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Ok this and the videos on the other topic really clicked for me. Ive been doing this, but i can see it can be taken to a deeper level. I wasn't conscious of trust. Now that i see the variable, the system is a lot clearer. I trust everyone with out much thought or that im realistic about it, so trust issues is not something i was looking for in others.

Seems to be the case. Ye 5meo is on the to do list.

Any idea how this works? Watch or skip to the half way mark, where shes flying...

Are bonobos competitive like human males?

What made the difference between a bunch and none? Are we talking about sex with the same partner? So the issue is ive seen the "truth" lol. Ive been with a partner that made it clear to me she had mind blowing sex with this "one guy", who was basically a porn star. That one guy would text/(hit her up) for sex while we where dating, he would text "ill abide my time", meaning hes going to wait for her relationship with me to end, no rush. He wins/gets her in the end situation. So this was a good wake up call for me in a way that it set the bar high and made it clear to me what i was shooting for, but in another way my survival agenda became, "i need to figure out how to fuck her brains out". From there i used sex toys and fantasies/other things to give her the multiple earth shaking full body orgasms the other guy did (yes she told me that's what the other guy gave her). Cant tell if this comes from trauma or survival or playing the game realistically. I adapted. but now it seems i need to adapt again lol. The bar is still set high. I've seen what's possible so its hard to accept a lower standard. I get there is different kinds of sex, everyone is different, this is just one kind and not all woman are capable of it. But I'm still going to shoot for it in some way. Yes makes a good deal of sense, everyone has made this clear to me. thanks

@Eternity haha i know, got carried away with trolling. He should probably just ask her out and if she sais "sorry i dont see us that way". Move on.

This is the most natural for me, strong attraction to this. Im being pulled to this state and need to resist it to function orr else i cant do my job. If i give in to it completely, reading and writing comprehension dips to 0, talking or audio comprehension is really poor... forget basic things. I want to try giving in to it for a week and see what happens. It feels like im a beige wild animal. Its autopilot.

No reading. No talking or listening to anything audio. No sub-vocalization. For a prolonged duration. Language fasting for a week. Has anyone tried this? Would this and meditation have comparable benefits?

I need to experience it to get an idea of how this works. Its very unclear. I feel like i have blocks preventing me from being able to do any of this. Not sure why.

Thanks guys for the insights, going try this for a week and report back. Will likely do a mixed version, because some human interactions are unavoidable.

@Bojan V lol autistic introvert, everything revolves around my hobbies not people. I don't have a phone. I don't use social media. Nothing in my life has changed since covid began. Identical + a mask.

Have no idea, ive been practicing social isolation since birth. Nothing has changed.

@RoerAmit Close in on her ear, and whisper "if a friend came up to you that you new for years and whispered in your ear, 'i wish i could put you in my mouth right now', what would you think?". haha Make it funny and sexual. Also speak confidently, show that you are independent and just having fun in the moment with her. Continue down this path with more "what if" questions. Keep it fun/playful, dont show co-dependence. And if she really isnt playing along with the game, stop.

@TheDao @Eternal Unity How? Can anyone receive this and experience that? Like someone can just wip this out on a partner any time, the partner doesnt need to have a background into the topic?

@wwhy Glad it helped

"A woman in Thailand put 3 men in the hospital because she didn't know her own strength" lol... big dick culture is ridiculous, women just don't know how to contract their vaginal walls, the real issue, so they think they need a bigger penis to rub the walls... 0 sex education

This is Da FutUre The true meaning of Snatch haha

Thanks, needed to hear this, i didn't consider how diverse her desires could be, was making a lot assumptions. Going to use all of this. Im on it, didn't realize how complicated this was... because im so simple in comparison, i know what i want and ill say it. lol While they dont know what they want and wont say it, all for a wide range or reasons. At least at this level of development.

@flowboy haha i dont know man, ive been doing this for a while with multiple gf and it hasn't went away, its not really about "proving" it to myself, its a pressure to meet her needs, a fear of not unknowing. @mandyjw @Forestluv Im really not trying to force her to have 4 orgasms lmao, im trying to figure out why in this case she is not responding the same way other partners have. Other partners are having vaginal orgasms and she isn't... Ive done this already with partners, they get stuck in a routine of sex and dont know whats possible or how to explore or get stuck on a misconception or to be nice. Even with great communication, they just dont know... In this case it could be as simple as she needs to relax more. I can work with that. Ive had bitter experiences in the past where i didn't know any of this, she told me everything was great and she believed it, but towards the end of the relationship i figured out what she really wanted but was suppressing. She couldn't communicate it because of feminist pride... and so a major part of our sexual experience was missed out on. Im not going to make this mistake again. haha maybe the way i worded this makes it sound like im forcing and serious and my mission is to terminate her vagina. lmao. This is not the case, im relaxed and playful guy. This is just analysis.

lmfaooo, was thinking about this more from a optimization point of view but it makes sense. Thought about this for a while and found there are alot of motivations all happening at the same time. It seems like a mix of doing it for myself and doing it for her. - I think she wants to cum over and over and i want to give her want she wants but it also gives me pleasure and satisfaction at the same time. - After giving her what she wants there is a relief, that im useful to her, that i was able to do a good job for her. Im going to experiment with changing my perspective to "wanting to give her pleasure for her" in a more focused way.

@The0Self Sounds good, going to do this, maybe hit all 3 at the same time with the right intensity?

haha well with past GF this wasn't a problem, they would orgasm multiple times. Its just this one that i cant get to orgasm more then once. The other one was physically active and abit athletic, so... more sexual energy? Ok Dr. O, im on it. Going to implement this and see where it goes. Squirting and A-spot. Ive been avoiding A-spot because of the fear of hurting them and they don't communicate they want it, because they don't know what they want or even what they can do. Every woman ive been with has the belief that they cant squirt, cant A-spot orgasm, cant orgasm vai vaginal alone. lol. Not sure what women you've been dating but mine had 0 knowledge of there body, packed with misconceptions.

Thanks, im going to focus on this. Its just confusing as every tutorial/video/advice/leo is suggesting a women should have a minimum of 2-4 orgasms every time she has sex. Im guessing some women have lower sex drives then others and this plays a role.