Sparkist

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    Potentially, I feel that one of the biggest challenges of becoming enlightened could be that one would become part of an extreme minority (the vast majority of society is 'asleep'). So to be enlightened could mean that you are misunderstood by the majority, most of the time. And as an enlightened being you could see that the majority would benefit from enlightenment and so now your mission is trying to guide the ignorant towards enlightenment. 

    I've used the word 'enlightenment' far too many times there xD But hopefully you get what I'm trying to say. The mission to seek enlightenment turns into a mission to help the world follow suit, because it's potentially very difficult to live among the ignorant.

    I dunno...just a musing.

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    @fireworld Allow me to be clear. I give zero fucks about what you think about me, personally. But you are lying to yourself as well as the people in your life. And the more you reject that notion and keep your field view as narrow as it currently is, the less you will grow as a human being. If you cannot even admit to you yourself that you actively use manipulation in order to self serve through PUA then you obviously have a whole lot of work to do if you are serious about self actualisation. And after 11 years in PUA, I wouldn't think you'd have that much chance of growth. That's a really long time to remain stagnant. I wish you the best. 

  3. Posted · Edited by Sparkist

    37 minutes ago, fireworld said:

    What's wrong with pickup even if it may at times be shallow?

    Her model of attraction and her subjective experience is interesting as it affirms many of the things that pickup teaches already.

    I ask all my female friends about it to gain a deeper understanding of women. I even ask girlfriends about their experiences so I can be a better boyfriend. 

    So what? Not everyone needs to be after a deep meaningful relationship in order to not be bad, what's wrong with a fling? 

    Stop moralising.

    I do pickup and have since 2007.

    You're assuming way too much here. 

    I never said everyone needs to be after a deep meaningful relationship in order not to be bad. There is nothing wrong with a fling. However, if a man is masquerading as a knight in shining armour in order to get a cheap lay, then it's deception. If you are genuinely interested in what women are looking for in a guy (outside the realms of pumping and dumping), little hint: it's unlikely to be this ^ 

    Stop moralising? Stop acting like it's a harmless act of mutual benefit. If you wanted to have sex purely for the sex, you could quite easily find a like-minded woman. We don't all want relationships, some of us want casual sex. Imagine that!! You wouldn't have to charm her out of her knickers with falsehoods. Or perhaps it's the deception which actually turns you on. Considered that?

    Congratulations on wanting to be a better boyfriend and for genuinely wanting to know more about women for their improved experience of you, though. 

    I guess I shouldn't be surprised that you tell me not to moralise considering you've spent the last 11 years lying to most of the women you've had sex with.

     

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    @Emerald

    @fireworld (if I have read this correctly) is mining your knowledge of women for pick ups, not meaningful relationships (correct me if I'm wrong). The whole world of PUA is about manipulation and deception in order to obtain sex. He is being given deep insight into the authentic female psyche, by a very intelligent and emotionally aware woman, on the basis that he will use it for shallow means. What have a woken up to? O.o

     

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    6 minutes ago, Emerald said:

    But I have experienced the Divine Feminine during my experiences of ego transcendence, and they were more about unconditional love and fuller embodiment of myself as a human being. I had access to divine wisdom that seemed to come from outside of me and inside me at the same time. And I already knew that I had always known.

    And because I had no fear or suffering, I was very open instead of shut up like I normally am. Because of this my intuition become very sensitive and I was receptive to larger social patterns just by looking at people around me. There was also a deep connection between myself and everything else. I recognized this first in the trees and the grass that were around me. And my emotions were able to play out at full stretch within me, and conveyed wisdom to me. And I experienced all the repressed feminine traits that I had locked away just to be able to exist in society. And despite thinking of feminine and masculine as mere social constructs, I detected an energy buzzing inside me and outside that I immediately identified as feminine which was erotic but not explicitly sexual. It was life-giving and gave me access to my animal instincts. And I felt completely at home in the mundane world, which I recognized as a literal heaven. And I didn't have to prove myself worthy of anything or fear death. My existence was already unshakably valid. 

    This sounds so beautiful!

     

  7. Posted

    I think this Western yogi has the right idea. Deep platonic connection overrides inevitably fleeting lust connection.

    1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

    A Green guy can easily steal a girl away from an Orange guy. Girls want emotional connection, not your Orange logic and business-suit.

    If women aren't really into Orange guys, why is 50 Shades so popular? :D I think many women would like to take an Orange guy and soften him up to Green and take full credit for it. That's the dream. Ha.

     

     

  15. Posted · Edited by Sparkist

    13 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

     

    He's a really great example of social and emotional IQ, rather than logical IQ.

    That's what post-rationalism looks like.

    'You've got hair like Princess Diana.........when she was alive, I wasn't being offensive!'

    'She's grasping for shafts! She's a shaft grasper!!'

    'You're ovulating!' 

    xDxDxD

    Hahaha! Ohhhhh I dearly love Russell. He sticks out like a sore thumb in the company of these people. The woman in blue was fearful because she knew he could see straight though her. It actually turned her on. I love this interview so much.

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    Just finished it. Loving this learning curve. Really starting to get my head around Blue and Orange now. Really looking forward to Green! :D

    I can resonate with some orange, for sure. Not a lot of it, though. I lost the 'I need to make a shit tonne of money to be successful' and 'I want to be the best in my field' ambition a while back. I don't own new technologies. I don't get excited about new tv's, phones, computers etc. I sell or donate material things I don't 'need'. I feel that all we really need is a roof over our (mine and my daughter's) head, a warm bed at night and food in our bellies. I do want to become a better person for myself and those around me, though. I'd much rather use money to fund my own learning and mind-broadening experiences. So I'm still self servicing in that regard. I'm independent and generally try to stay away from others in my local community as I find I judge their Blue tendencies. It's a small town. Lots of elderly and very conservative and quite religious people who seem to view me like I'm a total freak. So I know I have an awful lot to learn.

    Anyway, totally using this thread to make some selfish observations. I thank you for allowing me to do that :):x

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    24 minutes ago, kieranperez said:

    Thanks. Yeah I just think that’s a bit of an extreme measure in terms of the homeless shelter thing. I have just a few hundred dollars in savings. I have nowhere I can move.

    Yes, it is an extreme measure for sure. I'm sorry you're going through all this. There's nothing wrong with being 23 and living at home, btw. But I wish you the best of luck in changing your circumstances so that they best suit you and your life purpose. And I hope someone can shed some light on how you can do that. 

  22. Posted

    1st thing, I would say, is to get the hell away from your Dad and move out. Whatever is going on is obviously toxic to you and is holding you back. It sounds as though anything would be better than what you have currently. It's emotional abuse from what I can gather. Do you have any savings at all?? Can you go stay in a shelter or something?! I just googled San Francisco homeless shelters and there is a place called The Sanctuary that looks like it has some good reviews. Can you speak to local governmental services about your situation? Is there help for people in your situation? I'm in the UK so it's probably pretty different.

    This is just my advice, I'm not suggesting you do anything that absolutely isn't right for you. This might be way off the mark. But, from what you'd written it sounds like leaving is the biggest issue to tackle.

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    In this moment, this is my thought....

    Good vs bad is very black and white. Labelling something good is only possible because you know what bad is and vice versa. You need one to define the other. Also, deeper than that, 'good' and 'bad' are subjective. Also, good can be born out of bad, and bad out of good, and that's also subjective. It's alllllllll just..........just....... '________'! It's everything and nothing, it's not just 1 thing period.