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@Serotoninluv Are you saying heterosexual guys can experience homosexual love?

What? Direct experience of homosexual sex? You guys have good luck with direct experience. It's just not for me. It is reported that hundreds of thousands of men are raped in US prisons every year. If you want direct experience, a US prison is going to force you to have it with a knife on your neck.

@Aquarius Rumination is a different mode of thinking from contemplation. Rumination happens when you are anxious and depressed. When you are depressed about your ex-girl friend, you are ruminating. It leads to stupid thought loops that trap you in unpleasant emotions, not intellectual thoughts. Through contemplation, you solve problems, utilize systems thinking, and think about higher concepts. By stopping rumination, you can spend more time on contemplation.

Today, I had direct experience of how many options I lose in a day after wasting two hours of a day. Minimize rumination about bad stuff that happened in your life. Minimize day-dreaming Minimize wasting time on ideological thinking Minimize anger Minimize your gullibility to various illusions of life. Minimize internet surfing Minimize consumption of unnecessary food Minimize Porn Minimize any task that is not important to your life purpose. Minimize stupid mistakes Minimize your stupidity Minimize temptations ...

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I agree with the video. But, this video doesn't encourage people to actively seek the best criticisms. There are two kinds of criticisms Destructive criticisms, or lazy criticisms, or low-quality criticisms Constructive criticisms also known as feedback or high-quality criticisms Ignore lazy criticisms Accept feedback Here's my take on criticism. Don't waste time on low-quality criticisms. Accept feedback, but don't spent too much on feedbacks either. Also, actively seek high-quality criticisms even if doing so entails being criticized in front of a lot of people. Put yourself in front of the best of the best, and ask for their criticisms.

Teal Swan, the author of The anatomy of loneliness, would say a different thing.

Are you saying that if I shoot myself in the head, I will just wake up in another body with all my memories wiped out?

I think I've picked up a lot of masculine Green recently although my Orange is still not fully developed. I've assimilated Red and Blue well. I think I'll be ready to assimilate Yellow in a year or two.

If you want to fight a mountain lion, you need this.

Nowadays, I meditate one hour a day. It's often uncomfortable on my chair. Still, it is a source of insights. After meditation, a few insights come to me. Today, I became aware of various ways I was bullshitting myself. When I was focusing on other people's bullshit, I was bullshitting myself. When I was obsessed with other people's criticism, I was bullshitting myself. When I was obsessed with other people's annoying behaviors, I was bullshitting myself. I was bullshitting myself with various illusions involving other people and myself. I could have focused on life purpose or whatever important work I want to do rather than on various kinds of useless illusions haunting my mind.

It's frustrating to me. You take yourself and every little criticism so seriously. You think you are intelligent. You are not intelligent because you take every little criticism seriously and spend hours on defending your pet theory against them. Stop trying to defend yourself and your pet theories so much. That's stupid. Watch this video if you haven't. Embody this video.

Think of yourself as a video game character. Die as many times as you need to level up. Don't be afraid of dying in your game. Be willing to die. Die!

I felt that the kid in the video might screw me out of a business deal.

I tended to repeat conversations over and over in my mind. I wondered for a long time why I was doing it. Today, I became aware that I was actually defending myself against criticisms over and over in my imagination. This is stupid. Defending myself or my self image against criticisms over and over in my imagination is stupid. I was caught in a stupid loop. After realizing that, the chatters in my mind became quiet. It's stupid to defend yourself against criticisms on internet forums. It's even stupider to defend yourself against criticisms in imagination. If you are defending yourself against criticisms in your imagination, you are fighting with yourself, which is stupid. Let your self image hurt. Let yourself hurt. Don't be afraid of dying in your verbal games.

I've seen some people who rise above seemingly unrealistic standards. It could be a limiting belief. I've seen them enjoy good criticisms and bad criticisms rather than react to them in the moment. It was inspiring. They are the truly intelligent ones who don't waste their time on stupid things. Measure your intelligence by awareness of your own stupidity and your ability to stop doing stupid things. If you are not aware of your own stupidity, you are not intelligent. If you can't stop doing stupid shit, you are not intelligent. You're just a lazy human being who thinks you are intelligent.

