how do you balance self-acceptance and changing yourself?

[LoveandPurpose]

I noticed that negative and neurotic motivation is driving a lot of my behavior. Feelings of not being enough. 

Accepting myself and developing positive and authentic motivation is the solution to this, right?

I did this the past few days and a lot of bad old habits started to come up (porn, bad food, procrastination).

Now, my question is: How do you balance changing and accepting yourself? 

I have the concern that accepting myself could be a trap to become lazy. Yet, self-acceptance is important. So to what degree should you change yourself?

 

[ajasatya]

@LoveandPurpose first accept and then change. you can't change something if you're still in denial.

accepting is not the same as being complacent. accepting is acknowledging what is. so you change what is to something else.

[Hellspeed]

First if it's difficult, simply quit social interaction for a while. Maybe you will notice that you love yourself but being near people your mind tells you other things and other feelings arise. This is normal, the projection of people in reality make you feel that way. I had to test this crude truth in practice for years: other people around are by default "bad influence". Not even 1 in a 100 has a balanced influence on the environment and others. This is my experience so, do your own until you find the path. 

I'm usually harsh here on the forum and RL, just because i prefer not to have followers, plain and simple, is atrocious to be a model for somebody, believe me. People construct their EGO on other people's Chi/Prana, that is the plain truth of this society. And in a couple of years they cry why they develop conditions and disease. 

Edited February 24, 2019 by Hellspeed

[Sir Raz]

I personally think it like this: "I'm very good & ok with myself now, but it's always room for better!"

Maybe look at change as an improvement , because with time and effort you get better as a person!

But , like @ajasatya said, accept , then change! That's the order.