David DeAngelo’s 77 Laws of Success [Summary]

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Found this online, wanted to share. As always, practice discernment :)



David DeAngelo (Eben Pagan’s dating-guru persona) has a rather decent personal development product – 77 Laws of Success. Remember that he pushes it as a product that helps you get better with women, but you can also apply these lessons to life and business in general.


While watching the videos, I was making notes of all the “77 Laws of Success” that he talks about. Here are my notes and hope you find them useful.


  1. Accept everything the way it is. Don’t wish things or situations were different. Bitching about stuff will not change it. Confront the reality.
  2. Take Responsibility. You are responsible for your thoughts and actions.
  3. Go to work on yourself, not women. You cannot change other people, you can only change yourself.
  4. Evict Your Inner Wussy. When I bitch or complain about things, I don’t feel responsible for them – that might be a secondary pay-off for being a wussy. But it is wrong. Stop being a wussy. (emphasis mine) Figure out what’s stopping you and start working on fixing it up.
  5. Build a Powerful, capable self-image that you love. Picture of you that you carry inside yourself. Get a clear picture of the person you want to be. Ask yourself – am I the person who I want to be? Make it as clear and vivid as possible so that you can feel yourself living it.
  6. Move your frame of reference inside. You don’t have to get external validation for anything. You should look on the inside to figure out if everyone else is on the right page. You are in competition with yourself and have to keep things to your own standards – not the standards of others.
  7. Have an inner locus control Make the decisions with are right for your own life, don’t worry about how others are affected by them or will perceive them. It is your life and you are responsible for it – so do whatever is right to achieve and live the life that you want to live.
  8. Stop making identity meaning out of external events. If others disapprove of what you do then it is their problem, not yours. Don’t try to analyze it much or make a generalization out if it. If she doesn’t like you, it is her loss – not yours (or she is a lesbian). I can provide a lot more to her than she can provide to me.
  9. Eliminate failure by learning from it. Don’t attach any meaning to the failure. You have not failed – I am not a failure because something has not worked out. Plus there is no failure – it is just a lesson you have learnt in how not to do it. Be logical in analyzing things. You will see that the lesson you have learnt would be far more valuable than the cost you have paid.
  10. Compare your progress and success only to yourself, not to others. You have to worry about achieving what you want to achieve – don’t worry about beating other people. Decide your path and stick to it. Run your own race. Focus on achieving your own end goals and results that you want. Compete with yourself and don’t worry about beating others – improve yourself. Take yourself to the next level.
  11. Just don’t give a fuck about others. Get motivated by their progress that they are doing something to achieve it. Take inspiration and learn lessons. Don’t envy their status or results. Just focus on doing what is right and needs to be done to achieve your own end goals. Just like golf, compare your progress to yourself and don’t worry about others. Just think – did I do the best I could, honestly.
  12. Evolve constantly and consciously – always seek the next level and paradigm. Keep looking for the next level. You have never arrived. Keep thinking – what is the next level and how do I reach there. Find and be with people who don’t give a damn about your current level because they are at a higher level than you are.
  13. See yourself as “high status”. Build a high status self image. Go in expecting that you will be the high status person in the room. Don’t care about others because you are the shiznit and the coolest and most awesome, fun motherfucker in the room. You are the rockstar and will have the attention of others. Make things fun and connect people – make people smile and have fun yourself.
  14. Stop Apologizing. You should never apologize to get another person’s approval. It makes people respect you when you know how to apologize at the right time. Just don’t give a fuck truly. Don’t seek approval and do what you want to do and just how you want to do it.
  15. Stop Seeking Approval. Neediness kills attraction. Don’t ask permission or look for external validation. Do what you want to do and not what others expect you to do. Not seeking external approval means having confidence in yourself and your decisions. This is a highly attractive mindset for women and men.
