"intimacy"

[Judy2]

Just now, Judy2 said:

@Schizophonia no i'm not doing a PhD lol. it's just my bachelor's thesis...not as big a deal as i make it sound.

i'm probably putting in an unnecessary amount of time and energy in the most inefficient way possible, and still not getting half as far as someone with a more relaxed attitude would.

not saying this to you in particular@Schizophonia

it's only something i just realised

[Judy2]

@Schizophonia it's like an undergraduate degree. master's would be postgraduate.

[Schizophonia]

18 minutes ago, Judy2 said:

@Schizophonia it's like an undergraduate degree. master's would be postgraduate.

I mean degree of what (engineering, commercial...) 

20 minutes ago, Judy2 said:

i'm probably putting in an unnecessary amount of time and energy in the most inefficient way possible, and still not getting half as far as someone with a more relaxed attitude would.

Do you mean because you are overwhelmed by anxiety

I have the opposite problem, I lack stress I don't have much to do with anything.😹

I can be productive but I have to avoid distractions as much as possible because of this.

20 minutes ago, Judy2 said:

not saying this to you in particular@Schizophonia

it's only something i just realised

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[Judy2]

7 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

I mean degree of what (engineering, commercial...) 

English literature 

7 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

Do you mean because you are overwhelmed by anxiety

yes

[Judy2]

expressing frustration/acknowledging some negative feelings: 

i don't like how noisy dad can be

i don't like his clutter

i don't like his loud voice

i don't like that he's talking too much and that he sometimes stands too close to me 

i don't like how sometimes he gets too close to me and thinks it appropriate to tell me whether to wear socks or not, or whether the temperature requires me to wear a jacket. 

i don't like that sometimes he goes "yes, yes" in response to serious emotional topics of mine, which is perceived as dismissive and invalidating on my end.

i don't like that he said something about the weekend where he "presumes me to participate" in another hike with him and my brother...cause that just makes me feel pressured and like he's taking away my choice, and he isn't even aware that this is the exact point why i explicitly brought it up again to tell him i still need to reflect on whether it's right for me...and he just countered that with "yeah i think it will be right for you" - i find this very upsetting, because he is insensitive to the emotional point i was trying to make in that moment. it's not actually about whether i come along or not, but the fact that he thinks he has a say in that - when he doesn't and it's up to me and i want to feel relaxed and know that i am free to decide what is right for me. ...makes me feel really pressured to see that he doesn't quite get this.