tsuki

You are God.

First of all, stop with judgement. You and your family are experiencing whatever is exactly right for you to grow. If you feel that it is difficult, then that is because you do not yet understand how this works, and you are working against the rules that govern your life. Life is way bigger than you currently imagine, while you are convinced that you know how it works. You don't and your suffering is constantly proving it to you. Keep a modest attitude and you will return to harmony eventually.

@Lyubov I would like you to give deep consideration to the possibility that you are not just reacting to a loved one being on a different path, but having a traumatic response to losing a parent. Loving her securely would mean that you would let her go, or go with her, whatever your heart desires. Love is clear, open and connected. What you have here is a lot of thoughts, confusion, and fragmentation. I cannot tell you what is right for you, but I can give you some suggestions where to proceed. First of all, the Universe does not give you lessons you cannot handle. Please do not act out of fear, jealousy, or immaturity. Perspective is essential. Imagine you would die tomorrow. Would you regret staying here, or coming with her? You are going to die Lyubov. What kind of life do you wanna live? What is the best thing for you to do?

Survival is not the same as persistence. Survival is persietence in a hostile environment while being ill-equipped for the task. That is a false belief, when concluded in regards to humans.

False beliefs we inherited from culture.

@Lyubov What is it that you have here that you won't have over there? Why is it a me and my accomplishments vs my romantic happiness situation?

@Leo Gura Have you met your dream girl?

You are under the impression that something is different from nothing. It isn't. This is how nothing 'looks' like. It doesn't matter. We're not in disagreement.

This is not correct. Reality is not a box that contains things. It has no bounds. It "is" nothing. Just nothing.

So, you basically created a problem, and want us to solve it? Do you want this problem or not? If you don't want it, then why create it? If you do, then why do you want us to solve it?

@Carl-Richard So basically, the problem is a matter of perspective? Interesting. Maybe solving it has something to do with how you view it? am playing with you.

Holy shit. I just realized that no object has an 'inside'. It's all outside. It's all a shell.

The mind is conditioned by beliefs. Some of them express experience honestly, some don't. You do exist, but not as a 'me' that is contained with a body. This is a false belief. You suffer because of it.

@Carl-Richard I thought that glass is inside of the cup. Water is outside of it. Isn't it why you can spill it by turning the cup upside down? I am playing with you.

@Carl-Richard I'm supposed to make the water stay inside of the cup. Which side is 'in'?

@Carl-Richard Strange. Which side of the cup is 'in', and which is 'out'?

Realize that these 5 men are not here with you, and are not having sex with her right now. These 5 men are not 'making you' angry. You are making yourself angry by imagining 5 men having sex with your pregnant girlfriend. There is no way out of this situation by making the world behave in certain way, because it is not the world that makes you angry. Every time you are angry, you are bringing these 5 men into the situation. You are doing this. Is this clear? The answer is simple. Stop doing this. Stop the conflict. It does not happen because something else happened. It's just you making yourself angry, wanting a fight with your girlfriend. I know that all you want is to feel better, but there is no way that the method of imagining 5 men will ever make you feel better. It will destroy the trust that she needs to feel safe and will ruin your relationship. It is very, very ineffective in making you feel happy. I would carefully inspect the beliefs around female pregnancy, sex, and your future. There is a false belief lurking there that you are using to blame your girlfriend.

Genius

@Lyubov I read your journal entry, and I was wondering why don't you consider moving with her? I don't know why that occurs to me, but maybe you could consider the possibility that you don't just love her and you already miss her, but that you actually need her to stay for some reason.

By fighting war, you perpetuate it.

That is very true. It seems to me that you feel lonely. I wonder how that feeling ties with your other thread in the dating section? Given your skills, maybe you could start a school for investing, where you could meet people? Or maybe start an organization that could bring the abstract prices down to earth, so that people could understand them by heart? Like, having a blog that explains why certain companies are more valuable than others? You could meet some people this way.

@Vzdoh I remember seeing another thread from you that was similar to this one in the past. You cannot make someone commit to you. If you could, that commitment would destroy the relationship. Conscious choice is the key ingredient.

Despite the fact that you are mostly dealing with numerical representations and abstract concepts, these companies have thousands of humans behind them. This "correct price point" is how we numerically represent trust and reputation nowadays, so I fail to see how trading is not human level impact? Maybe what you seek is simply face-to-face interaction? Or perhaps you are getting blinded by layers of abstraction that is inherent in this field?

Maybe you could research how finance provides value, but not to the people that profit from right trades, but to society in general. For example, how does trading impact the company whose stocks are being traded? When you trade honestly, which is to say that you assess the value of a company based on high quality public information, does the general public extract value from your assessment in any way? How do automated algorithms provide such value? Which automated strategies could be considered ethical, or in other words, could be considered beneficial to the general public? Why is it important that traders "put their money where their mouth is"? If you are interested in my take on these questions, we can continue this conversation here.

@Endangered-EGO Suffering is caused by false beliefs. Don't blame the universe, don't blame yourself, don't blame. You are in a nook that seems to have no way out. Realize this. This is not your natural state. Your natural state is harmony, order. This is all ego speaking, and the Universe will have none of it. This is how God liberates you, by stopping you dead in your tracks and giving you no other option than to look at yourself. You will be fine, just find the falsehood.