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I haven't used it much personally, but it's rather similar to other models like the chakra system, SD, or stages of ego development. It's helpful to have some kind of map of human development to work with, but also important to be aware of the artificial nature of all such maps. I don't talk about the IPEC model because it is their proprietary model which they want to own. Can it be useful? Yes

It's best not to waste time trying to explain yourself to closeminded people. Just focus on doing the work you know you need to do, and move away from people who are closedminded and bring you down as soon as you can. Surround yourself with positive people who are into personal development and spirituality. People who appreciate the work you're doing. Your family can be one of the biggest things to hold you back. You must move out and become independent as soon as possible so that you are not beholden to then and don't have to obey their limited notions of life. In the meantime, just focus as much as you can on growing yourself. Much of the work is internal so no one has to know you're doing it.

It will take way more work than you expected. But the reward will also be greater than you expected. Yup Oh yeah. The average person cannot fathom how much work it takes to get good at pickup for a hard case newbie. It's like climbing mount Everest. This is why few people get good at it. Most people are just way too lazy and take socialization and dating for granted. They want it to be effortless. If you are deeply introverted it will be a serious challenge because it goes against the grain of how your psyche is structured.

Just stop taking things so seriously. Be playful.

You don't need to act like a douche. You can just go out and talk to girls and be friendly with them and that will be enough to grow you massively and break you out of your shell. There's no need to be an asshole, just don't supplicate to people. Be grounded in your values and your life purpose. Sticking to your principles is enough to not be a people-pleaser. And you can do that while still being friendly and decent. You don't need to be obnoxious about it. For example, if you don't value drinking and a girl offers you a drink, just say, "No thanks, I prefer to not dull my mind with that." rather than telling her, "Fuck you bitch! Drinking is for losers." Notice that you don't have to be obnoxious to stand your ground or speak your mind.

Technology tends to help everyone in the end. For example, StarLink internet does not compete with fiber, it predominately serves rural areas which lack fiber connections. Just because something is technocratic and capitalistic doesn't mean it doesn't serve mankind or little people. Electric cars are also necessary for the future.

Then don't expect results with girls. Expect random adventures and nothing concrete. Of course it's forced. You're training and learning. That's like saying going to school to learn math is forced. YES! Do you want to learn math or not? If not, then go to the park and have fun. You have to be ready to drop your friends and go with the girl when she hooks. The best way to develop your game and get results with girls is: 1) go solo and be focused on girls like a sniper, or 2) go with 1 solid wingman and focus on 2-sets which you two are aiming to pull. Keep the fun to a minimum so you can keep your focus on the girls. Just going out and having fun with friends will not get you good results with girls nor will it develop your game much. If you want to learn game you gotta be methodical and surgical about it. You're out to learn game. That is your goal, if that's your goal. If your goal is to have fun then just do that and forget about results. Just get clear with yourself what you want. There is no right or wrong per se. You can also have one night per week where you go out purely to have fun. And the rest of the nights you focus 100% on building your game. In the end you'll find that you don't need to have fun more than once a week. Maybe even once a month of pure fun and partying is enough. It will get old quickly. How many nights can you party with friends before it gets old?

This is why you aren't not getting results. Nothing surprising here. It's like you're listening to people talking about doing push-ups but you never do any push-ups. Of course then you won't get results. If you don't enjoy self-improvement then maybe stop reading/listening/watching about it and go do whatever you enjoy. People who are into self-help have a passion for self-help itself even more so than its fruits. If all you want is the fruits but you don't enjoy the process and don't want to do it, then yeah, it will be a grind. Personal development is not a scam. You can evolve yourself a lot in many ways.

You have to understand that Shunya has an extremely anti-civilization POV. He is basically counting the days until civilization collapses. He really believes a collapse is about to happen. This is a central part of his teachings and I totally disagree with him on that. He has basically placed his bet on nuclear war. He does not think current civilization can be saved. So he interprets all current and political events through that lens. I don't think this view is healthy or responsible to teach to students.

You need to get clear on why you go out. Is it to have fun or to get girls? Those are two different things. I'd bet it would have been your #1 night out if you had successfully closed.

Well, you basically said that not only do psychedelics not help you, but all spiritual techniques don't help you. Clearly then you've explored enough of this approach and have discovered it doesn't work for you. Time to try other approaches. Sounds like what you need is some long, hardcore meditation retreats. Not sure if you tried that. The problem with doing short meditation sessions is that they tend to not lead to any breakthroughs. It's hard to suggest a solution to you because you basically said no techniques work for you. My guess is that you're not doing the techniques seriously/rigorously enough. Or maybe you're just not at a point in your life where spirituality is right for you. Maybe you got more basic material stuff that needs attention. I suggest you focus on whatever is working for you.