  16. Some people play to not lose and some people play to win. Take the right decision, which may not always be the easiest, and play to win. Right decision is not always the easiest and the easiest decision is not always right. It is your life and you are responsible for it, no one else. So do the right thing.
  17. Stop Giving Approval in Order to Get It. Let people earn your respect and approval. It should always be a reward when they earn it. Don’t take shit from others. And don’t do things that will help you get their approval.
  18. Stop Trading Status for Approval. Be in control, lead. Be the person who is net-positive dominant. Let people earn your attention and make them go through hoops before you give them respect. Don’t respect people just to make them respect you. Let them earn it.
  19. Untangle past, present and future. Life for now and for the moment. Consider short term, medium term and long term gratification of everything that you are about to do. Do what is right in the long run. Live for the moment. You always tend to overestimate the future loss or reward. Don’t live in the fear of something happening. Just deal with it when it arises. Don’t worry about solving the future problems before they arise.
  20. Surround yourself with success models. Be it people, books, audio or videos. Get inspired and surround yourself with success and vision of what you want to be in future. Visualize things. Grow consciously. Don’t do anything that is of no use. Focus on success and what you want to achieve in the long run.
  21. Know your path or purpose in life and stay on it. Remember what you are doing it all for. Focus. Remember 80/20 principle and focus on things that make the biggest impact on you achieving the goals that you want to achieve. Don’t have any distractions – have a tunnel vision on what you want to achieve.
  22. Any man who tries to chase two rabbits gets none. Also, don’t multitask. Focus on one thing at a time, it is lot more efficient.
  23. Travel. Explore new places and cultures. Go learn from them and meet new people. Expand your horizons. List everything that you learn and implement it.
  24. Every day -> find your center, become centered and make yourself the center. Get in touch with your ideal life. Meditate. learn to control your thoughts. Notice your breath and learn to control it. Make your model and reality as real as possible and make it the center of your life.
  25. Focus on your core skills, your inner game and tactics will fall in place. Don’t always look for instant gratification. Put in the time to learn the thing properly and do what needs to be done.
  26. Accept and Embrace the transition anxiety as an opportunity to see things from a beginners perspective automatically. When you do a new thing, you are out of your comfort zone. Do what is right. Don’t worry about how you will look when you fail or what people will assume. Just do it if you have to do it. You will learn only by practicing it correctly. Just keep at it – learn and embrace the transition. Make it a game – compete with yourself. Anxiety is a natural part of transition.
  27. Learn to enjoy the process of learning more than the actual result of learning.
  28. Teach others every great thing that you learn, immediately. If you teach it, you learn it a lot faster and can internalize it much better. Maybe blog about it, have a private mastermind or talk about it with a friend.
  29. Never whine, bitch or complain. Ever. That is just your perception of things and not really the reality of how it is.
  30. Objectify your demons so that you control them instead of them controlling you. Something you don’t have control over. Don’t worry about them and learn to consciously make sure that they never control you.
  31. Become selfish so that you can become generous. Make yourself a priority in your life and do what is right for yourself and achieving the goals that you want to achieve. Be independent and focus on yourself.
  32. Surround yourself with success models and eliminate failure models from your life and mind.
  33. Keep doing what works and stop doing what doesn’t. Don’t assume, try and see what works. Split test everything and stick to winners. Keep track of the lessons that you learn, write them down and do more of whatever works. If it doesn’t work, just eliminate it from your life and mind.
  34. Maintain your composure. Control your emotions. Be complete and be balanced. If you lose your emotions on something, that means you have to work on it. If others freak out, you instead have to become calmer and a cold-calculating machine.
  35. Prove to yourself over and over that you can deal with rejection. Remember if a girl doesn’t want you, it is her loss and not yourself. You can bring a lot more into her life than she can bring into yours. I am the shiznit. If she doesn’t want me, something is wrong with her or she is just a lesbian.
