hikmatshiraliyev

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  1. Is meditating with metronome an effective way to develop concentration? I've heard many times that, it is less effective than other techniques, and they offered breathing meditation. But, i don't get the point. What is your thought?
  2. Don't get me wrong, i really like these old-school, self improvement videos. They changed me a lot. But when i watch your videos, after a while comes a feeling that, when Leo says something, it is truth. I take some information for granted, because Leo has it said. And i think i am not alone. Especially low developed persons are doing this when they try to develop themselves. When the information is right, it is most of the time harmless. But in some cases it is the opposite. If you say "stop going to work, and start your own business right now", some people will stop enjoying their job. Or another example. You talk about spiritualism and enlightenment a lot. That's why i stopped 2 years ago reading Quran. When Leo says the truth is not Islam, it is absolutely correct. You have this power here. Do you think that your thoughts have changed in some topics? If you record these videos again, would you change something?
  3. Is it possible to create any kind of business that later you don't do anything but getting money?
  4. I am 22 years old, and entered medical school 5 years ago. University is already over, and i know nothing about medicine. I live in Azerbaijan and it is very easy to finish medical school without learning. Education is very low quality, they give you exam answers, and you can give money to have good grades. In last 5 years the only thing that i have done was german learning. I learned it because i planned to go to Germany and study medicine there. But, i dont feel any passion to medicine. Maybe i didnt learn anything and this is the reason. But it is very hard for me to learn it. Should i do it? Or should i search my life purpose and quit medicine? 1. I do not wanna live in Azerbaijan. All of my friends are going to another country and i feel very lonely. 2. I have no money. I can teach here german and get some money to live. But it is not something that i want to do for years. 3. Family tension. I have a deep belief that if i quit medicine, my mother will not love me anymore, and there is a feeling that my friends going upwards, i downwards. I feel very bad because of my bad life decisions. I screwed up everything. Dont know what to do. Even suicidal thoughts come sometimes when i think about my life. Help me.
  5. Plan: Going to Germany, studying Medicine even i don't like it, maybe it will get better with time. Then going to Amsterdam, gaining lots of psychedelic experiences. Maybe then i can find my life purpose, or start a business. Now i simply have a lot of fear. Is this a good plan?
  6. I struggle with some emotional problems like jealousy, performance anxiety, unworthiness. I try to see the mechanisms behind them, and replace them with rational ideas, which can help me to improve myself in a less neurotic way. But nevertheless, i feel same crippling feelings again and again. What can i do?
  7. @Leo Gura I have not any access to psychedelics yet. And probably i will not have in the next couple of years. Only In Netherlands i will try mushrooms, and i will be there just for 3 or 4 days. I am open to any other ideas. I just wanna know how to system of mind works, and how can i replace my negative feelings and thoughts with positive ones?
  8. Hey guys. Every day i learn german 6 hours, practice meditation for 1 hour. But, when i want to do any other thing, for example: socializing, having sex, listening music, watching a movie, etc. anything that i didn't planned before, makes me feel stressed. I feel that there is no place for joy in my life. Feeling is, when i listen music my mind says that, it is better to do extra german or meditation, or something else productive. It's like i am addicted to doing work and competition. I don't know how to plan my day effectively. Is it okay to live everything very planned? x hours of meditation, y hours of socializing, z hours of rest, etc?
  9. I do 60 minutes concentration practice every single day, but i can not stay motionless during meditation. I blink, move a little bit, swallow, sometimes even krack my fingers. These are very tempting feelings that i feel in my body when i try to sit still. What are your advices?
  10. Hey. My biggest problem is that: I can not find my life purpose. I want to create online courses, but i don't know if it is a profitable business. What does it take to create an online business? What do you offer me?
  11. Does mindfulness meditation (focusing on breath) help to clear your mind? It is not about observing your thoughts, it is more like running away from them. How it will help to have a calm mind?
  12. I am afraid of trying holotropic breathwork alone and i am really suspicious about it. What benefits have you experienced?
  13. @White Monk actually, i am afraid of the health problems that this work can create. have you ever tried it?
