I cannot get over the thought of my parents dying

[BojackHorseman]

They're not getting any younger, and they're not very strong mentally.

That's terrible to say but if they were  to die at the same time, I'd be devasted but I'd evolve from here.

But if, which is more likely, one dies first, I have no idea how to act with the other one.

This is tthe thing I fear the most in my life.

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ojq1AAMvZvg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rRnP8wL2hO8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j83HjUFJhas

[BojackHorseman]

Thanks, will watch as soon as I can

 

[Yimpa]

I haven’t talked to my mom in months due to personal conflicts and needing to follow our own paths for now. That, to me, feels like losing my mother, but there’s also good in that as you can see.

[TheCloud]

You'll likely be too sad to worry about that if the time comes, and your remaining parent will likely be too sad to care if you're awkward.  If you're obsessing without purpose and you can't stop, that's a personal issue that you ought to look into.

[BojackHorseman]

19 hours ago, TheCloud said:

You'll likely be too sad to worry about that if the time comes, and your remaining parent will likely be too sad to care if you're awkward.  If you're obsessing without purpose and you can't stop, that's a personal issue that you ought to look into.

This might be right.

It doesn't take out the fact that this might be one of the hardest trials for a human being, but I am indeed somebody that's very anxious so the personal issue here, is me worrying about the future and maybe the fact that I don't consider myself as an adult despite my age.

 

I guess I thought I understood the kind of lesson Eckhart Tolle gives about being present and not being burdened by the past or the future, but it seems like I'm way far from being able to actually apply it in real life.

Edited August 5, 2023 by BojackHorseman

[TheCloud]

2 hours ago, BojackHorseman said:

This might be right.

It doesn't take out the fact that this might be one of the hardest trials for a human being, but I am indeed somebody that's very anxious so the personal issue here, is me worrying about the future and maybe the fact that I don't consider myself as an adult despite my age.

 

I guess I thought I understood the kind of lesson Eckhart Tolle gives about being present and not being burdened by the past or the future, but it seems like I'm way far from being able to actually apply it in real life.

Are you apprehensive about your ability to connect with your parents in the event of a tragedy?

[BojackHorseman]

20 hours ago, TheCloud said:

Are you apprehensive about your ability to connect with your parents in the event of a tragedy?

Not really connecting with them.

More like protecting them..

[TheCloud]

9 minutes ago, BojackHorseman said:

Not really connecting with them.

More like protecting them..

Has it happened that any of your grandparents have passed?  If so, how did your parents handle it?