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@bensenbiz To my understanding, Shinzen would class focusing on breath to be an outer sensory experience. He classes physical body sensations, which would include breath sensations, as being an outer feel sensory experience. Whilst the inner feel sensory experience would be your emotional sensations.

@Yimpa You're welcome mate

@Yimpa Hiya, yep. I would recommend trying out Shinzen Young's 'note gone' technique on the painful sensory experiences "Whenever all or part of a sensory experience suddenly disappears note that. By note I mean clearly acknowledge when you detect the transition point between all of it being present and at least some of it no longer being present. If you wish, you can use a mental label to help you note. The label for any such sudden ending is “Gone.” If nothing vanishes for a while, that’s fine. Just hang out until something does. If you start worrying about the fact that nothing is ending, note each time that thought ends. That’s a “Gone.” If you have a lot of mental sentences, you’ll have a lot of mental periods – full stops, Gones!" - Shinzen Young Here is the full article https://www.shinzen.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/art_PowerofGone.pdf I've also attached Shinzen's dynamic labelling system. You can play around with labelling 'gone' using different intensities of labels, and see what helps you be with the painful sensations with most ease in the moment.

@bensenbiz Hey mate, my understanding is that when Shinzen Young talks about strengthening the ego meditations he is talking about the effects of doing certain types of meditations. Essentially if you want to strengthen the ego you want to do meditations which are mostly centred around placing your awareness on inner sensory experiences, i.e. thought, rather than outer sensory experiences, i.e. sound, sight. The recommendation I made to you before are meditations which allow for you to have more awareness of your inner sensory experiences. Here is an intro Shinzen young's meditation system too. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=StBTuX0tqU8&pp=ygUZbm90aW5nIG1lZGl0YXRpb24gc2hpbnplbg%3D%3D

@bensenbiz https://www.reddit.com/r/nondirective/ I'd recommend trying out some of the meditations listed in the table on this subreddit. (just scroll down the linked page a bit and you'll find the table on the right side of the page)

@StarStruck I'd distinguish between love and sexual attraction

@Spiritual Warrior Yoga nidra, non-directive meditation, sensate focusing meditation, Trauma release exercises, Gestalt/ IFS, stretching. These are some practices that come to mind for me.

@Yimpa Hahaha same

@bensenbiz I think it depends on what type of meditation you are doing, and also you might be working through some shadow stuff, hence the judgmentalness/ sensitivity. These vids might be of value to you: https://youtu.be/3gv05sLZQBU

@StarStruck Maybe try some independent films i.e. via mubi. Perhaps you'll come across a more niche director you really like

Hardly the most nuanced view that its 'BS' lmao. Edit: I read the rest of the article. I think she makes some valid points. What I think she is saying at least in part is that the socio-historical context of the developers of the model means that they make certain distinctions. However, if they were from a different socio-historical context they would make different distinctions. And further, in part, development simply occurs differently in different socio-historical contexts anyhow. So, any stage model could only really ever apply to one socio-historical context. And, there are so many different socio-historical contexts even within members of one school class, i.e. poor kid v rich kid, that any stage theory is doomed to to be misleading and unuseful. I sort of struggled to understand what she was arguing but I think that is part of it. But I think you could rebut that by arguing that you just need studies in various different cultures, and then do a meta analysis of studies, and draw patterns. Then also make sure the research methodology isn't biased too. But to conclude that it makes stage theories 'bs' is not a very helpful conclusion I think. But hey its twitter i guess.

@StarStruck Organize a press conference, and make it clear that no one should ever be given this sort of power. And call for legislation restricting this ever happening again. Then immediately resign.

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@StarStruck To me, it appears the mode of introduction is a core boundary of taking part in the group. So, I think refusing to use that mode of introduction, whilst still trying to take part would be wrong of you. I think you could benefit from taking more ownership over your opinions. For example, stating 'I think X is the case' or 'I disagree with Y', rather than 'X is the case' or 'Y is wrong'. And, I think it would be plainly inflammatory to tell them they are full of shit or something akin. I don't see anything wrong with voicing that you disagree with the way the treatment is structured and that you disagree with some of their core beliefs around healing from addictions. I'd just do so in a civil, non-inflammatory manner.

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@StarStruck How do you see chess as collaborative?

@StarStruck Yeah I think its a great analogy. Though maybe a critique could be that it takes a competitive attitude to life instead of a collaborative one. So sometimes I prefer to see life as a puzzle instead. Maybe in masculine activities the chess analogy is preferable, and feminine activities the puzzle analogy is preferable.

Lilya 4-ever Come and see (1985) ^ Not futuristic films but contain very desperate stories imo

Actually having read @Swarnim's comment, I sort of disagree with my view expressed in my above comment. I think someone can have really good theory but struggle with implementation in their life. For example, they might understand the importance of changing their attachment style to secure, but struggle with how to go and about making sure it happens. So, I think there is something lost by only taking advice from people who you want to be like.

@StarStruck Yeah I like the idea of only taking advice from people who you want to be like. Thanks for reminding me of that, I'd sort of forgot that nugget of wisdom. And re psychotherapists, day by day my irritation and despair at the state of many of the practioners grows. Imo, its so irresponsible to be taking on clients when you haven't dealt with your own shit. Just the other day I was hearing a story of people becoming psychotherapists whilst they still met the diagnosis for CPTSD. It just baffles me how irresponsible and misguided that decision is.

http://www.natural-stress-relief.com/ Its a mantra based non-directive meditation technique.

@Raze I disagree that its ridiculous. The aim isn't for the email alone to cause university to take action. Its that the university will be more urgent in the action they take if there are reports by girls at the relevant campus.

@Ampresus You're welcome mate. Also, If those meditation techniques don't work out for you, feel free to message or tag me. If so, I'll send you some other meditation options as well.

@HadhADHKJASD2 Hey dude, Sorry to hear you are going through all this. Sounds like you have an extensive trauma history. My recommendation would be that you focus your self-improvement efforts on deeper inner work. My guess would be that a lot of your issues are because of unresolved trauma you have experienced in the past. I think the following playlist and channel, in general, could be a useful place to explore. https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL1tOAzOD0sB0RTbXVBXeiYm48EIToqR_F

@Harman I'd say work on taking a growth mindset. Everything you do towards a goal is an experiment. There is no winning or failure, only feedback. Its feedback and reflecting on the feedback that is really valuable. I'd recommend focusing on valuing getting feedback over achieving a positive result. This is called being process-oriented rather than results oriented. For example, if your goal was to practice your tennis swing you could approach it in a process-oriented or results-oriented manner. The results-oriented manner would be that you set the goal of achieving a certain result in the world, i.e. hitting the ball over the net 60% of your shots. You therefore reward yourself when you get the specific certain result. The process-oriented manner would be that you set the goal of just taking certain actions, i.e. hitting 20 shots, and each 5 shots reflecting on one effective thing you think you are doing, and one ineffective thing. You therefore reward yourself when you take a certain action. The results-oriented approach is destined to be less sustainable than the process-oriented approach in my opinion. Because you will have lots of emotional ups and downs because whether you hit your goal will change day to day. And you will have a tougher time dealing with frustration. The key issue is that you don't have total control over whether you hit your goal. So your metric of success is something you don't have full control over. With the process-oriented approach, you have total control over whether you meet your goal each time. You will have less emotional ups and downs because your goal is just to practice effectively, rather than to achieve a certain external outcome. And, all you need to do is practice effectively and results will come. So, in my recommendation, the key is to focus your goals on the process. ------- A book recommendation is 'Atomic habits' by James Clear.