Roy

You know I'm not serious, right?

Women are like cars, a new one comes around the corner every 10 minutes. There are literally millions of women out there for you dude. Don't get so hung up on one. You think that one was so special but it's not true, it's just a big thought story you've told yourself.

What the fuck does this even mean lmao?

If you don't have company; friends or lovers, who you're able to share vulnerable things with and get support from you need to do some social circle upgrading lol.

You have created a huge thought story based off of an experience, or multiple experiences. However like the word says, they are just "stories". Literally fabrications in your mind. They do not dictate current reality or potential future realities. Easier said than done, but you need to ditch those thoughts in your head and start imagining a you and a reality where women do love you back. It could easily be real. There is no reason that it can't, unless you continue to let those thought stories run rampant.

Well consider human health is comparatively fragile and we have all sorts of bizarre sicknesses and ailments that other animals simply don't suffer from. You don't need to be a window licking mouth breathing conspiracy theorist to know it's common sense that all the chemicals we put in our food, all the toxins we spew into in the air, and all the different radio waves and other signals we have buzzing around us, affect us in one way or another. The question is are these things helping you enough that your life is significantly better and more fulfilling with them? What modern conveniences are you willing to sacrifice to improve your health? We are all going to die anyways. As long as you take care of the basic stuff like eating well and not smoking like a chimney, you should live a decently long life and feel good. I wouldn't stress over Bluetooth earbuds. Although if you're a little skeptical just consider using them less.

I've seen plenty of that talk in red pill communities. It's fucked up lol. I don't have a personal issue with age gap relationships, love knows so bounds and all. But yea this kind of thing is deliberately done out of a patriarchal sense of selfishness. They consider women above 25 "spoiled goods" with too much baggage, and they lose their fertility. Just a bunch of absurd expectations and perceptions. All rooted in self-bias. Of course never spending a moment considering their own flaws. Personally I don't consider a relationship with any woman if she doesn't match my level of maturity. That's basically the only criteria I won't negotiate on.

Of course I don't want this to happen, but we could very well be on track for the possibility of a full blown collapse of civilization. Barring no nuclear war, it could be hundreds or even a thousand years until humanity learns the lessons of the current greed we are indulged in, and finally move up to being at the level of conscious nous you're expecting, generally. It's a naive and dangerous thing to assume progress is going to be a completely linear process. It could be 7 steps backwards, 9 steps forward. There are no rules and it's chaotic. Think about how it took 2 world wars and 50+ million dead to learn the lesson of nationalism. Yet we still aren't even completely past it yet.

I don't have words to offer that will immediately get you over these tough feelings, but at least I hope what I offer might give you a new perspective that makes you have a healthier outlook on the situation. First thing to know is this probably has nothing to do with you, so you don't need to blame yourself, like your mind is probably self-sabotaging and doing to you these past few years. What SHE chose to do is on HER. She made a deliberate choice to betray your trust. Perhaps you might have contributed in some way (not accusing you here, just genuinely don't have any idea because you didn't share), but regardless of what you might have done or not done, that doesn't excuse any of her actions. She should have been an adult and had the emotional maturity to confront you about her feelings, and either worked through them with the chance of failing, or simply divorce you so you both could move on without such an event. Emotions of anger, resentment, and distrust are going to be there naturally, and that's ok. Feel them as you need to feel them, then let them go. Time will be your healer in that regard. But what YOU need to do here is be conscious enough not to direct any of those feelings towards or at anyone, not towards yourself, and not towards her. Simply let them arise, and then recede. It's a shame that something like this happened, but remember you are a victim here, not the perpetrator! So does it make sense to beat yourself up and loathe? Of course not! If you can realize this logically, you can realize it emotionally as well. The problem is a lot of people are willing to admit something as a logical truth but don't try to steer their emotional behavior in the direction of those truths as well. They stew and attach in unhealthy and negative ways. Make them positive and healthy instead. Basically love yourself and accept yourself. You are a good person who was taken advantage of. You aren't the one with the problem here, she is. She isn't strong enough to confront her own emotions or take responsibility for her actions, and will suffer the karma for that. We are only in control of ourselves ultimately, focus on that and how YOU feel, and being the best person you can be. It can be hard because you are probably desperate for answers, but realize even if you get the answers they won't even help you, and might just affirm some negative thought patterns you have about yourself or your relationship with her. You don't need the answers, you will live on and be fine without them. Let time erode that need. Make sure to maintain a strong and good relationship with your children, as that's what's important. Do not turn them against her if the temptation is there. That will just lead to suffering. She might have already tried to draw you into that game, but there is nothing to be gained so do not play it. In the end the kids are the ones who suffer anyways. Just be detached and non-reactive when you detect this is happening. Love for your children is all that matters. I also hope you didn't get divorce raped and got your appropriate share of things and custody. Men can get treated quite unfairly in this regard. Your world is not crumbled, it is not over. Something bad just happened to you and you can and will recover, if you believe you can @ern. Take care.

