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@Red-White-Light You can always report the post if it doesn't seem right, there should be a button for that next to the time the comment has been posted James seems fine, I guess you cannot destroy your demons, you learn to live with them and this is how you do it really. Just feeling good, loving more. I am glad you are good @James123, since it makes me good too

What is the thing you call brain? Is it an instrument? Do you want to get rid of the instrument or do you want to learn how to use it? Do you feel bad for asking for help? Do you really think it's funny?

@Eren Eeager That right there is quite paradoxical. I know it can be hard sometimes, but try to notice how life is giving you opportunities to expand your capacity to love. Gradually you will realize how much you love yourself

@John Iverson I already told you in another one of your threads, and more importantly, you told it to yourself first, that the only place where you can be helped is here. By trying to find another state that doesn't take place now, you are automatically separating yourself and falling apart, notice that.

@Raphael I have this experience with trying to learn Japanese and interacting with Japanese people. As you might know, they have a very different social structure (age, status, race etc...), different levels of politeness, exotic manners and the list goes on, it is quite hard to get used to it. You might see this pattern in many facets of east Asian culture, for example zen temples making it hard for new members to join them, sushi shefs having to go through years of monotone rigorous training... I think in many cases this is coming from an insecure and rather unhealthy mindset, but it can also teach you an important life lesson if you look at it as a metaphor. All these practices, including the language, zen meditation or preparing food can seem very hard to get into and even harder to get good at, but once you understand the principles, you will realize that they have a tremendous value in that they destroy your pride. You can totally transcend this, but first look at - what am I trying to do not being polite with people? (maybe you are trying to impose something on them, catch attention or call for help indirectly, explore that) When does it feel good to say bad words and when does it feel like complaining and underestimating myself? What are truthful words, what does telling the truth even mean? What do I want to communicate with my words? What is balance, is it one universal pattern in an activity that is the mixture of some exact percentages of individual actions, or is it a mixture of diverse actions that come from a highly developed place of groundedness in experience and self-understanding?

Are you really not interested in that, or do you still wanna experiment? I mean, you are young for a certain period of time and then you stop being young and will have more responsibility etc... it's good to learn from experience about certain things. If you are a 20 year old who has never dated, maybe you should start, because if you are then interested in something like a long term relationship, it would most likely fail very quickly given that you have zero or very low past experience with relationships. About their advice to stop wasting your time trying to get somewhere and start enjoying, it might come from a rather unenlightened perspective, but even that can be, and often is, a powerful teacher. Maybe your whole life is a trip, maybe every moment is a mystical state, just maybe I get the sense that you are on a hunt but you have no idea what you are hunting, so the solution is simple - you think about what is it that you are hunting and write that here in this thread, thoughts are slippery but once you write them down, you can spot many biases and illusions.

You don't win, it is not about you

@zeroISinfinity

@Eren Eeager Yeh sure, but does that mean that you cannot be loved?

You can create your past however you want x)

@Eren Eeager Are you unlovable for being traumatized?

