LeoX8

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  1. @mmKay @xxxx @xxxx Thanks a lot this was really helpful@Bando @mmKay thanks to you too?
  2. It came to my mind this question because this morning I remembered a video of Leo about the importance of asking questions and he talked about Google and that you can use it for actualization. So again, how do you use Google for personal development? What kind of questions should you ask? Thanks in advance!!
  3. @RoerAmit I don't know about a model just like spyral dynamics but I wouls suggest body relaxation and body awereness. In the book "Psychocibernetics" by Maxwell Malz he talks about this,but I would suggest amore specific one. Leo also talks about body awereness, watch some of his videos hope that this has helped<3
  4. @Toadie2018 Ultimely by seeing how much they don't make any sense at all. Most of them are illusions and just by shining some light on them you'll find how they are lies. The tools you need here are two: perspective and awareness. Try to write in third person the thought process of yours and see the errors/limits of this though process of your character that has the limiting belief You can also do some research about the topic!! hope that this has helped<3
  5. @raytvor you are hitting the wall of "success doesn' bring happiness" my friend. Your self actualizzation lead you to one of the limits of materialism: it doesn't bring you happiness. Start researching about self-love even if you don't buy into it, be open minded about it. You can also start to grasp spirituality, non-duality and LOVE. Love will bring you to another level, trust me. It may sound cringy to you but if you want to address this problem those things will help you a lot. hope that this has helped<3
  6. @Persipnei Overcoming an addiction is quite tricky becaause you have to put a lot of effort in the game. By giving you these advice I'm referring to 2 main books that I suggets you reading: "Psychocibernetics" by Maxwell Malz and "The way of the superior man" by David Deida The main point in eradicate an addicion is to see why are you doing that: in most cases we find security in certain practice and makes us feel that all is under control, for example eating for suppress sadness. So I suggest to you to start noticing with all of your energy and concentration the precise moment that you find yourself in need of cannabis and stay there feeling that need without doing anything. after that relax your whole body from the tension created by the need. Lastly find what you are trying to suppress/resisting and give voice to that. Stupid example: if you find yourself angry scream or puch a pillow Doing just this is difficult so you can introduce a punishment at the beginning of this process to roll some momentum. For example you can give 20 bucks to your friends or to a charity organization everytime you smoke some weed. If you don't stop go with 30 bucks and so on. I don't like very much this option because is really painful but it defenatly works hope that this has helped<3
  7. @Kay100 Yeah banging release anger, especially when you bang some women. Ok terrible joke sorry You got the point though, anger needs to be released and when you don't it explodes in unhealthy ways and you can hurt someone. Banging the dishes in your case is really equal to punching the pillows. But if you try to free the anger even more you will broke your dishes so I suggest something else. When I find myself angry I found useful listening to music that makes me feel angry (metal) and freeing myself by doing some workout. Remember: don't ever resist to your emotions hope that this has helped<3
  8. @Jono I think perserverence is the key here: keep spreading your message, at some point someone will listen to you. Ultimely you'll never know who is gonna listen to you and more of that who is gonna implement what you are suggesting. People arevery different and they need help based on what stage they are in their life, the range is really wide. You can certanly study how to do this better, but don't expect that just by saying something one time you can change a person instantly and have a success rate of 100% with everyone. You just have to be patient and deliver the best message as you can everytime because you will never know who will going to listen you. When you will see how much you have done for just a single person when you'll have success once, it'll become addictive, it's beautiful. I have these thoughs a lot and I have your same point of view about the suffering in the world. We need people like you so keep spreading love and awereness!! hope that this has helped<3
  9. Today I've been wondering about this question. My conclusions are that there is no real difference between them because one requires another. Any of you have clearer answers??? Thanks in advance!!
  10. @Nthnl @Osaid @Origins Well thanks guys!! I never thought of it like that, thanks again!!