  14. When i do this technique, i watch to the wall. But Leo said that; do not look any special object. But even if i try to meditate in nature, mind starts to focus on some point without my control. What do you suggest?
  15. How do i know if something is true? Can i trust my direct experience? How can i know things like astral projection, new dimensions, insights of dmt trips are true. not illusion?
  16. Hi, i am pretty much newbie at self-improvement work. I was a procrastinator for 3-4 years, mental masturbation was the biggest enemy of me. At the same time, i found lots of good stuff on internet, online courses, websites, books and so on. My main problem was acting. Nowadays, i have started to act. But, i have a problem about sharing. I have lots of great resources to use, and they are enough to me for next 5 years. When i want to share it, there is a feeling that doesn't let me share. I compare myself to others a lot, and jealousy problems. Every time, when i feel that i share. But the feeling doesn't change. Should i start working on my emotions or even after emotional mastery there will be obvious ego traps like this? Maybe i feel like a victim, i feel like if anybody use this resources he/she will be more successful than me. Maybe the problem is here. What is your advice for me?
  17. I use this technique 45 minutes per day, and every week i increase 5 minutes. But, every time when i meditate there is a problem. I have no problem with monkey mind when doing meditation. But, when the awareness comes, i don't know what to do. I can't drop it, so i watch it. But, when i watch it, there are still lots of thoughts in my head within awareness. I can not discriminate if they are automatic thoughts or i create them intentionally. So, i don't know where to stop thinking. Waiting for your help.
  18. Can this technique damage my health? What are the possible consequences?
  19. I deeply want to become a musician. I have found great online resources to learn electric guitar, but my main dream killer is the money issue. I study dentistry, but it is not my passion. I can try hard and become a dentist, then i will not have money issues. I guess a life without money problems will be so much easier. But if i choose to become a musician, even if i become a great artist, i can be broke. I know some people with great musical talent, but have no money to pay the bills. So, i can not underestimate the money factor.
  20. But, i don't know which meditation technique to use. I do "do nothing" technique every day, is it okay to use that technique for retreat? Or should i use vipassana?
  21. Man, i struggle with sex a lot. I ejaculate under 1 minute, and i can not make my gf orgasm. Her behavior changed towards me, now she is more reluctant and undesirous for sex. I feel very depressed, i don't wanna lose her for that reason, i am afraid of cheating as fuck. I have a trauma in the past about cheating. I feel very insecure about that. Can you guys teach me some fingering techniques to use? I try to stimulate her g spot, but after a minute my hand starts to hurt, i can not maintain stimulation about 10 minutes. Waiting for replies. Thanks
  22. Does do nothing technique lead to enlightenment?
  23. Hey, guys. 2 weeks ago, i met with a girl. She is my best friend's friend, and i liked her so much. She is a teacher in another city, so she has to live there. It is holiday here, that is why she is in my city. She was planning to go her city for 4-5 days, her family is there. But, she decided to stay here for me. I didn't ask her for that, it was just her choice. She is not that beautiful, but i liked her lifestyle, character vs. In few days, i created attraction, after a week we kissed at my friend's house. Everything was great. 3 days ago, we went to cafe, talked a lot. Meeting was good. Next day, in morning she texted me casual stuff like how are you? bla bla. After 4-5 messages, she texted: "I am not sure about my feelings, i like you, but i am not sure.". I felt very bad. I said : "okay, you do not wanna meet with me anymore". She said: "No, i want. But i am just not sure about my feelings". I said "Understood. I don't wanna meet anymore". She: "Okay, understood". Then she decided to turn back her city for 5 days. Next tuesday she will come back. We do not text each other. What do you think? I want her back, should i do something? Sorry for bad english, maybe it is hard to read. I couldn't cover all of the story, if you have questions, i am ready to answer.
  24. @Nexeternity I try. My life is not great, i have lots of stuff to handle. But, relationships are great sources of happiness for me, i can not let it go.
  25. i thought if a girls says this kinda things, it is almost over. it is a belief in me. you are right, i have to work on my insecurities.