Hello everyone, I have a question especially for those people, who have an experience with studying abroad for longer periods of time or for those who are parents of kids. Here is some (quite a lot of) background information, the questions are in the last paragraph. I live in Czechia (central Europe) and am 16 years old, turning 17 in April. In January, I applied at a national committee for a scholarship to study abroad for 2 years after my mum told me about it. Now, I am in the last round of the selection procedure, in which there are 10 or 9 participants and 8 of them will get the scholarship, so it's become kind of a more serious thing for me. Here is my view on it: I am suffering in the school I am at now, I am doing many creative, intellectually stimulating things outside school, but the school itself is merely a place to socialize for me, I am striving to get a better quality education. https://www.uwc.org/ UWC (United World College) is an international organization that has schools all around the world. Their top values are diversity, integration of knowledge, understaning, ecology and more free, friendly communication between students and teachers, who also kind of work like mentors. All the people I've asked who have studied there have told me about their incredible experience, so I am not affraid of going into a scam. The academics at the school are also interconnected with a mandatory creative activity, research in a chosen area and epistemology and a service for the local community, such as teaching local kids English etc... (feel free to apply via your national committee if you are 15-17 years old) From the 8 people, each of them gets to study on a different school that the national committee decides, but we can give them our prefferations. The possible destinations this year are: Norway, Italy, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Tanzania, China, India, Singapore and Armenia. My prefferation is India, because I like the subjects there the most and the school is located in a national park, so I could spend some time alone among trees which is really beneficial for my spiritual work. I wouldn't really have any issues with studying at any of the schools, but literally all of my family members except my mum are not supportive of this idea of mine. I also think it is important to say that the school are international, therefore there shouldn't be that much of a difference in terms of the quality of education, although there most likely is some. I really take this path seriously and I would like to execute on my visions, but I also know that I am a rather impulsive and naive person and that I might sometimes not think through things as much as needed, so I am still looking at the opposite opinions. (staying in Europe) I've had some depressive periods in the last few weeks that were about leaving everything I know, especially friends, but I think these are normal and it will pass after some time. I also resonate with the stage green European countries such as the Netherlands, Germany and the Scandinavian countries, I know because I've been studying their languages at school, but I don't know if going to a more exotic place wouldn't give me a richer experience... I am basically lost. Questions here: I still don't know whether I will be accepted or not, but I believe in myself that I will... What do you think? What things would you consider doing in my situation, what prefferation would you give them and for what reasons? (you don't have to be specific, just say Asia/Europe, probably not Africa because my grandma would get a heart attack, although I love black people very much) How would you treat the possible family conflicts? Do you think that once a child leaves their home, it is likely that they won't ever come back? (move to a foreign country) Why? Small edit: The school seems to be really high consciousness organization, I came home from the selection procedure very excited, all the people there were very open and curious, the adults were extremely friendly and warm and in one of the activities I wrote about my interests in yoga and meditation and I also spoke about the benefits of psychedelics in another activity, after which I was accepted.

Just updating on my journey, my school year started this Monday. I have a personal advisor who looks like Keanu Reeves, that's the coolest thing in the world. Also mindfulness meditation and yoga are taken very seriously, we have 2 yoga teachers on campus, from which one of them is also a history teacher. The people there are sooooo passionate and nice, I already started to work in my friend's teaching business, it's so good how many opportunities this school and the people inside it give me. Also everybody needs to volunteer, do some sort of physical and creative activity, so the education is very holistic and based on building real world skills and experience. The art subjects are also taken very seriously and the people who teach them are very humble, respect their students and are willing to learn unlike in some other places. It's a pity that I couldn't take an art subject because of some requirements, but I still think my experience there is gonna be great

@Eren Eeager Yeh don't judge yourself, you aren't for being ignorant. What is it that you want, what kind of life story sounds great?

@Eren Eeager What is the reason you perceive yourself this way?

@Eren Eeager Is this what you mean by the obsessive thoughts you mention in your other comments on this forum?

I agree with the others, weed causes brain damage. There are so many cases of this happening (in the long term, but still). Which direction do you mean by positive, where are you headed?

Although this is partially and sadly true, I don't know for how long you have been here, but in my opinion, it's gotten better I don't know if you realize it, but only you guys can raise the consciousness of this community, so please do that, it's for your own good. Also you can leave anytime if you aren't satisfied with the value you get from here... @Eren Eeager Do you mean motivation, boundaries in relationships, being decisive, practical...?

@Red-White-Light @Carl-Richard Guys please stop going in circles, this is an online community that is meant for personal development.

Different people seem to be sensitive differently to different dosages. Someone might get a nice body high at 100mcg while someone else might literally go crazy with the same dose.

Maybe just be sensitive with the other person and try to sincerely understand them from your heart :))

@John Iverson If you get a too big of a dose of some psychedelics, you might perceive that you fly out of your body to some other place and that place is god and then you go back and this place you have returned to is not god. You see? Dependency. There is no reason why you shouldn't feel high and happy in this place here.

This comes with going further with this finding your values exercise, acting on it, you will see for yourself I see you've written a lot, if you perhaps have more things in mind, you can write more, then reflect on it, ask yourself whether that's truly what you want, it is good also to keep it simple, but I get an authentic vibe from what you wrote here, especially this part: This part not so much: Jk :)) ?? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA this made me laugh so hard, you are spot on!!!! By now you should know where to look next time you wanna look somewhere ???

Dream: Video games are weird. Reality: All the mods and Leo secretly playing video games. What helped me was playing so much that I got sick of it and just stopped playing for a long time, then my healthy playful mindset was revived. The problem these days is that if you are even a tiny bit serious about winning, the competition is so big that if you do not spend 8 hours practicing the game everyday, you probably will not win much. Luckily, there are other fun things to do Check out this channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClHVl2N3jPEbkNJVx-ItQIQ