  11. @PurpleTree The best thing FOR ME was actually asking myself the permition to do it. I was resisting of not forgiving myself and others by saying "I can't forgive me/him/her" which transformed to "I don't want to do it" or "I/She/he doesn't deserve it" When I discovered that I could and wanted to forgive me I was just afraid to do it, so i said to myself "I don't want to suffer anymore, I want to stop judging myself, I want to forgive me, can I do it?" And then I respond to me "Yes you can", at this point I forgive myself. By this I mean that I let go of the "issue" and give love in any way to me. You can do this process with everyone but I discover it as I was doing it to forgive me. Hope that this has helped <3
  12. @ivory In my opinion it really depends on you. I know, dumb answer, but with spiral dynamics your step up by living through a certain stage, seeing the limits of it and really live them. Only then you can transcend that stage by certain needs that will be accostumed in the next stage. So it's a process of viewing where you are at (remember that you are not "formed" by a singular colour) and acting based on that. If you want to transcend orange what I suggest is to start reading books on the limits of that stage (example: something that talk about materialism's limits) and in parallel study green topics. Doing this for a while will help you for sure but you will also need the direct experience of life, so taking the previous example by seeing through your life why money and success won't bring you happiness just by chasing and obtaining them. hope that this has helped<3
  13. @Ampresus I did Leo's course and in my opinion you won't need an entire yeaarto finish it. If you start it right now you can certanly do it if you are willing to spend some time doing it. Give it a go hope that this has helped<3
  14. @yiyinspired I have had and have now in some way this problem with my mum. I found very fearful and aggressive behaviors in her that just made me think of "I just want to leave my house", she really pissed me off. What I suggest to you is what I found useful to me: 1. accept her. It will take so much time before she might change and maybe she won't so don't fight her but accept her, just as she is. Try to view things from her point of view also. 2. Spend quality time with her: don't avoid her because she will notice this and will be pissed off by this, so prevent it. Try to talk to her when you are the most positive and "mentally strong" so that her ideas and beliefs won't ifluence you so much. During this time do some "therapy" with her and try to show her how she can solve her problems in calm and friendly way, without impose your ideas to her hope that this has helped<3
  15. @Karmadhi Well if you close both the doors on improving your game and moving away from your country you can: a. start going with other men b. choose between game or country ok I'm kidding. If I were you I would try to improve my self confidence as high as a skyscraper and go for it. It doesn't mean shit if you just generalize with "in our culture girls don't date shorter guys", onestly it sounds as an excuse. I know I am sounding a little aggressive but I want this to be really clear: don't limit yourself and your capacities as an attractive man. You can certanly seduce and f**k a taller woman trust me, but at the beginning I suggets to start with smaller ones to build up some confidence. Last point: have so much fun that you won't regret anything. This is the thing that made me at least some good with women and I don't regret anything that I made. Don't limit yourself and have fun hope that this has helped<3
  16. @mellifluous_mind listen, I know it sounds harsh but you did not made him miserable. Taking responsability for this is actually a good thing, but the way you are doing it will only lead to discomfort in your life. I think the best thing for you now is to take a step back and try your best to relax. Take an hour or so to just be present with yourself (if you want you can meditate or do some yoga). Even if the situation is serious don't overthink and overcomplicate all of this, you need to be present, focus and loving for analyzing this situation seriously. After you have relaxed yourself a bit you can start to ask yourself those questions: What do I REALLY want out of my life? What do I REALLY want out of this relationship? Take some serious time to answer those questions, the answers will be the blueprint of your life, take it seriously. I answered those questions in a simple way: In my life I really want to be as much happy and loving as I can so I can enjoy my life so much that I can give all this happiness and love to others. In my relationship I want to be myself and express all of me without any limit, I also want to create an heaven in earth for my woman so that she can fully express herself too. If your desire don't coincide with your partner desire, then it's probably time to end this relationship. If you want to be accepted by him and he doesn't you will just suffer by staying with him. Don't feel so much guilt, you are a beautiful person: you want to change all yourself just for the sake of love. This intention comes from a beautiful place but don't change all of you because you are afraid of lose him, you are so much worthy. hope that this has helped<3
  17. @Antor8188 You are resisting in some way. Just the thought of "why me?" is adoubt of your capacities. Let that go