  36. Learn to sacrifice short-term gratification for long term success. Do it strategically to achieve specific goals and milestones and not just for the sake of it. Decide what you need to do, how you are doing to do and do whatever it takes to achieve those goals, including if it means going out of your comfort zone or making short term sacrifices. And don’t pretend to be doing something – do it with full focus and real effort. You are not mind-fucking yourself. Look realistically @ things.
  37. Learn to always enjoy yourself no matter what is happening around you. You make your own reality. Make it fun.
  38. Value yourself and your time more than any other women. Put your priorities first and before anyone. Don’t tolerate any disrespect of yourself or your time. Always do a valuation analysis and do what is of highest value / priority.
  39. Develop your awareness. Form a peripheral vision / 360 degree vision.
  40. Learn to control your emotions. Be happy, be in a state of bliss and be fun. Take responsibility for your emotions and don’t let any external factors impact them.
  41. Become unbelievably honest and authentic. Be direct and blunt – tell people how it is. If they do something wrong or something you don’t approve, tell them. Call girls out if they shit on you.
  42. Learn to identify the social status of others by communication and body language instantly. Looking away while taking is a high status symbol. Connect with leaders and befriend them. Become like them.
  43. Become and expert on your own self-deception games. Become aware of the games you play with yourself. Keep a journal and do things what need need to be done, don’t mindfuck yourself.
  44. Balance learning, practicing and doing. Learn -> Do -> Analyze -> Improve -> Repeat. Pefect practice makes a man perfect. And perfect practice means taking things seriously and always fine-tuning things to the next level. Do it the right way, don’t pretend that you are doing it.
  45. Constantly improve yourself. Get started, put it to test, improve it. Keep optimizing whatever you do. You are never perfect, keep doing things that will have major impact on your overall success – and keep pushing it to a higher level.
  46. Stop projecting your strenghts and weaknesses on others. (Tip!) Make a list of people you hate and those you admire. Then make a checklist of what you admire or hate in them. Then make those things you admire in others as your habits consciously and try to eliminate what you hate in others.
  47. Eliminate all negative/distructive habits and start adapting positive/constructive habits in your life. Become concious of your own habits and self, do what it takes to fix things the way you want them to be.
  48. Recognize when you are losing control of yourself. Just stop. Don’t talk negatively to yourself, don’t victimize yourself. Just take a break, think logically and do what is right. Don’t think when you are emotionally high.
  49. Make your territory yours. Don’t take any shit from anyone.
  50. Lead. Find people with high potential and then help them achieve the best they can. Inspire others to look at you. Work harder than anyone else. Work smarter than anyone else. Inspire them to reach your level.
  51. Stop idealizing women. No woman is special or has some specific high status. Your status is higher. She will be privileged to have you in her life and I can provide more to her than she can ever to me. She can never walk over me – ever.
  52. Stop idealizing relations. There is no special girl who you can’t do without. Don’t let a relationship take over your life or stop you doing things that you want to achieve. This is your life, no one is going to do stuff for you. Become selfish about your priorities and put top level on what you want to achieve. Don’t let anything stop you from it.
  53. Let her problems be her problems. Be stable and be unreactive. Don’t try to fix someone’s problem for them. Just let them become mature themselves and handle their own shit themselves.
  54. Don’t try to control a girl with material things. Don’t be a beta male. Let her earn the rewards – always.
  55. Stop trying to impress women. Don’t seek validation. Don’t spend more than you want to. Don’t brag. Don’t give them gifts and attention that they haven’t earned. Make them go through hoops and qualify to you.
  56. Look the part. Be stylish, pay attention to details and be hygienic. Women never take things at face value and use chick logic to figure things out. Just pay attention to small details and let them be impressed with it.
  57. Control your emotions around women, be unreactive and handle their shit tests easily. Ask female friends if I do anything weird. Treat her insults or any weirdness and you with a little kid.
  58. (Hey you, come over here. I have been looking for you for a while.) Be confident, learn the right eye contact. Smile.
  59. Make yourself the most interest and fun person a woman has ever met. Be a showman. Learn what women are most attracted to (cold readings, personality and stuff -> see the chick magazines).
