Relationship Green flags 🌱🏁

[EdgeGod900]

On 11/10/2026 at 9:08 PM, Joshe said:

- doesn't take themselves too seriously
- a good balance of seriousness and humor
- can laugh at their own stupidity

When I'm discerning the quality of a character, I'm often most concerned with how people relate to their own self-image. Intelligence matters less to me than someone's relationship with their intelligence. 

"Can this person maintain an honest relationship with reality when reality makes them look stupid?" If they can, I really like that in a person. 

AMEN. If only you were a girl with an inoffensive face, and athletic body, I'd fuck the shit outta you.

[EdgeGod900]

Basically an extension/elaboration about @Joshe 's points.

Relationship green flags:

-A girl who can take a joke and dish it right back.
-Someone who understand sarcasm, innuendo and playful irreverence without needing a coloring book explaining the punchline.
-Low ego. Someone who gives people the benefit of the doubt rather than assuming the worst (eg. clearly over the top joke, not being taken as disrespect, because its clearly over the top)
-Spontaneous, playful, feminine, and comfortable acting stupid.
-Someone who doesn't treat every interaction like a corporate HR meeting.

I've hung out with Brazilian, Blacks and other Latina women, and I've really enjoyed that more playful, expressive, teasing dynamic common in their culture (generalizing ofc). I like women who can a have no filter, be a little mischievous and aren't afraid of irreverence. Ghetto Anglo girls count as well. Middle class+ are generally very corporate *yawn.* (Even when they curse or try to be edgy it feels forced - generalizing ofc).

I don't particularly enjoy overly sanitized, politically cautious/dictator like people. I want someone I can joke around with, flirt with, make fun of, and who can give it right back.

Bonus green flag: not being a member of this forum or any spiritual self-development forum.

For example, ExternalCat reminds me of the Brazilian chick (Curlier hair and slightly bigger forehead version of said member) I was hanging out with, but the fact that she's on this forum is flaccid inducing. Don't get me wrong, she could be fun, and vulgar with friends, but just the fact shes on here....I'd rather kill myself than get with her, idgaf if we're the last humans in the world.

Turqoise flag: If we have that intrinsic playful non-materialistic developed version of Bonnie&Clyde type of intensity; That Brazilian chick really set the standard extremely high. I hate my fucking self for letting her go (I got too cocky, "I don't need you," then she actually left... fuck... lmfao.).

Kinda regret saying all this, especially influencing the ones who grew up in a very gender segregated societies, as they typically end up abusing/killing the girls if they embody my green flags; they don't have the foundation of being around and kissing women at a very young age.

The values these serves are:
-Spontaneity/Consciousness (can't be sponteneous when you're restraint and try to uphold a certain self image)
-Creativity (Becase you need to be quick to find those spontanoues humor/banter)
-Playfulness
-prolly other subconscious ones that I can't conscuisly articulate

Long story short, ideal girl is like hanging with the boys, but with sex and flirtation as differentiator:

    Partner = BestFriend + Sex + Flirting

PS:

All the talking and philosophizing about reality is empty husk if they lack embodiment. Embodying zest for reality is what counts: dancing, humor, intimacy, aesthetics, non-pretentiousness, non-condescending, non-perfomative, authentic (gets repulsed by the overly "kumbaya," thinking that toxic stage greens can't help them selves to be like), etc...

PS #2:

"Is he trolling? It doesn't sound like he's trolling, but he could be trolling. It's sophisticated trolling ngl." 
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I wouldn't have wrote that last thing, but yesterday I sat next to one, and I shouldn't have--God Damn!-- hair grease scent, and excessive saliva smelling breath diffuser. Looking at him I knew he would smell like that, but I try to not generalize, and I paid for it.

Edited 1 hour ago by EdgeGod900