  18. @angelove The best way to deal with a fear? FACE IT. I think you have seen how much improvement you have had by trying to not see this fear, not contemplate it and basically avoid it at all costs. The improvements are just what you are experiencing: storms hits, and heavy ones. Try to embrace fully this fear and let it flow through you. Are you wooried about doing this? Good, it means that is a move that will make you grow. See all the visions that scares you the most and stand still. You will feel like dying, but you won't. This fear won't kill you. See how you can survive and be happy even if the worst case scenario happens, and see how you react to it. Also, you won't be happier if you have more money or success in general. Happiness is a state of being not something that you get from something Last thing: accept this fear. You have fear of not having enough money, accept it. Don't resist this in any way. Being fearful of something isn't a bad thing, is just a thing. The fear won't hurt you or damage you, and you aren't "stupid" or "bad" for feeling it. This desire to change is just the love that you have for yourself. You want to stop suffering to start feeling happy, this desire comes from you and it's all full of love. You are wonderful and you can change in any time, I know you can, just be a little bit brave. Love yourself as much as you can for all this effort you are putting into this. hope this has helped<3
  19. @Shiva99 man you are not hopeless. If you are doing this much for you is just means that your desire to change is really big. But I think it's bigger your desire to end this suffering. See, the fact that you are doing all these healthy habits and let go of the bad ones is a good thing, but it doesn't mean that all of this will change your life, every problem has its own solution. If you are trying to rise your self esteem stop drinking coffe or start doing cold showers, for example, are good things, but won't make you self confident. High self esteem comes from a different place and its a mixture of things, but the one I see you more struggling is self acceptance. All this fear comes from a thought like "I'm not good enough", "I'm not worthy" or "I'm hopeless". Those thoughts come from the core belief that there is something wrong with you in some way (example: not being so smart in your opinion). But even if you see these "wrong" things of you, can you still be happy? Ask seriously this question to you. If you search for the happiest people in the world you can CLEARLY AND WITHOUT ANY DOUBT that they have some flaws in some way, but often their positivity hides those things. You can still be happy even if you are not smart, not good, not funny, not good looking or everything that you can you imagine YOU CAN STILL BE HAPPY. Demonstrating this there is another problem here: do you want to be happy? Answer. Even if you think you are helpless, hopeless, not worthy of being happy, even if you are trying so hard to be and it seems impossible, do you want to be happy? See all that matters here is what you want. Obtaining it is secondary. You can find A LOT, really, A LOT of ways to make yourself happier and more secure, just do some research. Read "The Six Pillars of Self Esteem" and research for more informations about the things that you want. Typing "books on self esteem/happiness" on Google and see what pops out. What matters is your desire, and I think your desire is to be happy as an angel in heaven. you can do this, trust me hope this has helped<3
  20. @trenton I know what you are talking about. I felt not good enough for a long time and the though of becoming a better person motivated me for some time, but really it drained me, and still now sometimes. Acknowlegde that you are the one who sets how much is good enough, and also you decide what to do if you don't do what you expect from yourself. You are both the victim and the judge, and at the same time none of those. If you see this you can take all this a little bit deeper and see that you are also the one who can forgive your victim and set him for happiness. Happiness is a state of being that comes from you, remember, is not something that you obtain. Even if you do all the this you set for yourself, success of all of that won't bring you happiness. Actually this is a good thing: it means that you can get it no matter who you think you are and what your situation is. Trenton I know that there is a part of you that wants to end this confusion and suffering, focus on that. See that even if you struggle to be happy or to be enough you WANT to be like that, and even if you are not like that (in your opinion) you WANT to be. This kind of desire is called love and is love that you have for yourself. The only thing that you have to do is decide to be like that and not trying to be enough, but act if you already are enough. Read this post over again and try to see the main point I'm trying to get here. SPOILER ALERT: you are enough, you are amazing, you have the potential to change your life in a second and turn it as you want it to be. Trust me and trust yourself. hope that this has helped <3
  21. @moda__ I know what you are speaking about. Videogames are the perfect recipe for anger, particularly competitive ones. Before telling you anything I want you to understand that anger itself IS NOT A BAD THING. It's just an emotion and there are healthy and unhealthy manifestation of it, but the main point here is that you are not a monster, a sociopath or a potential serial killer for this, even if it triggers you easily. The thing that popped up when I read you message is that you are afraid of feeling it, you feel guilty for feeling it and for you anger is just a thing that is not supposed to happen. But as you experienced it happened. If you are a man is normal to be competitive, angry sometimes and desiring to destroy everything, but this is in your nature even if is one of its darkest sides. This doesn't mean that you have to destroy everything but use this exploding rage to take the courage to unleash what you are feeling and say to the thing/person that made you angry the thing that triggers you. Try also to take everything that happens to you as your responsability so that you will think about what could you have done before blaming others. See also the desire that you have for becoming a better and more loving person, love yourself for this. Summarizing try to find a healthy way to express your anger and don't blame yourself for feeling it. I know that one day your life will be brighter hope this has helped ps don't waste so much time in videogames, life has a lot to offer you than just pictures that moves around the screen