  60. Setup your life so that you are constantly meeting women automatically. Have the right hobbies, go to the right places and try to meet women during coffee breaks. Make a list of the girl I would be attracted to and then analyze where you can find such a girl. Visualize what you want and then look consciously for it.
  61. Get into the abundance mindset. Think how would you behave if you had 100 women calling you. How would you behave if you had all the options. Fake it till you make it.
  62. Don’t be boring or predictable. DO CRAZY SHIT. Be awesome. Do things for your own amusement. Go to the extremes and live the life that you want to live – be adventurous and fun.
  63. Learn how to tell and interesting story about anything. Learn how to be enthusiastic about anything and say it in an amusing / fun way. Create mystery and anticipation around things and make them sound awesome. Use copywriting tactics.
  64. Learn how to be Cocky and Funny. Flirt. Tease her. Be a funny douche. Learn from james bond, nip/tuck, californication and mad men. Don’t be arrogant but rather a douchebag who is a lot of fun. Do it for your own amusement.
  65. Have female friends. It helps you with preselection and a good social circle. Be the guy they want to be around with. Like women and enjoy them. Ideally have some of them like the women you’d want to have as your girl.
  66. Learn to turn women on mentally, emotionally and physically. Give her emotions, sexualize and turn her on at all levels. Create a mental state that she needs. Create a perfect crib that will turn her on.
  67. Learn the entire mating process of humans in detail. Learn the steps that they always go through and then learn to take them to the next level.
  68. Learn to read situations before acting or communicating. Become emotionally intelligent and learn to understand group dynamics.
  69. Tease in every way that you can. Build positive responses so that you come out as that fun and crazy guy that they want around themselves.
  70. Be honest, authentic and ethical. Don’t be ashamed or guilty of your desires. If you check out her boobs and she asks, just say – I am looking at your tits.
  71. Set boundaries as soon as possible. If she does something that you don’t like or approve of, bust her balls. Be honest.
  72. Look past the content to see what is really going on. Judge people by their actions, not their words. Pay attentions. Remember what your eyes see, your mind believes – don’t let that happen. Always ask – what’s really going on here. If she creates drama, it is basically a representation of who she is as a person.
  73. Engage her emotions and body, not her mind. Don’t use logic – girls are emotional creatures. Dominate and leadership. Make her feel things – tell stories, be fun and be adventurous. Be physical.
  74. Turn everything into an adventure. It is going to be fun. Do fun things. Be curious, be fun and be awesome.
  75. Convince yourself that what’s gonna happen is unbelievably fun and then convince her of it. Having fun is a state of mind and being on the higher energy level. That attracts people.
  76. Do everything so that she wants more. End everything at a high note and when she wants more of it. When she says more: say it next time. Keep her wanting more. Or, I gotta go.
  77. Woman will be expecting you to fit a next appointment. Instead cut her off and say, listen I gotta go. Let’s talk next time.
  78. When you got a challenge, get back to basics. The inner game is the most important thing. Don’t act out of desperation.
  79. When you start losing it with a woman. Stop, step back and let her come to you. Create scarcity. People want what they can’t have. Pull the needle out of arm. Familiarity breeds contempt. So learn to maintain a distance.
  80. Always have 3 female friends that you like to have around you.
  81. Find out what she really wants. Tease her, step back and make her really want it before you give it to her. Make it fun.
  82. Learn how to make your conversations interesting for women. Remember she is not in search of a male girlfriend. But still be a fun dude she wants to hang out with. This will attract other women.
  83. Learn what it means to be a renaissance man and then become one. Become a man of multiple adventures. Cultivate multiple interests and focus on overall development.




Miracle:    Impossible from an old understanding of reality, but possible from a new one.

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Ah, 77 commandments!

Such an upgrade from the original Ten Commandments.

Learn to think for yourself;)

I help adults with ADD to overcome self-doubt, function optimally and live their dreams through my proprietary coaching program.

Besides that, ♂ I offer single breakthrough calls for men on social life, dating, relationships and sexuality.

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25 minutes ago, flowboy said:

Learn to think for yourself;)

Such a downgrade tho

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