1. Sex with someone else, especially someone that you love and loves you, is way better than any sex you could give yourself. Proof? Go have sex with someone. 2. True, but there are benefits as well for the things you sacrifice. Emotional understanding, sharing of experiences, growing together, etc. 3. Agree with this, don't really have a counter-point. Plenty of people are social though and get happiness and joy from others. Not everyone has the capacity for that introversion. 4. lol too bad? That's the cost of having children. You literally create a life and have the responsibility of taking care of it. You don't get to have your cake and eat it too. 5. It could happen, it could also not happen. 6. Refer to #5. 7. Refer to #5 8. You don't know that. You are not omniscient. 9. Before enlightenment - chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment - chop wood, carry water. 10. You can also find deep love in relationships. I get your hang ups and your perspective, but it also just sounds like you have an axe to grind with relationships because of a bad experience, or are simply looking at things too logically and autistic-like. Relationships are based a lot around emotion and intuition. Not everything can be reduced down to X's and O's. You think you are pointing out the ego and selfishness of something here but you are also approaching the problem from the same nature. Your whole language here has an aura of talking about the subject like it's pure exchanges. Of course there are many more dynamics at play here.

I remember watching Drew Binksky's travel clog on Afghanistan. Such a beautiful place with amazing people, and has so much potential as a country. It is a monumental shame that it's in the state it is in. Humanity is at a loss with Afghanistan like this.

I am a Slytherin, one of the good ones, of course.

Think with the right head dude. It's smart not to just have random spontaneous sex, especially with those who you have the dynamic of living with. Thank yourself for that reactive "no". Your mind probably came up with that answer because it was the right one for you at that moment. Stop beating yourself up. You don't deserve it.

Depends, how grueling and energy consuming is your work or school week? Experiment. Set your alarm to get exactly 8 hours of sleep one week, then the following do 7 hours a night. See what gives you enough so that you feel good in your body.

What else could it be? Other than it's own perpetuality? It is the bottom that creates the bottom.

All propaganda is a big, big problem. Right wing just mobilizes the most downtrodden. Nobody gives a shit about the truth, which is the issue. Or at least even half of the truth, would be a nice start. People are far too concerned about their own agendas, and are happy with only pats on the back from like minded individuals. Rather than reaching out an olive branch.

This guy is one of the most sexist red pillers out there, I'd take what he says with a mountain of salt.

Well depending on how honestly or dishonestly you answer the questions (since the tests are mostly self-administered) you might get a result that is either reflective of who you actually are, or who you want to be. As one gets deeper into personal development work and deconstructing the ego, self-honesty usually becomes a necessarily increasing trait. For example I went from INFJ > INFP over the past two years of heavy investment in my own development, and I was already pretty self-honest before (or at least I'd like to think so xD).

Considering it's scientists and medical professionals making it, I'm sure whatever is in the vaccine can't possibly be as dangerous as having my cardiovascular system damaged by fucking bat flu lmao. Since I have to pick one, I'll take the vaccine thanks.

With everything you've learned about heavy metals, how much would you say the average person is "impaired" let's say. Can significant cognitive improvements be noticed with a simple diet change/adjustment? Or does one need to do rigorous testing and invest in supplements to detoxify?

You need to completely let go and detach from any thoughts about this. The only way it will not eat at your own mind and inevitably the relationship is if you go completely all in with trusting her. Show that you're ice cold about it and don't give a flying fuck if she talks to another guys or has guy friends. If she tries to test you and probe you for insecurity, don't give some big spiel or anything like that. Laugh it off and just say you don't care. If she does cheat, then guess what? That has absolutely nothing to do with you. SHE is the one that will have betrayed your trust and will have to live with that karma. Make no mistake there will be guys that try to get into her pants, but it's on her if anything happens. If your relationship is great and she is satisfied you have no reason to worry. It's completely counter-intuitive. By being utterly vulnerable you are actually demonstrating tremendous strength.

I've learned so much about self-actualization, personal development, and how to live a better life essentially for all these years now. I'm measurably in a better place than I used to be, so I'm definitely not static. However I find myself still just rotting in a pit of nihilism, despite knowing better in so many ways. I have all these ideas for what I want with my life, creative projects, hobbies, and other basic self-care things I could be doing that I'm aware would make me feel better. But I STILL don't do them even with my higher self constantly brining it up in day to day life. Literally a voice in my head talking to me, not just a feeling. There is a layer of regret, sadness, and apathy that permeates me at the end of every day knowing I'm not living up to my potential. I act so avoidant and have neglected even basic health things over the years to the point they've caught up to me in ways, maybe this is a subconscious way to punish myself? I notice I keep falling in and out old addictions too. Every time a few weeks, or even months go by and I notice, "Huh, didn't accomplish much. I can see where I wasted all this time, that sucks." It's me or the "ego" is looking for endless distractions. It's getting what it wants, and I'm not. You know? It's just frustrating as hell. I don't know if I'm ever going to break through? There is a deep fear I guess that even if I do better for a while I might sink back into old ways and the shock of that reality seems so painful it's like, why even bother? Sorry if none of this makes any sense, I guess I needed to rant. I'm just so exhausted and it feels like I haven't even started really........................ it's like I want my "ego" to lose so badly that I'm not even developing a healthy one, idk. I just would like to live without so much resistance.

@Eph75 That was a tremendously helpful post. Thank you.

He didn't specify that they had to be in Las Vegas, Leo looking for a long distance relationship lol?

Perhaps you have poor self-esteem you haven't identified yet, and gravitate towards narcissists because they have an aura of self-esteem about themselves (even if false). You want what they have so you subconsciously go towards it.