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  1. Leo had said that he doesn't advocate no-fap because it's unrealistic to expect men in their twenties not to masturbate and have sex. And that seems true looking back on myself, knowing full well how beneficial it is for me, yet still jacking off over 9000 times (literally) during age 20-29. With regard to sleep, as someone with chronic sleep deprivation (due to environmental factors I assume), not wanking greatly helps me feel well rested. On the third month now, not counting specific days, and I woke up after 5 hours sleep feeling like I got 8, very deep sleep. Used to have to just lie around in bed a few hours or knock myself out with an herbal supplement or antihistamine. So conversely for someone who gets normal healthy amount of sleep, having more energy and getting less sleep will feel like a problem to them, for me it's a boon.
  2. Monogamy came about in stage Blue, and that stage holds it as the only way to live, just like a form of religious dogma. Orange becomes more hedonistic and self-centered, is not restricted to this narrow view of sex and relationships. Humanity at this stage is open minded enough to explore their sexuality freely. They can have any kind of relationships, or none whatsoever if it suits them. Stage Orange sexuality I would call "sexual capitalism" which is the place where PUA, MGTOW, incels, cuckoldry, hookup culture, prostitution, swinging, polyamory as an ideology and cheating come from. Stage Green turns away from individualism back to a community orientation. At this stage, people realize that they can't own other people, and there is no right way or best way to have relationships, they can have traditional monogamy, but aren't limited to it, nor rebelling against it. It is also acknowledging human sexual nature and the diversity of it. Other persons' needs and wants are considered, with open communication, honest about our intentions. You can also have stage green celibacy, which can be voluntarily alone because you feel it's what works best for you, or an equanimity in accepting your lack of desired relationships.
  3. Well you can experience it for yourself if you just stop masturbating for 90 days, or at least try and see how far you get. Don't need others' advice to tell you to masturbate, or not masturbate. What does happen which is often perceived as negative is that it forces you do deal with all of your emotional baggage. Emotions become more intense, experience of live more vivid if how I'd best describe it. When using sexual release as an escape or distraction, you were able to hide from uncomfortable thought and feelings, most of which you may have been unaware of because you were so numb from the constant ejaculating. But it doesn't feel that way because it's like normal. But as consciousness increases the longer you succeed at semen retention, you realize you were living in a low energy state, your brain was foggy, and you had all these repressed, unresolved issues lurking beneath the surface. Is it natural for a man to live life with regular ejaculation? It's a moot point, it's natural to be an unconscious human animal in survival mode preoccupied with just food and sex. This is one way to raise your consciousness, and easily so just by retaining your seed. But it also feels like the most difficult thing to do because your body was designed to prioritize sex, increasing your chances of procreating, and you are reprogramming your money mind from it's entire evolution to survive and replicate as a mammal. If you have other addictions alongside fapping/porn, are on antidepressants, ejaculate through sex regularly or are at an age where you have weekly nocturnal emissions, you won't notice as many changes compared to living healthily with successful long term semen retention as a part of that.
  4. No, if you're a young virile man, involuntary nocturnal emissions are a sign your body is recovering from fapping addiction. Used to get them after a few weeks sans masturbation in my teens and 20s, but it doesn't happen anymore now. Likely because I'm better able to circulate the sexual energy from my yoga and breathwork practices (instead of feeling ferociously horny), and also could be because I'm older, and I damaged my sex drive with such an extreme masturbation habit for much of the past 10 years.
  5. After listening to Tulsi Gabbard interview with Joe Rogan and give other talks, it's pretty clear to me she is a systems thinker. She displays both heart and brains in a capacity that is unheard of in American politics, while coming form a life of military and civilian government experience. I was initially very sad to learn how unpopular she was compared to other candidates so far, but then again so was DJT at this point before the 2016 election. The more sensationalized D party candidates seem to keep embarrassing themselves and falling into ideological traps, and I'd expect Tulsi to gain momentum once the debates start.
  6. I often wondered why life is set up such that it is so easy to destroy, but so difficult to create. Anyone can go and break shit, and we could destroy the world by releasing all the nukes at once. I wished that the process of building something, and healing the Earth would be as simple and accessible as the process of destruction. The question was answered for me, that without destruction, there could be no new creation, and to create is to simultaneously destroy, like re-recording over a video tape. It's not just a reciprocal exchange, the destruction must occur in order for there to be creation at all. If you were to create your ideal self, you would be destroying yourself as you'd known yourself. The easiest way to create is to ask the right questions, to others, and for yourself to contemplate. An important question you could ask yourself is what can I create?