Recently, I directly became aware that doing so is stupid. I was thinking why I was even trying a little bit to defend myself against lazy criticisms. Many people are not aware enough to realize stupidity of defending yourself and your theory against criticisms. I think intelligence can be measured in terms of how many stupid things you do every day. This is a more reliable measure of general intelligence than IQ. It's hard to raise IQ, but you can raise general intelligence by not doing stupid things like being spiteful and being depressed over ex-girl friends and getting anxious over criticisms. Nassim Taleb gave a second meaning to `Via Negativa` which involves not doing stupid things and avoiding downsides.

https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/via-negativa-adding-to-your-life-by-subtracting/ Eliminating obvious downsides like bad habits and debt will provide a good life; eliminating good things so you can focus on the very best will lead to a truly flourishing life. https://medium.com/the-exofiles/live-a-ruthless-via-negativa-c92002cfc280 Those are good articles on minimalism and improving one's life by avoiding doing stupid stuff. Nassim Taleb also said on his facebook account

Right, that's the original meaning. Nassim Taleb and his followers gave it a second meaning. This overlaps with (lifestyle) minimalism.

I'm an aspiring minimalist.

After sending a long email or having a long conversation, I almost always compulsively replay that email or the conversation for up to hours in my mind. It runs in the background. Those instances of compulsive replays often cause severe headaches. Through personal development, my neuroticism decreased, but I still experience this weird OCD phenomenon to a lesser degree. How can I fix this?

Whatever patriarchy means, I don't have any strong opinion about gender roles. For my whole lifetime, whenever I heard people say about gender roles, it felt like bullshit. I had no thoughts about inferiority or superiority, either. Why do you even bother to think about it when you can just fool around and enjoy your life without caring others? I had been basically raised in my cave because my parents were both busy working. In my memory, public schools had no interest in teaching anything about gender, either. Thus, I have very little social conditioning with regard to gender or sex. Or, I didn't really pay attention because I liked to always fool around. For a little while, public schools dabbled with conditioning me with nationalist view points, but they only dabbled. So, I lost nationalist views very quickly. Until I graduated university, I was basically left alone whenever teachers were not cramming my mind with random facts. When your environment is full of lazy Orange people, there could be very little social conditioning. Orange can have little or no thought about gender, gender roles, or society. From my view point, USA hasn't reached solid Orange, yet. Whether men or women are inferior in some way is not important to you. Gender roles are not important to you. They are just distractions. Whatever is going on around you, focus on mind, body, relationship, and creative production.

Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. If someone walks out of your Life, it gives someone you need a chance to walk in. My favorite things in life don’t cost any money. It’s really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time. Let’s go invent tomorrow instead of worrying about what happened yesterday. Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Mistakes teach you important lessons. Every time you encounter one, you’re a step closer to your goal. Your worth does not revolve around what others think. Your worth is what you put in yourself and know in your heart. You have to have a lot of passion for what you do… because if you don’t, any rational person would give up. Greatness is More Than Potential; It Requires Skillful Execution of That Potential. If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today? I’m as proud of many of the things we haven’t done as I am of the things we have done. Innovation is saying no to a thousand things. Average people allow time to impose its will on them; exceptional people impose their will on their time. You gotta act. You gotta be willing to crash and burn. If you’re afraid of failing, you won’t get very far. It’s impossible to fail if you learn from your mistakes. Don’t give up. You can’t look at the competition and say you’re going to do it better. You have to look at the competition and say you’re going to do it differently. The journey is the reward. Minimalism Deciding what not to do is as important as deciding what to do. The most important decisions you make are not the things you do, but the things you decide not to do. Simple can be harder than complex. You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end, because once you get there, you can move mountains. Keep it Simple, Stupid. If you define the problem correctly, you almost have the Solution.

I was taking a shower this morning. I suddenly realized that I was fooling myself with illusions. I was taking illusions too seriously. The conversations I was repeating over and over in my imagination were just illusions. I took my imaginary conversations in my mind too seriously. As soon as I became aware of the illusory nature of imaginary conversations of my mind, I stopped taking imaginary conversations seriously and stopped having imaginary conversations. Perhaps, most of my thoughts and feelings were illusions, too. Then, how can I know my vision is not an illusion? How can I know real-world conversations are not illusions if they come from imaginary thoughts which are illusions?