Sign in to follow this  
Followers 0
cookiemonster

Anonymous Poll: Which of these dispositions best describes your true sexual identity?

Which of these dispositions best describes your true sexual identity?   24 members have voted

  1. 1. Which of these dispositions best describes your true sexual identity?

    • A man who likes to penetrate women.
      16
    • A woman who likes to be penetrated by men.
      4
    • A man who likes to penetrate men.
      0
    • A man who likes to be penetrated by men.
      3
    • A woman who likes to penetrate women.
      0
    • A woman who likes to be penetrated by women.
      0
    • A man who likes to be penetrated by women.
      1
    • A woman who likes to penetrate men.
      0

Please sign in or register to vote in this poll.

5 posts in this topic

I have an amateur interest in the role of disposition in regard to sexual identity.

Within the context of classic heterosexuality, it is assumed by default that the male takes the assertive disposition (the penetrator) while the female takes the passive disposition (the penetratee).

This assumption however betrays a simple spectrum of potential permutations when one steps outside of a heterosexual myopia.

For example, there is no default setting when it comes to homosexual intercourse. There literally has to be a conversation about it beforehand, else intercourse cannot take place. A decision has to be made in advance.

For many people who practice gay sex however, this "decision" is so much more than just an arbitrary clerical side thought. It flows viscerally from the loins as a fundamental part of their entire sexual identity.

The idea that disposition has a fundamental role to play in sexual identity raises retroactive questions in respect of heterosexuality: If such dispositional permutations are viscerally fundamental in the homosexual space, then it follows that such dispositional permutations are just as viscerally fundamental in the heterosexual space,

The major difference is that in absence of a special conversation in defiance of the cultural norm, the heterosexual default setting will always be assumed, and thus potentially obfuscates other classes of sexual identities.

For example, female on male pegging is very often downgraded to the lesser phenomenon of fetish. The heterosexual default in respect of identity is always predicated on the idea of the male as penetrator and female as penetratee. There simply isn't the cultural narrative for this kind of reverse heterosexuality in the same manner that it is respected in the gay space.

This makes me wonder to what extent dispositional permutations in the heterosexual space are largely being overlooked (in defiance of their own biological urges) simply because of cultural inertia, or an out-of-date cultural lexicon.

In any event, I've created this little poll to get some dispositional feedback. I'm guessing most of you will either be 1s or 2s, but it's all anonymous, so feel free to let yourself go.

Thanks! :)

 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
2 hours ago, Preety_India said:

@cookiemonster a man who likes to penetrate women.

 

Do you feel that this disposition matches your cultural axioms? Or in other words, do you feel there is harmony between your biology and your social networks? 

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!


Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.


Sign In Now
Sign in to follow this  
Followers 0