How to effectively deal with strong sexual energy

[gahzito]

Hey Leo,

 

I want to know how to deal with sexual energy in my life. I constantly feel an urge to jerk off or to randomly fuck someone, but I know that this is not really fullfilling - it's just like eating candy. So I'm not interested in expressing my sexual energy this way, since it will never really make me happy and has plently of side effects. I don't want to repress it neither. Maybe you know some tantric techniques to move the energy when we are having these urges?

More on the topic -> how negative is it to jerk off? Are we really wasting a lot of energy? I'm still not sensitive enough to really evaluate how much it affects me. Does jerking off impacts a lot the ascend of kundalini? 

Would you recommend never jerking off again? One more to the list with gluten haha?

Any conscious way of jerking off? I have seen some stuff around this.

How to have more conscious sex? Sex without coming maybe a solution? 

I think there's a lot to be said about this...how man in our culture don't know how to handle their sexual energy and how that creates all sorts of problems.

Maybe a correlation with spiral dynamics?

blue = repression

orange = over expression of sexual energy

green = ...

 

 

[Ryan_047]

+1

[Cocolove]

This would be nice as we approach the final stretches of No Nut November. 

[Anirban657]

Maybe you can start doing yoga. It really helps. 

Open your sacral chakra by doing reiki or kriya yoga.

Get a girlfriend.

Socialize with high conscious people.

Practice relaxation or surrender to God daily.

Being engaged in high vibrational activities like singing, dancing or yoga. 

 

It helped me with my desperation to jerk off. 

[Anirban657]

Nothing is bad but everything has consequences.

Masturbation is not negative.But masturbation conditions the mind to seek more and more pleasure through more arousing thoughts or any media. 

Suppose you masturbate to a photo of a girl in a bikini. Then after a couple of days you may want an even hotter photo of a girl. And in a few weeks you would start masturbating to porn and it gets worse.

This may not be true of those who have open sacral chakra. Thanks why I recommend doing reiki or kriya yoga to open your chakras.

Opening my chakras helped me the most. Maybe you feel so desperate because you have a blocked sacral chakra.

But I do believe that you may masturbate once in a while.

I don't know if there is a conscious way to masturbate but I believe that there is a conscious way to have make love to someone. But a relationship should not revolve around sex. There is more to a relationship than just sex. Love is more important.

But don't ever guilt yourself for masturbation. Masturbation is normal when it is not turning into desperate masturbation.

I think in spiral dynamics green= controlling the senses(thoughts and sexual urges) with consciousness

 

Edited November 29, 2018 by Anirban657