syhoang

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    6 hours ago, Knock said:

    When to trust and when to verify is a fine line that takes wisdom to discern.

    @Knock As you are saying, we should have the act of balance between trust and verify when it's needed.

     

    6 hours ago, Knock said:

    You need to believe in 'something' to push yourself when the going gets tough. Be it karma, God, or 'the process'. All require a leap of faith, a belief that the universe will reward you for your efforts, and that it will be totally worth it. 

    @Knock I will remember "a leap of faith" and "trust and enjoy the process" when things going to get tough. Thanks for your opinion!

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    Hello Actualizers!

    I am 21 years old and really confuse about what should I do and how to build my foundations for self-development.

    It's been a long time I contemplate and thinking about the question as I mentioned in this thread. For my confusion, I heard Leo said that we shouldn't cling to anything, only clinging to God in video "Aztec Philosophy".

    But, if I don't cling to anything, I would do absolutely nothing because I don't see any guidance and don't have confident to lead the path.

    Steve Jobs once said in his Commencement Speak that: "You should trust in something, karma, your guts, etc. whatever to have confident to follow your heart and believing the dots will connect somehow."

    For that much confusion, I am trying to trust in Teotl (God) in order to have confident to follow my heart.

    Should I (and you) trust totally in something like Teotl?

    Much appreciate for your answers!

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    1 hour ago, kira said:

    @syhoang  do what you have to do to find closure. whatever its talking to her and telling her is over and that you dont want to talk to her anymore. delete her phone number and all of her personal information. the best you can do is  shut that door. you deserve more

    and besides a relationship like that is only goint to bring missery in the long run. it already began with lying and cheating. and that right at the begining of the relationship. it says a lot

    i understand that when one is in love , the last thing they want to here is that they need to walk away from that person. i totally get it !!! i am talking out of personal experince.

    good luck mate

    I think I will quit her like you saying. But should I really delete all memories and contacts about her?

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    Hello actualizer!

    My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 10 months. Before dating me, my girlfriend already had another boyfriend that as she said it couldn't last for long-term relationship. So, I thought she was ready for a new relationship with me as she said she would quit the old relationship. 

    But, as we were falling in love and spending more time together, I noticed she still texted with her ex-boyfriend.

    She often lied her parents for going out with me (that she said she was home while actually we were going out). 

    And also, she lied me 2 times that she already broke up with her ex-boyfriend but the truth is she was not. After the second lie, she already told her ex that she don't want to continue and quit, but somehow now she's still texting her ex and still loving her ex.

    She spends more time for me than her ex. Her ex-boyfriend only texts and rarely going out together.

    And now, this is the third one she lied to me. For now, I already said her that we break up and can't never fix this relationship. But she still wants me to be her friend and meet each other to chat as a friend.

    I really confuse about how to deal with her now.

    Should I quit her totally or this relationship still has hope for fixing it?

    Really appreciate for your answer!