  7. Here I will share some things I've learned as I've struggled with and mitigated sleep deprivation and coped with sleeping in uncomfortable environments. I know some people that can just lie on their back and fall asleep anywhere, but if you have more trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, you might look into this and see if it works for you. I assume it's not just me and this would help most side-sleepers at least. Use only red lights in your sleep area an hour before you want to go to bed. In my case I have a 4 bulb lamp that you can turn on 2 at a time, and put in red light bulbs on one side. If I'm on the computer I'd be using f.lux and setting it to the deep orange color. If you sleep on your side, a mattress topper and hugging a body pillow will do wonders for sleep quality and duration. I tried soft mattresses before, but they had a mushy hammock effect and didn't feel comfortable for long. Using a foam topper over a bed of medium firmness, and having a long pillow between your knees and elbows gives you contouring comfort without compromising alignment. Position yourself with your hands and feet dangling just off the edge of the bed. Wear your coziest socks, or barefoot if it is hot weather. Can't explain why this helps me fall asleep and stay asleep more, but it works, and I've seen a few blog articles that mentioned it with more science involved. Use white noise and foam earplugs to tune out noise pollution. Might have to experiment to see which earplugs are comfortable and block out noise, but I found the ordinary shaped ones your squeeze and let expand in your ear work much better than the fancy shaped ones. The trick is to set the volume of a consistent white noise, like static or rainfall sound, just loud enough that it is very faint and soothing with the earplugs in firmly. This way things like vehicles, people talking and dogs barking outside, and other people in the apartment building don't wake me, since the loud white noise drowns it out, but the earplugs muffle it to a soft volume while sleeping. Adjustable-fill memory foam pillows work best, I found after trying all kinds of pillows, and plenty of waking up throughout the night with neck pain. This way you can find the ideal pillow thickness that keeps your head and neck comfortable. Pillow should have a thin cover, and use a thin, soft cotton pillowcase. Before going to sleep turn the pillow over, so the side that was facing down is now cool to the touch, and will help you relax. To keep cool without a/c or thermostat, put a fan on a chair, and position it towards your head and upper body. Use a rolling chair so you can move it around while lying in bed to find the best spot to keep it at for the night. If the air is dry and you can't use a humidifier, aiming a smaller fan towards your nose can alleviate the discomfort and help your sleep better. Earplugs are also very useful for this, as you can move the fan a lot closer and not be kept up by the sound it makes.. To keep warm in cold weather without heating, wear a long-sleeve thermal shirt, or 2 on top of each other, and tuck the bottoms of your pants into your socks. I found that dressing warm to bed helps more than using a heavy blanket, since temperatures can drop unexpectedly, and it's difficult to get out of bed when you have to step out into freezing air shivering. No experience with supplements for sleep, other than melatonin. Pretty basic stuff I take around and hour before I want to sleep, and I have noticably better sleep than when I go without it.
  8. A few days ago I had what feels like a micro-awakening, rushes of energy throughout body, lots of automatic kriyas, and tears flowed. This was lying on my back on the floor late at night before bed, very tired, procrastinated on going to bed, and took a high dose of liquid melatonin, which seems to be the most potent form. After the episode and since then, the sense of 'me' no longer feels like it comes from a mind within a body, but something that is present everywhere but also nowhere at the same time, like an expansive emptiness. Admittedly, can't be sure exactly where belief and direct experience intertwine, as of course they both inform each other. Like for example, I think about something I learned in a video, and then it becomes part of a lucid dream, it becomes a direct experience, and after experiencing 20 seconds or so of what feels like genuine ego death during a meditation, then identify with ego less as a belief. I'm unable to sit long in any position chair or floor, but also unable to sleep on my back - thus meditating lying down. Feels most natural this way, feet and legs don't get numb, easier to pay attention to breath, spine can elongate without worrying if am I keeping my back straight, and the body can writhe and wiggle freely to circulate energy/release tension.
  9. Yes and Yes. Single vs. coupled is a false duality, even in the ego world. Men are fed that narrative that they need to find a partner, and have this unrealistic fantasy of a woman loving (with a lowercase l) them in way only a mother could love her children. As you get older though, you tend to become happier alone, and genuinely appreciate the peace and calm of solitude.
