I talked with a woman and nothing bad happened

[trenton]

I live in Newport Kentucky. It is located by the Ohio River. If you have suggestions about where to go to meet women, that would be nice. I tried checking Google maps to see if I could pick a place, but I'm not sure. I'm across the river from Cincinnati.

I'm a decent walker. I nearly made it to Cheviot Ohio by walking, but my family panicked and had me get picked up.

In any case I walked to the riverside park. When I go for walks I often see women jogging that I like. They often have headphones in so it's hard to talk to them. 

I managed to get one to stop this time. It looks like you can wave at them and ask "what are you listening to." From there we discussed audio books and it turns out I'm hilarious. My idea was to get an audio version of the Bible, but have Goofy from Disney be the cover voice reading it. It turns out that I have a good impression of Goofy too. She wanted to hear Donald Duck voicing Leviticus, but I don't think my impression is as good. I need to record myself first to check. I'm unable to upload my impression of Goofy reading Noah's Ark. My favorite part was the animals on the Ark asking "are we there yet" because they were stuck for 40 days. Regarding Donald Duck, I tried to sound angry while saying "men shall not lie with men! Rahrahrharah!"

She said she would pay money to listen to this kind of audio book. Judging by her body language she seemed uncomfortable or in a hurry. 

You can let me know if I'm reading too much into this, but my impression was that she liked women. Judging from what appeared to be signs of discomfort paired with making Leviticus sound stupid and bigoted, it seems like how I would imagine a Lesbian would think and act. She was probably afraid that I found her attractive and wanted to have sex with her as I would imagine lesbians would be. Of course I would need more information to know for sure. She left without giving any information like how to contact her.

So far I haven't hit on anyone though. I'm not sure where else to go to meet women other than when I'm out walking and see joggers who often have headphones in. I generally stay in friendly mode. Otherwise the only method I found for meeting women works be through dating apps. The problem with those apps are the prices and the fast paced nature of the relationships. I felt like some women were trying to lure me into a trap or that they weren't even women. I became afraid of the possibility that they might murder me, so I felt it natural to ask the forum about relationships and murder with no luck.

In my experience the best way to handle fear and anxiety is to accept the risks knowing that some risks are unavoidable. For example, if I'm afraid to leave the house, I would never have time away from my family or I might be murdered by a burglar or the house might catch fire. My therapist seems okay with this relationship with fear. If I go outside I accept the possibility that I will be killed by drunk drivers, meteors, mass shooters, or perhaps terrorists who highjacked a plane and are attempting to strike the white house but the passengers are aware of this plot so they attack the perpetrators and cause the plane to dive toward the ground, causing it to land on me instead of the president. And of course if I go on a date with a woman, it is entirely possible that she will pull a gun on me and demand my social security number, or she might be an incest victim who now believes that men are pigs and she wants to kill symbolic targets that remind her of her father through intimate relationships, or she might mistaken me for a man who actually raped her due to my similar appearance and have a panic attack leading her to kill me, or maybe something else.

In my case, a woman actually did panic because of a similar appearance to an abuser. I didn't say anything. I didn't do anything. I didn't approach her. I didn't touch her. I was just walking home and this woman freaked the fuck out, screamed, and hid in her car. Luckily she didn't try to run me over afraid that I might rape or murder her. All I did was look to my left and notice her and then kept walking. There was absolutely nothing I could have done. If this woman had a weapon, I would be dead already and all I did was briefly notice her presence. Sometimes there are cases of mistaken identity due to similar appearance to a perpetrator who randomly attacked a woman on day, though this is uncommon.

When I am out walking, a lot of people come to me asking for cigarettes even though I don't smoke. Apparently, I have a look on my eye that makes me seem caring, but one day I was wearing shaded glasses when that woman freaked out. At least homeless women generally feel fine with me and they think I'm a good person. I don't think it's appropriate to hit on them though. Instead I just help them make phone calls and direct them to crisis resources. This included a victim of identity theft that wanted to commit suicide. I found some men in situations like this as well such as homeless veterans who either poison themselves or jump off of a bridge by the Ohio River. I had a few cases where I needed to call the police over things like this, including an abandoned three year old girl who was separated from her parents. I encounter all kinds of things when I'm out walking including alcoholics, criminals, sex offenders, and so forth. One of the alcoholics hit on my underaged sister.

