Downsides of talking & chatting with people

[Eric Tarpall]

• You could be spending that time on doing more important things.
• You're seeking their company which reinforces the idea that you can't be happy alone by yourself.
• You're seeking validation & permission. Often without realizing it. 
• You're giving them information which they can use against you.

[SgtPepper]

In a sense, you are correct, but ultimately...

In my experience, relationships are the best thing life has to offer. 

Life is relationships. We have a relationship with everything in the world, even with ourselves. 

No offense, but I feel that a lot of your motivations for relationships comes from fear and ego. 

35 minutes ago, Eric Tarpall said:

• You could be spending that time on doing more important things. 
  • EGO
• You're seeking their company which reinforces the idea that you can't be happy alone by yourself. -
  • EGO and Fear about not being able to be happy by yourself. 
• You're seeking validation & permission. Often without realizing it. 
  • Inevitable in a social world
• You're giving them information which they can use against you.
  • Fear

Relationships should essentially be about giving, sharing, understanding, and bonding - sharing experiences together.

and during the last moments of your life, what will you really want to do? Be alone? or will you long to tell everyone you've met how much you love them and appreciate the impact they had on your life? 

Still, one should make the distinction between a fulfilling relationship and a relationship that stunts one's growth.

[Sahil Pandit]

@Eric Tarpall

You could seek authentic friends

You could develop genuine connections with people

Someone could teach you something you don't know

Someone could open you up to a new perspective 

[d0ornokey]

Here's my counter perspective: 

On the benefits of a supportive community (skip to 13:23 and watch for 2 minutes) 

On love from deepak chopra's new book (turquoise) 

On benefits of people/relationships from eben pagan's new book (yellow) 

Edited December 10, 2018 by d0ornokey

[Eric Tarpall]

11 hours ago, SgtPepper said:

during the last moments of your life, what will you really want to do? Be alone?

You're still in the paradigm that being alone is a terrible thing. It is not. 

10 hours ago, Sahil Pandit said:

Someone could teach you something you don't know

That's true. But smart people usually don't teach for free. And most people's advice is bad advice because most people are average. 

@d0ornokey What did the mother say? Don't cliffhanger me