Flowerfaeiry

Somatic Experiencing has worked wonders for me.

I love you too

The feminine and masculine thing is real. I just think you're taking stories on here out of context and overthinking it. If it causes you pain, forget it. Its not supposed to do that. If anything, society programs women to be masculine so cultivating polarity in relationships is going against that programming. Check out Madelyn Moon at maddymoon.com. She has amazing resources to begin learning more about embodying your femininity.

Of course, you can ask a guy out if you want to but where's the fun in that? If you are interested in a man, invoke him to ask you out

Use a bidet? If not, you can use small towels and water from the sink for your bum. But you have to wash the towels often and have a safe disposal area.

I think that's normal. I've agreed to dates with men only to text them later and cancel. Things that would make me cancel: #1 they're boring or weird. #2 they're ugly.

@ertopolice reflect on why you're being needy. Are you fulfilling your own needs and taking care of yourself?

You take care of yourself, but you don't sound like you have confidence. Also, don't be too hard on yourself. Online it's so much easier to ghost people. Feel the pain and then let it go. There will be others. Work on yourself more.

@Loba Hahahaha....that's not real love

@ertopolice I wouldn't say way too intellectual, more that the softer sides to you aren't showing.

@ertopolice I beg to differ, you can be flirty and sweet via text. Of course, not too flirty, but I think you're holding back a little. Feel into yourself and express! Talking about philosophical stuff is not the way to do it. That has its place but if all your conversations have been like that, no wonder he hasn't asked you out!

@ertopolice invite him to ask you out by being cute, sweet and flirty. Drop into your feelings and sensations, your femininity. If he still doesn't ask you out move on, no sense in dating a guy who is clueless.

Yes

Feminine energy is connected to love, yes. But I think that after the initial first couple dates, it will be an intertwining energy, not so much one person contacting more than the other.

@fopylo yea! Because I was sitting still and one of the aspects of the feminine is movement so, while being in stillness, I was being in my masculine. Not a bad thing to do per se, but it was not producing results that were as enjoyable for me as being in motion.

Emotional closeness

Yay I love to hear this feedback, thank you

@NoSelfSelf men should pursue. But it's more nuanced than just hitting her up all the time. And a woman being pursued shouldn't just sit back and wait for it to happen...there's a beautiful back and forth that happens when both parties are in their polarizing energies.

@diamondpenguin there is a lot of darkness on this forum and in Leo's teachings that sometimes we forget the more positive side to spirituality. Not to get too airy fairy.

Bro who cares.

Are you taking care of your body? Sounds like it's telling you something. Maybe you need more rest and to take breaks.

@Philipp yes of course. It's not so much about how extreme you can get. More subtly, it's about turning our mindset away from consumerism.

@Javfly33 dude, why are you using kratom?

How does this end up working out? If you're really serious you could do it but I feel like being free handed money could make one uninterested to do much.

I see what you're saying, and. individual efforts are important. Especially from someone with such high integrity. Truly leading by example.