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@Kksd74628 Sounds good. I think these are all important. However, I do see trauma recovery as missing from the conversation. A lot of men have trauma, and don't address it - many successful ones too. Men cannot become fulfilled without integrating stage green effectively, which is where the majority of trauma recovery must come from. If someone outlines a path to fulfilment for men that does not include stage green integration, then that path simply will not work.

@Kksd74628 I pretty much agree. What do you believe men need to do to cultivate that mindset?

@Kksd74628 How do you define stronger?

@Kksd74628 I agree somewhat. However, I think the main issues for a lot of men is that they think orange/ red things will bring them fulfilment and/or they engage in unhealthy versions of orange/ red.

For me: Leo Gura Michael Sartain Derek Scott Richard Schwartz Bryan Stephenson David Tian Patrick Teahan Dale Carnegie Denzel Washington ----------------- There are some others that do influence me, but I understand a lot of it is unhealthy and mostly wish it didn't influence me as it does.

@Bobby_2021 Disagree. That just sounds mostly like stage orange and red role models to me. Edit: If you were just stating your personal preference, rather than making an objective claim, then can ignore this post of mine

Speaking to the original message, I think he had numerous instances of misogynist behaviours. I think its good that he's been cancelled. I've heard the argument that someone else will fill the vacuum. However, I disagree with that. If youtube approach tate-like figure's cancellations in the way they've approached the pickup cancellations, then the vacuum won't be filled by the same level of misogyny. That would mean needing to go after groups like fresh 'n' fit and sneako too.

You want both partners to have a secure attachment style, imo

Almost agree. Everyone is doing what they think is best for them imo

@PixelMonk Dude not cool at all to talk to people that way. You can disagree, but keep it from being abusive.

@Consilience You seen what's been going on with maps.org? Its really promising!

@at_anchor No idea unfortunately

@Someone here Here's an overview: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_7_Habits_of_Highly_Effective_People You're welcome btw

Shame you're not coming to the UK. But here are some things from me. I don't have any tips other than I advice checking out travel blogs that individuals make about their travels around Europe. If you like their trips, you can copy them. Also, you can contact them, and I reckon quite a few of them would be happy to answer questions, i.e. best places to go, hidden away places. ------------------------------------------ On another note, when doing napoleon type things, at least once, you have to stop, put some headphones on, and play the following piece of music: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Finally, I'd recommend you wear suitable clothing to avoid pickpockets. I.e. put essentials in zipped trouser pockets. Hope it helps bro!

Hi all, Would highly recommend this book for those seeking to overcome trauma. Seem to me like quite a few folks who struggle with the unblending aspects of traditional IFS find value in the teaching of Fisher. Also, seems to me that quite a few of these guys, including myself, are rather dissociative. So, might be worth checking this book out if you're struggling with IFS whilst dealing with dissociation. Btw, although I think the whole book is valuable, the exercises for parts work included in the appendix of the book are particularly great. I'd recommend checking them out as soon as you get the book, if you do choose to get it. Cheers. (P.S. Fisher also has a workbook called, 'Transforming The Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists'. I haven't finished most of it. However, it seems like a really useful step by step guide for learning her approach to parts work.)

'The four Agreements' By Don Ruiz, and 'Seven Habits of highly effective people' by Covey, could be useful books for a general secular blue framework. The most blue integration I've personally felt was when I followed covey's advice of, 'Make small commitments and keep them'. I intend to return to that mindset one day. Regarding discipline, 'Atomic Habits', and 'Deep work' are useful for discipline imo. Military dudes can be useful sources for discipline and examples of integrity. I'd be wary of toxic masculine elements of their teaching though. Hope that helps.

@something_else I think we have a difference of opinions

You can always blame people for reacting badly, imo. People can tell you to leave. Or that they don't like you. That's cool. But if they start yelling at you that they don't give a fuck, that is abusive behaviour, and that's on them.

Dude you're good. Having people yell at you, or tell you to fuck off is abusive behaviour from them, and that shit is on them. You aren't doing anything abusive by approaching or talking to someone or attempting to stand up for yourself. I'd read, 'When I say no I feel guilty' so that you understand your assertive rights. Those police officers were acting weird too, unless something about your vibe struck them as a bit off. With the officer's, in future, you can try to do 'seek first to understand then be understood', i.e. repeat back exactly what they said to you in different words. Then I'd leave because you could be dealing with an erratic police officer.

Lol sounds fun for a while. But feel it would be a very limited life nonetheless. So, I'll pass.

@Someone here Ye dude I'm with Raze. I'd get into Internal Family Systems therapy. Your choice ofc but think it could help you. Btw if the unblending stuff is hard for you, and/or you're pretty dissociative, Janina Fisher's take on the IFS model is useful too, imo. Good luck

@Someone here Okay, gotcha. I believe every description made and that ever will be made is entirely filtered by human biases and emotional state. Regarding your example, I'd say there are numerous subjective claims that are involved with that process. Any means of measurement is something subjectively created by man.

@Tyler Robinson Respectfully, I recall you previously saying you have BPD. To my understanding, this sounds very much like a BPD emotional reaction. I'd recommend being wary of looking to the spiritual path for answers at this point in time.

@Thought Art Dafuq, what point in the vid did he say that? (I havent watched the newest vid)

I think the two go hand in hand. People tend to rationalise what they desire to be okay. That said, I don't think its widely considered to be okay. Most people seem to condemn it.