Flirt?

[xX_nba_Xx]

Im currently in college and i was working as a barman on a party organized by the students union when suddently a girl that i didnt know but it was also working there came up to me and started talking to me (im not saying it was flirting because im not totally sure). At the end of the day i added her on facebook and I started talking to her until I told her i was going to visit her campus (our college has several campus and we study at different ones) and I invited her to lunch and she accepted (she even asked for my number so we could talk when i arrived and we could meet.

By the end of the week i texted her just to catch up but she didn't answer. On the next week i texted her again and she replied apologizing a lot saying that on the weekends she doesn't use her phone too much. That same week i went there again and we grabbed a cup of coffee but once again texting her is pretty annoying because it's really hard to get an answer...

Summing it up when we are together it's amazing and everything works fine but we are not together that often and texting seems like mission impossible.

Do you think I have a chance? Do you think she is into me? If so, what should I do next?

[SFRL]

She is bullshitting about something. 

Girls sleep with with their phones like right on their pillow. She is getting those texts. 

[egoeimai]

3 hours ago, SFRL said:

She is bullshitting about something. 

Girls sleep with with their phones like right on their pillow. She is getting those texts. 

Wow,you know everything about women right?

Ofc I'm just trolling you.

You dont believe those things that u say right? They're at least ridiculous. Stereotypical 100%

[egoeimai]

@xX_nba_Xx You do have a chance of course. The fact that she asked about your phone number is positive. Just relax,I don't see why you'd rush things, who cares if she doesnt respond to messages (it could be any reason as of why  she does it and not be correlated to you at the same time ),if she's behaving politely and such tête-à-tête,then no problem buddy. Be patient things will work out for you. After all,you don't need her.

[xX_nba_Xx]

@egoeimai So what do you think I should do?

[YaNanNallari]

Bro, you gotta stop thinking like, what is 2+2. You gotta start thinking like, what seems like the best thing for me to do. Now it's fine to ask and all if you felt like asking, but use your instincts more. This will help in many ways

[egoeimai]

4 hours ago, xX_nba_Xx said:

@egoeimai So what do you think I should do?

First step is to make her feel comfortable around you, you want to be close enough but friendly,ya know? That's so important. Just like a good friend.

If you come from a place of freedom/of lack of attachment/lack of neediness, then that'll show up on your behavior and things will work out themselves.

How do u feel about yourself? Confident and independent or needy and dependent? 

[aurum]

20 hours ago, xX_nba_Xx said:

Do you think I have a chance? Do you think she is into me? If so, what should I do next?

The fact you even asked this already shows you're overly invested. She should be on the phone with her girlfriends asking those questions about you.

Now if you want to just make friends with this girl and add her to your social circle, that's totally fine. In fact I encourage it because having female friends and a social circle is incredibly important.

BUT you still want her to see you as the kind of guy who she would fuck, even if she isn't. I'm not getting the vibe at all she sees you that way.

Why does she not see you that way? It's because you're not BEING sexual.

Guys who are sexual are physical. They make sexual jokes. They can talk about sex casually and aren't afraid to express what they want.

It might be friendly and playful, but it's never platonic.

Understand that she wants a guy who she is attracted to and owns his sexuality. You're not doing her any favors by NOT being those things.

So next thing you should ask yourself is what do my conversations look like? Are they filled with just nice, safe small talk?

If so, she might feel comfortable around you but she doesn't feel anything FOR you.

Learn what causes attraction. Learn what is in a woman's mind and what they want. That's far more important than trying to figure out how to get this specific girl.

[egoeimai]

Nah,you dont have to talk about sex all the time and joke around.  Sometimes that shows what you have in your mind is needy. Girls do think about  sex,you're not alone,they just don't place sex in primary needs and priorities. If u can't be friendly,you wont know what specific things she does like in sex,so you won't have the best time. Its important for you to be calm,relaxed in order for her to feel also the same. Trust me, if you want the same things ,it'll come naturally. You don't have to pretend and such.

Anyways,let things flow and dont try to control the outcome,whatever will be will be lol

Don't stress about it. ?

If you show your interest then thats it! That's it from your part,no need to do anything.

Edited June 6, 2018 by egoeimai

[SFRL]

@xX_nba_Xx this is going to end in a trainwreck. The only question is if you are going to get of the train right now, or not.