  10. I prefer psybient music, like this:
  11. What do you actually want? Not as an idea or abstraction like "a girlfriend" but what is it you actually want to experience in life? I think that your suffering comes from being hung up on the concept of having a girlfriend, and feeling you lack that abstract fantasy. Long ago I realized how ridiculous the duality of single and "Taken" is, and laughed at how the human animal takes itself so seriously. No one belongs to anyone else, there's no such thing as having a girlfriend, relationships are the process of relating always in flux, undefined, unlimited. A relationship is not some sovereign entity whereby a man and women (from the heteronormative perspective) get together and mutually own each other. It's something that happens moment by moment. This is as concisely as I can explain my mindset, single and whatever you may call it's opposite are not terms in my vocabulary, the concepts just don't exist in my reality, they come from a paradigm I don't subscribe to. From this perspective I am not deprived of anything, I am whole and complete as an individual, and as the infinite. When it comes down to it what I really want is physical contact and intimate connection with beautiful women. I get to experience moments of this on occasion, even if it's just eye contact, conversation and hugs, and it warms my heart. Sure, in a perfect world I would get to kiss and cuddle together with someone for longer, but even so, it's like a glass half full perspective, seeing sensuality as abundant, and myself as communing with feminine energy. There are plenty of ways to experience it through the 5 senses, not just with women if that isn't an option. Can listen to all manner of music, ASMR, women looking into camera and talking, and enjoy the sound of their voices. While I avoid looking at porn because it feeds fixation on sexual lust, I get satisfaction looking at the female form as art, as well as being out an nature, being soothed by the sights, sounds and smells of abundant flora, taking it all in. Whatever path to freedom you take, it is best to come from owning your sexuality not trying to repress it, and de-abstracting your ideas of intimacy to experience sensuality directly, getting to the point where all of life is a sensual experience, as well as a spiritual one, whatever you're doing.
  12. Well reusable bags and Priuses don't help the environment. Human population decline and new technology to pollute less, and clean up pollution will. Consumer choices have negligible effect, so unless you're an engineer, really the greenest thing you can do is just never reproduce. I care because I actually have to drink the water and breathe the air on this planet.
  13. I'm going on the extreme and uncertain path of doing consciousness work before developing a strong ego or addressing long term survival concerns. I was never able to lock those down, they didn't seem possible to get handled. Worrying about that stuff led me to depressive thinking, the scarcity mindset and worsening addictions to things I used to escape it, like porn, junk food and internet games. Petty money and ego bullshit, I don't care, makes me numb thinking about that stuff, boring drudgery. It's accessing higher consciousness and contemplating the absolute the brings me to tears, that is the place from which I want to live out the rest of my human experience. To hell with wage slavery, live free or die, as they say in New Hampshire. The whole process of building a personal identity, choosing a life purpose, and slaving away for a few years to escape money-slavery felt beyond my reach, too late for me, and also not worth my limited time and energy every day. I'm a unique case though, cause most people, and particularly men seem to need purpose and a grounded sense of self to function as a human, and others don't have the luxury of not working while having food and housing provided. My master plan would be to merge my personal development (including but not limited to spirituality) with a strategy for escaping scarcity once my unsustainable living situation runs out. I am seeing myself as like the bamboo tree, which spends years gradually sprouting roots, not looking like it's making any progress, while by the time it is ready to grow it shoots up several metres a week. Facing actual poverty and/or early death are real possibilities though, but I choose to face life without fear of that.
  14. I watched this video a while back and remember that being the jist of it: @Ayilton
  15. "Lowest Priority" means it's generally not enforced, like with marijuana in California during the 10 years before legalization.
  16. Try audiobooks while lying down closing your eyes. This way your mind can focus entirely on the content rather than reading words off a page.
  17. I'm noticing more online stores using Shopify. Seems to work smoothly- from both the customer and business standpoint.
  18. This is very relevant, and I almost forgot about the video until now. Guy claims to have developed a consistent precognitive dreaming ability after he once took Lorazepam. Disregard the 'MGTOW' label in the title here, not what the video is about.
