is definitely patient, non-perfectionist, slow and steady change with positive motivation. Most people only fuel themselves with negative motivation and thus, only do the things that if they don't do, they will be deeply punished for. I'll give you a concrete example of what I would do. Say I want to implement a meditation habit. And I eventually want to meditate for 1 hour every single day. I'm not gonna be able to just start meditating 1 hour a day if my nervous system and body is used to no meditation per day. I would first start with something small and doable like 20 minutes a day. I would try to hit every day. But if I miss like a day or two, no worries. Then the following week if you feel ready, try to miss only one day or no days. Then you slowly work your way up toward permanent change. The key here is to not put so much resistance and fear of backsliding. When you hold that fear very strongly, your ego feels a strong need to control the situation. This creates a lot of internal resistance making it very difficult for you to actually make long lasting change. -Think about all the positive benefits and what the habit would do to change your life in the long term and let that fuel you. If the habit is truly worth it to you, you shouldn't need to boss yourself around and say "I HAVE TO DO THIS". This is the best strat thats worked in my experience. Just patient, gradual change, with the intention of showing up and trying my best, even if its not perfect. Say I backslide. Ok I'll make adjustments and give it another shot next week.

Hey Alissa, if your interested Leo's videos: Self deception 1-3 and Self Bias are great at explaining this particular phenomenon We are biased towards ourselves and use all these shady self defense mechanisms because we have big fat egos and we are engaged in surviving them. In order to survive, we need to justify all of our survival strategies are moral and for good, otherwise we couldn't be here. The ego doesn't care about Truth. It only cares about survival no matter what. Damn the costs. If you want to transcend these mechanisms for good, awakening is necessary

My Personal Favorites. Enjoy -reading is a fantastic one: don't just read something that will improve your life as well. Those are good. But also read books that you are just curious about the subject for the sake of learning about that thing. -spending time with quality people -contemplating/ reflecting on life -Try to explore life a bit and find something your passionate about like writing, or photography, or art, or music etc. Once you find that one thing you really want to sink hours into and see value and joy in, you'll naturally gravitate toward that -doing nothing can actually be a profound experience sometimes. Especially if your lifestyle is fast-paced and involves a lot of stimulation on the nervous system like eating lots of different types of foods, electronics, multitasking, using the mind a lot etc. -meditation is a fantastic habit -Think about doing something just for the sake of doing it rather than having to get something out of the experience. Like if your gonna read, don't just read for what the content in the book can do to improve your life. Read for the sake of the joy of reading! Of course, in the beginning, reading might seem difficult for the mind to adjust to and be a pain in the ass. But as you read more and more, it becomes a flow experience more effortlessly. But reading is just one example. -Reflecting on past memories and how far you've come on your journey can be inspiring and fun. I played this pc game called starcraft 2 at a really high level for a few years. Long story short I got really passionate about the game and involved in the community. Despite it being just a video game, I learned profound life lessons about myself and the world. I overcame challenges and broke through many of my inner demons in the effort to climb the ladder rankings in that game. After I had outgrown the game and decided it was time to move on, I made a gigantic montage of all my favorite moments in my favorite pro matches with my favorite music in the background. I'm really into video editing so making the thing was just such an expression of pure love and joy and creativity for me. now whenever I watch the video again, every time I smile and laugh at all of those good times. Often times I even tear up in joy.