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Hey @Fuku , I notice that you said that maybe this is just a break. And, that maybe your energy and will are pretty much dead at your age. Further, that if you had to make something, it should've been earlier. It sounds to me like you are feeling dejected because your need for hope regarding your future is not being met. Am I correct?

Hi all. So, I'm very persuaded by the post-structuralist point of view. Leo's video on the matter seems to show Leo is also of the same opinion, and many other users on here seem to be the same. To my understanding, one of the implications of such a point of view is the rejection of all grand narratives. To my mind, it follows that things like spiral dynamics, stages of ego development, attempts at political analysis made in terms of ego, or really any attempt at analysis of situations must too be rejected. For, to my mind, they are modernist models, attempting to portray some grand narrative. However, on the forum we do not reject these things, and have long discussions about them, including Leo. I find value in many of these analytical models. However, I can't personally reconcile how one could see them an anything but aritrary if one is also committed to a postmodern position. I welcome perspectives on this. Thanks in advance.

Maybe what you say is true. I presume you have the view of Sweden that you do because you reasoned your way to that view based on evidence. I'm trying to understand what evidence it was that led you to your view. If there is sufficient, reliable evidence, then I will agree with your view. I do not live in Sweden so I cannot get evidence with my own experiences there. Unless I move to Sweden, which I don't want to do atm. Hence, why I would like to see the evidence that backs up your views. For example, the source of your statistics. Would you not agree that it is important to make sure that the source of someone's statistics are reliable? Or that someone's statistical claims are accurate?

Do you have a source for that statistic? That specific crime sounds horrific to me.

@Eph75 I'm just looking to understand your argument atm. If you tell me what evidence you base your view on, I will better understand your argument.

@Epikur Which part of the article would you like me to look at?

And what's your evidence for that?

What evidence do you have for mass immigration being the reason sweden isn''t a fun place to be right now?

@D2sage Lool you have a link to an article that talks about the male tax?

@spiritual memes You're welcome dude. And, I understand re finances.

@spiritual memes If you are having issues with extreme parts blending, I'd consider using the technique of observing your thoughts and emotions. And, whilst doing so, internally voicing, 'They are thinking X', and, 'they are (or seemingly are) feeling Y'. I find it helps me unblend more effectively. Also, I know some prominent IFS therapists recommend working with an IFS therapist when it comes to exiled parts. Anyhow, hope things are well :)

None that I'm aware of lmao

I get the confusion. However, its not really a constitutional monarchy in substance. The head of state in the UK (formerly the queen) has no substantial powers when it comes to effecting legislation. When legislation is passed in the house of parliament (and receives assent from the house of lords - though this isn't necessary), then the final stage is for the head of state to sign off on the legislation. However, this is just a tradition. If the head of state ever decided not to sign off on the legislation, then, to my mind, there would be a constitutional crisis, and the whole system would likely be reformed.

Imo, ye boxing has some really useful aspects to it. I myself competed various times when I was younger. If taken seriously, I don't think any other sport gives you the same level of fighting mindset. However, instantly I'm getting a red flag from your current gym. You say you haven't boxed for a while and go to one session at this new gym where you get punched a lot in the head. And that the other lads don't hold back. That doesn't sound like smart or healthy training to me. These other guys should be holding back. Respectable gyms will instruct their boxers to work with newbies. I've been to a fair few clubs and have consistently found that clubs that are run in the way I think yours are are both unsafe and counter-intuitively not very good at teaching boxing. I've seen a dude end up with a brain bleed in the ICU from one of them. So, I'd advise checking out another gym. Btw, imo, if you wanna get really good at boxing, put a lot of deliberate practice into learning technique and ringcraft. Precision striking has some gold videos.

I get it to some extent. However, I don't mind as much as I used to nowadays re arrogant behaviour, as I understand you cannot be fulfilled when operating from a paradigm where you believe you are intrinsically better than other people. You can't fully connect with people either. People are punished by their very own arrogance

I used to do this sometimes too. Especially at work lol. To my mind, humming has similar effects to Peter Levine's voo breath. Essentially, helping you regulate. https://flourishcounseling.co/trauma-care-voo-breathing/

I won't say where exactly. But I'd say where I am right now. I'm perceiving that I'm in the best place with regards to my future than I think I've ever been. And, that translates into my current place being my favourite place to live! I think its because when you have more of your personal needs met, you can appreciate things more.

Interesting perspective dude. I think there's some great aspects to what you are saying. By following your idea, you could theoretically be constantly growing as a person. However, I'd be cognisant about whether you would be able to live an integrated life that way, in the long term. I don't think you could. I think its important to allow some time to relax. Not to say you shouldn't have standards for how you relax. I.e. I don't think a brazzer's premium subscription would be the healthiest thing ;). However, having time where you place no expectations on yourself, and you can do whatever you like is a lovely part of life, imo. For one person that could be socialising with close friends, who you are just enjoying spending time with and goofing around. Or another watching some old movies they like. But anyhow man I rate the determination to grow!

Firstly, I'd recommend the above video. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I'd also consider looking into some of the following: - Depth psychotherapy - Working towards mastering something you find somewhat meaningful - Life fundamentals, i.e. sleep, diet, exercise - Meditation To my mind, nihilism way well be accurate. However, it only is something you focus profoundly on and in a negative way because of the way your psyche has adapted to existence, imo. For example, it may be that you are unconsciously fearful of having certain expectations of yours not come to fruition, so a part of your psyche depresses you through regularly focusing on nihilism. By depressing you constantly it means you are apatethic towards whether certain things happen in your life. The intention of that depressing part being to prevent you from the pain of loss of hope. ^ That's just an example. But my point is that I think its important to establish the root cause of your current state of being. None of this is your fault btw, imo. However, to my mind, it is your responsibility to take steps to overcome your current predicament. I think posting in this forum, as you have done, is a really great step. I respect it a lot actually. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Finally, I've always liked this video, on these matters: I think the vid could be of value to you. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Anyhow, I hope my perspective is useful to you. I wish you well :).

If other folks were curious about this, I found this video of Leo's rather helpful on the issue:

@MarkKol Tricky one. To my mind, its not unhealthy to make a tonne of money. Its unhealthy if its the sole reason why you are doing what you are doing. Though I could see issues with a prolonged money only project. I guess it would depend how long it took you. However, I'm very much speaking as a lay person on this issue. Cal Newport might be a useful resource for you, i.e. So good they can't ignore you.

I think most of pickup is self help on steroids for orange.

Invest most of it in a stable asset. Then work out how to live off it sustainably

I'd read atomic habits, and implement that style of thought. If you still don't get results, do depth psychotherapy and check for neurodivergence.

@spiritual memes I mostly agree, yes