I wouldn't be so formulaic about it. When you are talking to a girl you should be having fun and enjoying yourself, not using some kind of script. Make your conversation more free-flowing and spontaneous, like witty banter. The chances of any particular girl sleeping with you are very low, even if your game is masterful. You cannot rely on any particular girl to sleep with you. The more you rely on that, the more needy you will be and the less likely she will be to sleep with. Girls sleep with guys who are completely detached from outcome. I wouldn't over-think this. If you see a girl you like, approach her directly and let her clearly know you are attracted to her. She will either reject you or be receptive. It's pretty simple. You don't need to try to hide your attraction. In fact, you should seek to make her feel your raw sexual attraction to her. But not in a creepy or needy way. This is what you must work on.

Managing logistics is the most important thing for getting laid. You need to figure out a logistics solution before you try to pull her. If she is with her gf going home, you go with them. She's not gonna sleep in the same bed as her gf. Also, before you invest you entire night into one girl, you need to make sure there is a reasonable logistics solution. If she lives hella far away, then you need to find this out within the first 10 mins of meeting her and then quickly move on to other girls who are more realistic to pull. There is no point in partying all night with a girl who is impossible to pull. She will not remember you the next day.

Dude, seriously, this one line will get you laid like 10x more than you currently do, if you stick with the girl to the bitter end. The magic rule for getting laid is to be next to her bed at the end of the night. The #1 reason you're not getting laid is because you're not within proximity of her bed. No amount of game or fancy flirting with get you laid if you are not next to a bed. No matter where the girl says she's going, just keep asking her, "Can I come with you?" If she likes you she will almost always say Yes. And that's all you need.

Realistically most new girls you number-close will flake you. Because dating someone from cold approach is a bit unusual. Girls mostly date from social circle. If you're pulling a girl from the club, you should almost certainly expect her to flake on you the next day. Which is why you gotta close the same night. Don't settle for phone numbers from the club. They are nearly worthless. Because the girl is in the club to party. She is not going to date your after the party, so close her that night or lose her forever. This is not because you aren't attractive. This will happen no matter how attractive you are. The girl's mood completely changes the next day. It also has nothing to do with the fact that you are aboard or visit home regularly. If you are going for phone numbers, grab many numbers per night and don't party too much with the girls. Make your interactions rather short (15-30 mins). If you're going to stick to one girl the whole night and party with her, you must pull her for sex, not ask for a number. Decide which kind of game you wanna do. If you danced together for so long, why didn't you go back to her place to close??? Don't just split up at the end of the night, you need to seed an after-party at your place or just ask her, "Can I come with you?" if she is going home. That one simple line will get you laid many a time. Do not leave the girl unless she tells you, Go away! Stick with her to the bitter end. Also, don't party with her too late. You need to pull relatively early so she's not burned out from partying. The goal is not to party or dance. The goal is to end up alone with her. Keep your goal clearly in mind and don't get misled by mindless partying late into the night.

Being too cheap ultimately hurts you. So relax and spend a little when it is reasonable The key is not to let girls use you for freebies or to think that buying them stuff will get them to like you. Attract them with your personality and then spend a bit if it helps smooth things along. And if she is your GF, treat her well. There is no reason to be cheap after sex.

They feed SIBO so absolutely not for me.

The answer is the same. But what you're missing is the actual consciousness of INFINITY. When you finally reach INFINITY it will all make sense. And until then it won't.

You can ask this question of literally any thing. The answer will always be INFINITY. You cannot understand how any one thing can exist without realizing that all possible things must exist within INFINITY. So the simple answer is: any thing exists because EVERYTHING exists. Consciousness is an Infinite Mind which imagines every possible thing that could ever be imagined. Gravity just so happens to be one of those things.

Given how weak and pathetic this opportunity is, you'd be best off just going out and meeting new girls. Of course you can try to ask one of them out. It's just so obviously thin on attraction. You're basically hoping for a freebie lay. Even if you get it it won't teach you anything because you didn't really create it, just fell in your lap. Focus your mental energy on building your skills and creating serious attraction, not licking up crumbs you find on the side of the road.

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Stevia tastes gross to me.

The fundamental problem here is that you are way too focused on these particular girls when you should be focused on meeting dozens of new girls each week. You cannot be successful with girls by hoping that one of them will like you. This is like waiting for lightning to strike your house.

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It's odd to want to date someone you haven't even seen. You need to see them and pick one target.