How do you think I should go about meeting women? I live in an area with a statistically high crime rate. This is where organized criminals like my father like to hang out because of the jurisdictional gaps that can be exploited between Ohio and Kentucky as they traffick drugs and prostitutes. Some of these homeless women were also sex workers. They probably don't like being hit on because they already feel degraded as is and they don't need men making them feel like whores. This is why men shouldn't treat women like sex objects as they will lose attraction and distance themselves from you because you show similar attitudes to men who abused them. I felt this too when people reminded me of my abusers through there attitudes around sex. I become very closed off when treated this way and being portrayed as a slut.

I had some policy recommendations for the mayor, but the government isn't very helpful for my purposes.

I have decent conversations with women at the gay pride festival, but they're lesbians too.

[trenton]

Women also seem to like my cat pictures. 

 

[integral]

Wow, it's like all people want is good vibes. Crazyyyyy

Edited Sunday at 05:29 PM by integral

[trenton]

1 hour ago, integral said:

Wow, it's like all people want is good vibes. Crazyyyyy

@integral the part that is actually crazy is when people demand good vibes while smugly abusing you. For them good vibes means being their bitch.

The other crazy part is that victims sound unpleasant when they say they were hurt. Being hurt therefore pushes people away or puts people in denial. It makes sense for how the world works.

Good vibes are good, but I don't give good vibes to people who don't give me good vibes.

[Schizophonia]

I thought that too and then my crush turned into an octopus and tried to eat me.

Always be wary of women

Edited Sunday at 07:05 PM by Schizophonia

[trenton]

3 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

I thought that too and then my crush turned into an octopus and tried to eat me.

Always be wary of women

Are you willing to say what she did?

[Olaf]

@trenton Go to the center of the city with shopping malls and big shopping streets. Approach there either alone or with a wingmen, I would advice you to find a few good wingmen who are serious. You can either find them by events or spotting one in real life, without wing is much harder. Anyways, go out there and approach way way way more. Aswell as learn about game, it is not an easy skillset to learn, I am still learning myself, but I am very active and take loads of action. Don't go wing with a friend who isn't really interested, go with someone who actually wants to work on this. I spend more time talking to my wingmen then to almost any other friend, because we want to grow seriously, not fucking around or trying just once for fun. It is like going to the gym, you can go once every 2 weeks and see 0 process or you can decide to actually work on improving it and go to the gym multiple times a week, eat properly and learn to become better at it. 

[trenton]

@Olaf where would find wingmen? Am I supposed to have friends to help with this? It sounds like I will realistically fail because of my living situation. I imagine myself lying which I definitely don't want to do. It is similar to my fear of harming people generally. It probably isn't the case that I will actually act like this.

If I don't plan on going to any night clubs that Leo supposedly went to, then I may need to learn about what could possibly go wrong in day game and what to avoid. I would hate to objectify women and make them feel like whores. I also need to learn how to handle it if women flirt with me. I have shut down pretty much my entire life in response to this behavior because of my fear of being hurt. I just instinctively feel scared and I freeze. It reminds me of my mom when women act like this and it terrifies me.

[Olaf]

@trenton if you have serious trauma it might be better to first fix that before approaching. But if it would be light level trauma then you could say that doing game would actually help you to heal that, because you will be rejected for sure, even if you are good and you got to be able to handle that and keep it moving. I met my wingmen through Owens event, but you can go to any free event of a pua artist. About respect, I try to be respectful aswell I don't see that you have to disrespect anyone by doing day or night game, what makes you think that you need to be disrespectful? And many times I see game more like making friends and socialising then trying to seduce a woman, rather I talk, be social, see if she would fit my life and if we could be a match.  

[Schizophonia]

13 hours ago, trenton said:

Are you willing to say what she did?

She tried to block me with her tentacles and engulf me.

Fortunately I had my trusty axe with me, it was a close call.

[trenton]

@Schizophonia

I take it this was your girlfriend.

[Schizophonia]

2 hours ago, trenton said:

@Schizophonia

I take it this was your girlfriend.

Help me