  22. @trenton Man you are overstressing yourself. The more you put on your shoulders the more your psyche reacts against you. Basically you are pushing too much yourself. Try to figure out if there is something deeper going on here: what are you really afraid of? what is the MAIN reason that makes you rush so much? My advice is to cut all the things that drain energy and time from you and try to sleep even if it seems difficult, force yourself to do it (help you with some warm tee and take away all the distractions). When I'm really stressed the thing that help me the MOST is first noticing that I'm stressed and after that I see how much tension I have in my body, in particular my shoulders are really tight and tensed. I then try to breathe thorugh this tension and relax my muscles. Try this out during the day and be awere of what you are feeling. Also guided audios for body relaxation will be helpful. I know it feels like shit right now but becoming awere that you don't want to be in this situation anymore is a beautiful thing. Recognize that if you don't to suffer anymore you just want to be happy and in peace and this my friend is the ultimate form of love and compassion that you have for yourself. I know you can do this hope that this has helped<3
  23. @SS10 hey man, I want to help you somehow so listen up. I know it may seem hard but you need to take a step back for some time. just relax You are not a monster, your habit is in the past and IS NOT a reprentation of you. The suffering that you call depression is just that: suffering. And you sound more like someone who wants this suffering to end. I know you want to have a good life, I know you are a good and loving person and the thing that triggers you right now is that you are failing to show to yourself that you can do all of that. There is no magic pill that will make you happy, only you can, and you can certanly do it. Recognize this: you are suffering, you are feeling like shit right now and everything seem helpless. Happiness seem so far from you, it seems like an impossibile task, something that just can't happen. But even if it seems impossible, useless to try, helpless and even if you think you are not worthy of happiness and love, do you want to be happy? Do you want to love and be loved as much as you can? Do you want to stop feeling like shit and start being happy and smile when you think about yourself? If the answer is yes you are human my friend, and you just want to live and love your life. Take this deeper: recognize that this desire that you have for yourself is the ultimate form of love that you have for you, the greatest creature in this universe. I know life is difficult, but I also know that you are capable of beautiful things, even get you and your life in a good position, even if it seems impossible. Love as much as you can, especially yourself. And remember that there are people ready to help you in any moment if you need. Your life will shine one day remember with love, Leo (not Leo Gura another one younger and with hairs) hope this has helped<3
  24. @RoerAmit I read this kind of stuff in a book called "The way of the superior ma" by David Deida. He also talks about controlling your ejaculation by using the pelvic floor (muscle for stop peeing). By doing this you can gain not only so much more energy, but can give your girl so much more pleasure and love and ultimely help her to open herself up with the use of your love by penetrating her. It is a deep, intimate romantic moment. use this technique not to only pleasure her, but to give her all the love you can It is difficult but you will be rewarded by training yourself for this. Try also some breathing techniques and read "The way of the superior man" by David Deida, I'm not paid to say this, trust me IT WILL HELP YOU A LOT! hopethis has helped
  25. @Heaven I have had your same problem. This year my girlfriend started university and she meets lots of guys, LOTS. This made me feel weird at the beginning beacuase it was triggering me so bad. I had times where I really suffered from this because I was considering me pretty good at handling my emotions, so this triggered my self esteem. I was ashamed because I had fear of such a stupid thing. But this is the main point here. I was restisting being jelous by being ashamed by it. When I realized this I started laughing. There is no problem in being jelous, accept it. I tried so many ways of thinking: detachment for her, thinking about that if I lose her I'll find another one, she is not worthy, then become guilty for this and thinking that I was not worthy of her and so on. By trying to detach her from you, you are only resisting what you are feeling right now, which is the most important thing. Just accept this as a fact. Try also to tell her what are you feeling. By speaking out laud you will find how dumb this thing was and you will also start laughing hope this has helped<3