Anirban657

I am scared of women

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I’d say read the book models by mark manson. And love yourself first

Here’s a secret 

it tends to turn women on if you’re honest about your attraction to them from the get-go.

”playing it cool” is wimpy 

Edited by Will Bigger

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On 3/26/2019 at 11:32 AM, Leo Gura said:

@Anirban657 You just need more practice and experience with them, that is all. As with all things, practice makes perfect.

At 19 you basically have zero experience. So of course you feel that way.

Ok @Leo Gura Thank you so much! Your videos about relationships give me hope and knowledge to take action.

On 3/23/2019 at 11:09 AM, Privet said:

Go on chatroulette and each time you stumble upon girls do/say something stupid/awkward, don't skip her until she does so.

Make stupid faces, just smile, say stupid humiliating things about yourself, ideally make yourself crying pathetically but still don't skip. And keep in mind that the goal is to face the fear of embarrassment, not to make her like you. If she doesn't like you you'll have one more chance with another girl, and one more, and once again, we've got lots of girls out there.

Then apply this strategy in real life step by step: look each girl into eyes, make silly faces etc. Increase the level of idiocy slowly, like levels in a computer game: ten times looked into their eyes and didn't stop until they passed -> achievement unlocked -> level up, ten times smiled -> achievement unlocked -> level up, ten times made stupid face -> achievement unlocked -> level up.

Be a fucking creep, don't be afraid, nothing serious is gonna happen, just don't do anything offensive and you'll be fine.

What's the smallest challenge you can come up with to do this week to perform for ten times? Something that is scary enough to do but still doable so that you don't give up.

Praise yourself each time you didn't give up and encourage to try again if you did, be a good boy, you're assured in victory. ;)

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I will try this technique... Thank you!

On 3/22/2019 at 2:05 PM, Shin said:

Stop fapping and stop watching porn.

I think masturbation is normal. 

On 3/22/2019 at 2:02 PM, Spiral said:

@Anirban657 Approaching women will make you more confident especially if you see some success. Although the only way to become more masculine is to spend time with masculine people(unfortunately)

Thanks @Spiral I will do that!

On 3/17/2019 at 4:22 PM, Javfly33 said:

In case you haven´t put to it already, stop your porn use if you have any. Depending (because there are people that are fine watching porn) on your history, there´s already plenty of evidence that cronic use of pornography can cause some serious delusionary thinking patterns and anxiety disorders, towards women and by the way, just towards social interacion in general.

Then you can "come back" if you stop seeing women as sexualized as you probably do. But for now I would suggest quitting porn will deliver the most short-term benefits. 

I am pretty sure it has nothing to do with porn and it's just my ego and fear of rejection. 

On 3/17/2019 at 6:09 AM, Good-boy said:

What a pussy. Don't be scared of girls man.

Ok :)

Thank you everyone for commenting :) . You all are amazing!


"Becoming 'awake' involves seeing our own confusion more clearly"-Rumi

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Seems like you just need to put yourself out there and practice, you said you are feminine and this is awesome, the most attracting men for me are the ones who have their feminine side embodied, to increase your masculine side try to do things that require strength like working out, running or just doing something with your on hands like wood work etc, also being in the sun, the masculine energy is all about action and making things happen, connecting with your body will be a good way to tap into this energy.

 

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"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." Shakespeare

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I have my own way of doing this as well. I feel stuck in a scarcity mindset so I sometimes fear losing out on dating and having an active love life every time I go on a date or two and it falls through. I can get kind of anxious and put expectations on the experience and it makes me anxious and triggers all sorts of stuff in me. When I go through this and start to process it I then realize I'm afraid of being hurt or me hurting her when it's going well and I start to feel contently bored or numb. It's a weird cycle that repeats itself. The thing that confuses me some is I hold onto the mindsets and feelings of scarcity because I feel like I wouldn't take any action if I let them go. I'm afraid of working through some of this stuff cause I feel like I wouldn't take any action after. Anyone go through the same cycle as me? 

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On 27/03/2019 at 0:13 PM, Will Bigger said:

I’d say read the book models by mark manson. And love yourself first

Here’s a secret 

it tends to turn women on if you’re honest about your attraction to them from the get-go.

”playing it cool” is wimpy 

I will definitely check out the book... Thank you!

10 hours ago, MsNobody said:

Seems like you just need to put yourself out there and practice, you said you are feminine and this is awesome, the most attracting men for me are the ones who have their feminine side embodied, to increase your masculine side try to do things that require strength like working out, running or just doing something with your on hands like wood work etc, also being in the sun, the masculine energy is all about action and making things happen, connecting with your body will be a good way to tap into this energy.

 

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When I was young my father was not with my family. I grew up with my mother and sister. I love soccer but my father did not have time earlier. But now I guess soccer comes to my help and I can play it to increase my masculinity. Thank you!


"Becoming 'awake' involves seeing our own confusion more clearly"-Rumi

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