  19. It's an obvious assumption that most people would be inclined to just run faster on the hedonic treadmill if you increased their purchasing power and/or reduced their working hours. I hesitated to write that at first, thinking that what if low consciousness people use money, or the freedom and resources it enables, to raise their consciousness. But if they would do so, then such a person is actually of high consciousness in the first place, but it doesn't manifest due to survival concerns taking precedence. Low consciousness vs. high consciousness people is a false duality I created, but works as a rough generalization for purposes of discussion. This happens constantly to people fleeing Africa to migrate to Europe, and Central America for illegal entry to the US. Illegal immigration is still a burden on public resources & funding. Also part of the basic provisions system would be non-competitive work assignments for anyone who'd need them, and cracking down on operations that hire undocumented workers to pay them less and avoid taxes. As we have now in the US, work visas are granted to those who would be net taxpayers in the economy. Not to mention the absurdity of importing foreign refugees while poverty and homelessness runs rampant domestically, even among combat veterans. This. Politics and economics feel like the antithesis of spirituality. But because of this we keep coming back to it. Can't expect humanity to evolve to higher consciousness when we're still struggling with basic survival needs, being devils who filter everything based on its usefulness to the functions of the body, and the desires of the ego. I point out that many who try to be catalysts for a global shift to higher consciousness end up becoming elitists virtue signaling to those who don't have the same luxuries. But then again, even stage Turquoise people still need to eat, sleep and shit sometimes.
  20. @CreamCat Low consciousness people would just use more money for low consciousness activities. However, a post-monetary system of basic provisions would free people from being stuck in survival mode. Hard for someone to raise their vibrations when most concerns are still how will I make rent and pay for food. Or even if those needs are met well, but work and chores take up most of their waking hours. Providing food and housing would actually motivate people to make money to have anything else they want, while at the same time, have the security of not worrying about basic necessities. That is how you'd maximally unleash human potential on a large scale. I've often suggested lower birthrates and stopping immigration are both necessary so that a given society can have more resources to go around, less competition, less mouths to feed, and maintain it's own bubble of prosperity. It would never work if anyone form all over the world is allowed to come to the places that administer basic provisions systems, but once it is proven successful, other places can create they own systems, and this meme would gradually replace conventional cutthroat capitalism and other low consciousness economic games. A successful basic provisions system wouldn't work long term unless the population stabilizes, and declines proportionate to the rise in standard of living, plus increasing costs of such a welfare state. But somehow, saying close the borders and require birth control for public benefits recipients makes me literally Hitler and the Devil.
  21. I'm a devil and I know it! Now what? 😈
  22. I noticed some gray hairs last year, and since my last haircut they are clearly beginning to take over. Doesn't seem genetic, since my parents had hair color into their 50s, and I think my grandparents also. What could be the causes of this, may it be a sign of some deficiency or health problem? Wouldn't be at all surprised if it was caused by fapping excessively, and I mean 3-5 times a day for days on end during much of my 20s. I'm hardly bothered by the physical appearance though, calmly accept the change, and if it gets to look too weird I could just go Leo mode.
  23. In hindsight it seems ridiculous to try to find a comfortable pillow that's not customizable. Pretty much every non-adjustable pillow I used has been either to soft or too firm, to high or too low... The easiest way to set up your pillow is to just put it on the bed without a pillowcase and lie down as you would sleeping. Then open the zipper and keep tossing out bits of foam filling, then zipping up again, until it's at the most comfortable loft. I use the Brooklyn Bedding memory foam pillow with charcoal cover, and also sleep with a body pillow cause I'm a side sleeper.
  24. I would assume it's because they don't get out much in terms of walking around. Sedentary lifestyle causes obesity, and that includes all kinds of sitting, while traveling, reading/writing, hosting events, even meditation. Lots of gurus have advanced kriya yoga practices, but going for long walks is not something they do. And I realize this is the case for a lot of successful and driven people, the most unhealthy thing they do is spend large swathes of their lives sitting. Wouldn't fault them for it though because sitting is a pervasive disease of modernity, starting to become recognized as the new smoking, and something I'm doing right now typing this. Seems like the hardest habit to break, because so many things require being stationary, and adept meditators become very proficient at being able to sit still. If you're not active enough, you grow a Buddha Belly as you get older. I try to go for 2-3 hour long walks every day, and often much more walking 4-6 hours. But I recognize this is uncommon, and people see it either as insanity or luxurious, cause most don't have time to walk much, they're busy doing productive sedentary activities and drive to and from everywhere. When someone is really dedicated to growing a business or helping people, they sacrifice their own well being this way because there's not enough time to just go wander around outside for hours every day. And popularity likely discourages such activity, cause imagine going outside and seeing some well known celebrity, youtuber, businessperson, or perhaps Leo walking down the street... Honestly this is a discouragement from becoming well known publicly, I always want to be able to just go walk around freely, inconspicuously, anywhere, without being bothered. You can do all sorts of fitness activities at home or at a gym, but it's not the same as just going outside and walking around, for hours and hours, miles and miles.