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Sexuality is mostly genetically inherent, you don't really get a choice about what "turns you on" so to say. The best thing is to find a healthy, authentic way to express it, and to accept what feels good. Not in the way of pleasure, but in deeper.

It's fine. Cults are warm and comfortable, like a heated blanket wrapped around your psyche.

It has to do with how many other guys you're competing with. On Tinder a decent looking girl might have anywhere between 25-100 guys messaging her within a month, that she will probably be exhausted looking through so she'll be very selective. While within that month maybe only 5-10 guys (not even), will approach her in real life with intent. So she can't be nearly as choosy. It all depends on what you want to invest in. Tinder and all that is cheap, convenient, and takes little energy because you're just doing it from your phone. That's the benefit of it, but it comes at the cost of dates being harder to secure.

You don't accept yourself, yourself. So you are looking and feel needy for a relationship, because you want them to provide that acceptance for you. However this is something you can have organically and internally, even if it doesn't feel like it now. One way you tackle this is when you have any those bad thoughts of "I'm not good enough. I hate myself. I don't have enough X. I'm not Y." Don't emotionally react to them. Simply notice them and watch them pass in you. Don't have thoughts about the thoughts, don't feel bad that they are there. Let them go through you and leave, because they are only temporary. They aren't what truly makes you feel good deep down.... so as you show your brain you don't really care about them (and aren't feeding them with reactions) they will start to show up less and become less impactful. You'll start to have a healthier shift. Really try this @SamC it will work for you! Also good news is you don't need to be perfect or have overflowing confidence to pursue someone! Take a second to realize they aren't perfect either. They are another person just like you so there is no reason to hold them to some divine standard where any possible judgment they make is righteous and true. That's what you're probably fearing. It's totally worth pursuing a relationship though, even if you're not exactly who you want to be. Chances are the relationship will end too, and that's ok because most do. You either stay together for life or you don't, there is no in-between. It's still very valuable though for all the good times to be had, and they will teach you a tremendous amount about yourself that you might not see on your own. You grow from it, which is all any of us do. Progress not perfection. Nobody is perfect for everyone, but everyone is perfect for someone.

lol not a conspiracy at all in the slightest. It's obvious knowledge that global mega-companies, especially oil companies, have a tremendous amount of sway of what goes on in the world, and influence much of international politics and geo-politics. Think East India Trading Company from a few hundred years ago, except now there are hundreds of those all fighting each other. $$$ is a hellofa drug.

You were honest and up front. Don't need to apologize to them or yourself about it, especially since they asked. They had their reaction, that's that. It's not on you friend. Find grounding in yourself even if you don't have the kinds of people around you that you want to talk to. You are punishing yourself because of the way the external world is (physically distant friends, Covid), does that seem fair to yourself? No! What you need to do is focus, contemplate, and meditate on the solitude. Sit with it and feel it, try to really understand why it's making you feel sad and uncomfortable. Question it, does it have to? Are you able to be happy on your own? You'll surprise yourself @Lyubov

I certainly agree, I don't deny any of it. I'll just add two things; - You have to admit peoples reaction to him is contributing to the problem as well way more than we're willing to admit, we can't just clap the dust off our hands and take no responsibility. The culture war was started before he took office and will remain after he loses this election. Cops were kneeling on the necks of minorities long before the age of Trumpism. - Every president or leader causes harm to one group of peoples or another. They can't please everyone, their agenda by definition will benefit one group at the expense of another, whether that expense is actual or just perceived. He is just especially egregious about it so he garners more attention. It's more stimulating to take about him than say the fact Obama was perceived as a "decent guy" by most people but a middle eastern country was bombed every 9 seconds under his presidency. Even more under Trump I'm guessing but once again, perception.

