don't have anti social friends

[Olaf]

The problem with having anti social friends is that you become anti social yourself. I literally am more friends with my wingmen then any other friends, because I just like to be around social energy, you are the people you hang around the most and if they are not social, guess what, you are not gonna be social either. So my wingmen lift me up that is why its called wingmen, they give you wings to fly. But if you hang around a bunch of losers, guess what you will be another loser. Even if that guy is rich, he can still be an anti social loser, just cause you have money doesn't make you good at socialising in fact probably you are very stifled and compensating in many ways and might use money to impress girls instead of learning how to be social. SO if you are surrounded by guys that don't want to approach woman then they are an LIABILITY in your life not an asset.

Like even if you don't go approach with them, even if you approach alone, they will still be a liability to your life as their energy is not social and therefor they will make you become less social, you get it now. It is better to be alone then to be with the wrong people around you, because alone you will atleast maintain the right energy, mindset that is needed, because going towards success in any field requires momentum and it is hard to build momentum, but it is so easy to crash down and burn. If you are on a diet it is so easy to go stop the diet and start eating trash. So the same way I look at friends, it is so easy to go hangout with guys who are not good for your growth, but why? Why waste time? Why in a million years would you get together with friends, smoke weed, play video games and think your life will go anywhere? Like it doesn't make sense.

So maybe not everything is your problem, maybe a big problem is the people you surround yourself with, remember that, because people can keep eachother stuck for years. Some people can change, but it are always the people that have a growth mindset and are actively working on improvement, not the people who tried to go approach woman one time and stopped. So when I meet a new guy I am trying to get him on my level and if he can't in a surtain amount of time, I am not gonna put in more effort and push harder, I just give up, I think that comes with wisdom learning to not carry the burdens of others that you shouldn't carry, you give opportunities, but you don't give some unconditional support, they have to level up or move on.

For example a wingmen who came to me on his first day, never approached a girl before, his first day I gave him an opportunity, I was like, okay lets get you to my level and he did and 2 months later he wasn't a virgin anymore. So I do give out opportunities, but another guy came and he was critisising my sets and did 1 approach after pushing him all day and it costed me so much energy and I tried everything to help him, I just gave up on him. I was like, this is not even worth my energy and I am not gonna let stuff like this ruin my own momentum. So also for the people that are like "how do you get social friends?" well like this, you let them help you and rise to their level. Don't be arrogant and have the frame that you know best, let them help you, let them guide you, and come to their level as quick as you can. That is how you get social friends, not by remaining anti social yourself. 

Btw this isn't only for pick up as you might think, this counts for networking in general, like being social is so much more then just pick up, it is the ability to give to others instead of being in a takers energy. To give and not be a leech. They leeching and critisisng others instead of putting that blame on yourself and grow, it is always easy to blame others instead of realising where you are making mistakes and can improve, plus it is a terrible way to communicate, imagine you are approaching and someone next to you is critisisng you for everything you do, that is not gonna help you get into flow so it would only be natural for you to block that energy out of your life. I only surround myself with winners or people who have potential to win and are willing to do what it takes and not complain allong the way. You know someone has potential when they ask questions, ask for feedback, ask what they can improve on, that person has a growth mindset. 

Anyways enough talking for today, you can see that I am in a social mood, because I just keep on writing lol, but I think you get the message by now and I will end it here. 

[Valach]

Just befriend people you are aligned with values wise and who you enjoy spending time with. Do not view friendships as some self development tool.

[Ulax]

Yes, I can see the sense in your pov.

Thing is though I like hanging out with non self-dev people too. Self-dev people are great to have in your life with but aren't always the best at letting loose