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@Annetta I did a guided meditation with Doreen Virtue where she walked us through some cord cutting via the angels. Can't "prove" it did anything, but things have improved since then.

@egoless The answer is in the "All Criticism Is Untenable" video. Watch it again and keep contemplating. Maybe we can be aware of the need for change without making an enemy out of what is

Stumbling around in the dark, trying everything. Still doing that to a certain degree to be honest , I don't think the process ever ends when it comes to life purpose. You, me and everyone else. The mind loves the "what if" game. Some days you just push through on what seems like sheer will. Meditation and yoga helps a lot.

@Light Lover What exactly are you looking for? A mentor? Formal schooling? Be more specific.

@Aquarius If the gap is big enough, no. Or you're just going to be really unsatisfied. It won't even be because you're right and he's wrong or he's right and you're wrong. It'll just be because you're too different. You're going to want to go to yoga. He's going to want to watch TV. You're going to want to eat at a healthy restaurant. He's going to want to go to McDonalds. I'm stereotyping but you get my point. From a Law of Attraction standpoint, you're no longer a vibrational match. You might be able to get this person to start working on themselves if they're open to it. But that's a very big if and usually is not the case. Much easier is just to set your own boundary ahead of time. Make "I'm looking for a high consciousness relationship and don't accept anything else" your new standard.

@CuteCornDog With what intention? Getting them arrested? I don't see that ending well.

@CuteCornDog And? What are you going to do about it.

@Leo Gura Love it. If you come out to Miami I can definitely get more than 20 people in a room.

@Epiphany_Inspired You're using perfectionism as a shield. If you have all these visions you're passionate about actualizing, great. Then it shouldn't matter which one you choose because you care about all of them. The fact is that lack of commitment to a vision is ultimately a luxury. Actualizing your vision is likely to be the hardest thing you've ever done, and yet you're taking it completely for granted. I don't see how anything Leo is promoting is about eating dirt for the rest of your life. Sure, it's hard work. And the work never ends. But the rewards are tremendous.

@see_on_see I can always form a judgment. But the rep count still helps. Look, I seek out experts in everything I do. If I'm looking to earn more money, I'm looking for the guy with a mansion and a Rolls-Royce. If it's enlightenment, I want the guy who has meditated 20,000 hours and has a bunch of students that have made it as well. It doesn't mean everything they say is true. I might discard even the majority of it. But I'm not so naive to think I know everything or that we have the same level of understanding. In fact, one of the biggest obstacles to learning is that you usually have tons of preconceived opinions on what is true, fed to you by people who didn't know what they were talking about. And the mentor / expert has to get rid of all of those. So yes, if I came to this forum as a new guy I'd 1000% be looking for the top-rated posters. It helps massively.

@Leo Gura I am pro keeping things the same. I understand your concern about social proof and its ability to manipulate people's perception. But it has a purpose. We are not all equal, some people are more of an expert than others. And I like knowing who is and who isn't perceived that way because it gives me a context to evaluate what they're saying.

@Tony Tellez Listening to music can be good. Linkin Park, not so much. Everything you consume is having an impact on you. Ask yourself: do you want to be like the kind of person they portray in their music? Angry? Hopeless? Numb?

@sgn Keep taking action, keep exploring and keep doing your personal development work. The fog will start to clear.

I'm pro-gratitude and appreciation within a context. But I'm definitely anti-anyone having to "prove themselves" to anyone. Proving yourself sets a frame that her opinion matters more than yours. It's approval chasing. You're obviously not just using this girl. So she either gets it or she doesn't. And if she keeps bringing it up, I'd stop being friends with her because she's being selfish.

@George Fil Good stuff my brother. If you haven't already decided, you guys should watch it together. Way better than Netflix

@-T8 Have you tried enforcing a boundary? It sounds like you're just complying to what she wants and you haven't tried to talk to her about it or stick up for yourself. If that is the case, realize THAT is actually the selfish move. Nobody deserves to be with someone who is only there 50%, which is what you're doing when you don't want to be there.

@Dsteller It's all a paradox. My personal philosophy is similar to what Leo describes in his latest motivational video: Yes, I want to be obsessed and with unreasonably high standards for my life. Standards so high that 99% of people can't relate to me. And, I want to so not give a shit that I could drop it at any second and laugh. Because it's all a joke. So I don't see "wanting" as the root of suffering. At least not in the way I define "wanting". Wanting is inevitable. Wanting is what life is all about. Continual, never ending creation. The question is, are you aware that the game never ends?

@Ether This is a tricky question because fun to me is just doing what you want to do. The problem is, most people don't really even understand what they want because of social conditioning. So things I like to do for fun are: 1) Working on my life purpose 2) Personal development 3) Socializing 4) Sex 5) Reading 6) Spending time in nature 7) Exercise And that's really it. I don't care for one second about things like Netflix, I can't even watch it anymore without getting bored and feeling like I'm wasting gargantuan amounts of time.

@egoless That mindset is only useful if it's leading you to a definite life purpose at some point. Sure, explore and be free, if all that exploring is going to end up with a real decision. Otherwise you're just not willing to commit. Do you think Ghandi, Nelson Mandela or Martin Luther King Jr. were "flexible" on their life purpose?

@Mount Bananas Definitely a solid foundation as far as mindsets. Do not be afraid to get technical, techniques are extremely important. It's like your utility belt. Now go out and actually do it so you can understand what you know.

@zunnyman You can implement too many new habits at once and end up failing because of it. But assuming you do it slowly enough, there's no such thing as habit overload. 95% of your life is habit. The way you eat, the way you speak, the way you stand, the way you think, all of it is basically just patterns looping over and over unless you make the choice to change. One every 30 days will be fine. Your original habit will already be solidifying at that point so you can definitely stack another. I also agree with tying them to your morning / nightly routine. That's exactly what I do.

@WaterfallMachine "You did not come into these bodies to have growth. You came into these bodies because growth was inevitable and you wanted to enjoy that growth." That about sums it up for me. Yes you have weakness, yes there are many mistakes you will make, yes there are lessons you will learn. So what? Who says that's a bad thing? If you knew everything already, there'd be no point to this experience. The learning is the fun part.

@rogi 97 I used to drink pretty heavily so I know exactly where this is coming from. The whole appeal of alcohol is that it can shut off feeling constrained by your ego and any resistance you might be holding. That's why your conversations seem better. You're just letting go. You have to learn how to let go naturally. People get hooked on alcohol because they think it's their only option to get out of their ego for a minute. They don't know any other way that could actually be healthy, and so they falsely assume alcohol is their savior. So how do you do it naturally? Meditation, yoga or any sort of energetic healing work would be good places to start. You need to quiet the monkey mind.

@Afonso They're all pointing to the exact same thing. Except this thing is actually no-thing. You can't grasp it because they're intentionally using a non-nonsensical term so that the mind doesn't turn it into a concept. I'd ask yourself if there's another way you could understand it. And if you could, how would you make it happen?

@Sheeba If it's truly something you're interested in studying, then it's no blunder. Sometimes life purpose just looks like curiosity. I spent five years in college and I don't feel it hindered me at all.