Well most of all just by being himself he has made most people lose their minds, to the point where sane regular people are at each others throats and don't even realize it. I don't know why people get so worked up about him particularly after this long, he's so predictably egotistical it's silly. This was obvious if you were at all familiar with him before he was president. Of course he's also tremendously unqualified to be in office, which has led to many problems. However it's not like being president is some dictatorship (though I'm sure he'd love that), they only have so much control. Things in America still happen according to the powers that be and those that steer the money cult that it is, regardless of Trumps sway. He has just kind of exacerbated things and drawn out the worst of the USA's wounds, that were there before him and will be after, it's not like he's the culprit. People want a break from this fiasco anyways, they want to go back to regular old corrupt lifetime corporate politician like Joe Biden.

lol. Never gonna happen. Women aren't socially conditioned nor encouraged to have the confidence for it, also it's never been "their job" in the mating game. They will (the majority) refuse to take on the responsibility. Why would they when there are line-ups of thirsty men for them to sit there and pick from? I mean I'm all for a culture shift in this regard, it's just highly unrealistic. Maybe things will start to change with MGTOW picking up steam, we'll see.

Ghosting is absolutely atrocious manners, but sadly it's been normalized by our eroding social culture via technology. Always muster the maturity to say something at the very least. The only time ghosting is ever acceptable is if the person said or did something terrible (racism, cheating, etc.). Also ghosting is acceptable if that person is stalking/threatening you, or approaching close to those things. Otherwise, yeah - Just be an adult and say "Thanks for everything, but I don't want to talk anymore because XYZ."

Crying is great, just make sure it's emotionally productive. I don't mean in a mechanical way, I just can't think of a better word. Let it come up authentically and surrender yourself to the process as it flows through you. Really "feel" it. Then let it go. If it keeps coming up over and over again, about the same subject or thing that is making you sad, then it's a sign you aren't truly letting it move through you. You're holding on and attached to some particular thought or feeling because you refuse to accept some truth for one reason or another, it's too painful. Crying is a way for your body, mind, and spirit to expel and heal. You can't be crying forever about the same thing, that means you aren't letting it do it's job. Also a tip for you that I find helpful for myself; Shortly after crying don't dwell on it and sit in the emotions too long, do something fun to cheer yourself up and look forward to! Think of the crying experience as water that passes through you and gets dirty from teaching you lessons and washing out the bad stuff at the same time, what's left over after the process is gross contaminated water, does it make sense to sit in that? No lol! Empty that bowl by doing something positive. If it comes up again that's ok, but you need to try and let it go and empty that bowl each time anyways. Not out of fear but out of acceptance.

Yep. It sucks! I went through something similar recently but kind of lucked out in the end. My girlfriend and I broke up in late August, we talked and both cried for a few hours. After some time towards the afternoon I went to go clean her car (wanted to do it anyways) to do something productive and distract myself, on the way to the car wash someone's dog got off it's leash and ran out in front of me.... SMACK......... dead. Nothing I could do. I grieved with the family and apologized, but didn't inspect the front of the car or change numbers because I was too distraught after what happened and earlier as well. Seemed like it would have been a dick thing to do on the spot anyways after seeing their pet take it's last breathes in front of me. I returned with flowers and told them yea there is damage to the front bumper and hood, lets exchange numbers and insurance. It was an "act of God" accident so their home owners insurance and my ex's auto insurance covered 90% of it. I had to shell out the last 10% which my ex is slowly paying me back for because I wasn't at fault. The thing is it could have gone much more south and I would have been fucked. Maybe her car insurance wouldn't help out, or the family could have lied about how the dog got onto the road etc. And I would have been left with a $2500 bill. The point is even in these kind of circumstances do you best to be kind and courteous first, but ALWAYS cover your ass. Take pictures, call the police, exchange information. Do not feel bad for doing it no matter how awkward it feels. As long as you are also being polite on top of being responsible you don't have to apologize for anything. You can only control yourself ultimately, just do your part to try to get things worked out but never assume the good nature of other people in situations like this. You learned a lesson, an expensive one at that, but you're much wiser for the future now.

That sounds like trolling by him but I didn't see him say it so I have no idea. Just making a point to OP that IQ isn't everything.

Don't mistake or conflate IQ for Emotional Intelligence, Awareness, and Consciousness. Trump may very well have an IQ over 120, but is that much to be desired if he's radically insecure, exploitative, and corrosive to everything around him? Nobody wants to be around a genius who is also a giant douche canoe.

The fact that everyone capitulates so easily and doesn't hold their ground for who they truly want to vote for is EXACTLY why there is a limited two party system. God North Americans are dumb.

I've experienced the exact same thing. The problem is you get caught up in the magnitude and the emotions of them, and take them as truth. What helps it to sit with the thoughts, detach from them for a second and examine how absurd they are. Probe at them with questions like; Could this even happen to them? How likely is it? Is it in my control anyways? What does worrying accomplish? Is it serving me to use energy thinking about it? Does it feel good to sit with this thought? Or will it feel better to let it go? Make it a habit to question and poke at the logic of them. As you get better at this you'll notice how easily they evaporate and how they are just nonsense. Your thoughts =/= Reality

That depends on you. I'd say it's detrimental because it's a massive commitment of time, energy, and resources going towards something that is NOT your life purpose. But there is enough time in life for both after all, most people seem to be pulling it off. You also have to consider do you really need 100% of your time and resources going towards your life purpose? Do you have crazy aspirations and a desire to build an empire of some kind? Kids and family will definitely slow you down from that, but there are awesome benefits too.

Stick them with the pointy end. It's better than nothing, and you likely wouldn't have to use it anyways as they would probably bugger off upon you drawing it. Most if not ALL predators like that are cowards, they want easy weak prey and run when encountering resistance. If shit is going to hit the fan how far are you willing to go to defend yourself? Would you rather get raped and possibly beaten/killed? Or take your chances and make them bleed? It's up to you. If you are in dangerous parts like that it might be wise, or just be more careful about where you go. You should never open carry a knife. It's not like carrying a gun in Texas. You could wear it on a strap behind your back on your belt, easy access and hard to notice if you have a large shirt or jacket over it.

I finish all your videos like squeezing every drop of juice out of an orange. Including the few minutes after you say, "Alright, I'm done here.." Can I has cookie? Anyways I'm not sure why people get so upset over conspiracy theories, it's held as such a deep attachment that people get defensive over, but it's not like it really matters if it's proven right or wrong because people don't ever do anything about it anyways. It's more of an opinion about what's going on in the world, not an intertwined identity. At least generally. It's shouldn't be like a religious fundamentalist who obviously should be expected to get upset when challenged, because it's more fundamental to their identity as a self. idk people are just weird man.

It's just the way it is, not much to do about it but accept it and get to work. Women hold the power of being the gatekeepers of sex because of supply and demand. Until men stop being so thirsty and needy for sex from women, nothing is going to change about the dating/relationship game. Little do men know there are much greater pleasures in life to be had than getting your dick wet.

Seems accurate. Just sharing for enjoyment.

Terrible luck man, glad you were quicker than them. Report that incident to the police and tell them exactly where they were hanging out, it's probably a regular spot for them because it's narrow and a dead end. Definitely want to prevent this happening to someone who can't defend themselves or escape. Also make sure to pack a knife from now on if you're going to explore in unknown places like that. When shit really does hit the fan - better them, than you.

Hah, yes! But entertainment over complexity, such a temptation.

Imagine living in a developed nation (mostly) of 330 million people and out of that entire potential talent pool being reduced to choosing between a lifelong corporate politician with dementia and a ruthless egomaniac tycoon lol. Maybe Leo is wrong, we could very well be in a simulation.

My suspicion tells me this is some kind of deliberate hoax so he can delay the election and do some illegal shit to tamper with the system in some way. An ego like that just doesn't give up when they are cornered, it will do ANYTHING no matter how outrageous to preserve itself. He probably knows he'll lose the election and doesn't want to go to jail since he won't be able to leverage his power anymore to keep him out.