Random sexual hookups

[blankisomeone]

How can you guys (men and women) do it without feeling terrible about yourselves and without carrying the person's energy with you for weeks and months? I don't get it. It just doesn't seem worth it to me, it takes a lot of emotional energy and risk. But at the same time it seems like I'm missing out on something cuz y'all just be having sex left and right and enjoying it? Like how?!

Edited 14 hours ago by blankisomeone

[yetineti]

The real question is why you feel bad about it. Having sex is foundational to the species.

Complaining about it is new.

[something_else]

Everybody is different. Some people like casual sex, some don’t. Sometimes people are for or against it for the wrong reasons, like repression. But many just have preferences one way or the other.

[blankisomeone]

4 hours ago, yetineti said:

The real question is why you feel bad about it.

I don't know. I've had casual sex and I'm not sure I enjoyed it. It's like their energy stayed with me for weeks after the encounter! It felt like some deep ass emotional stuff was going on on some deep spiritual level which lasted for weeks. So in the end it wasn't "casual" at all. And other people just seem to be able to hit it and quit it like nothing happened and enjoy themselves.

So I don't know if something is wrong with me for feeling terrible after casual sex, like maybe shame issues? Enmeshment issues? Or whatever. Or if I'm just more spiritually sensitive than most apes.

Edited 14 hours ago by blankisomeone

[enchanted]

53 minutes ago, blankisomeone said:

I don't know. I've had casual sex and I'm not sure I enjoyed it. It's like their energy stayed with me for weeks after the encounter! It felt like some deep ass emotional stuff was going on on some deep spiritual level which lasted for weeks. So in the end it wasn't "casual" at all. And other people just seem to be able to hit it and quit it like nothing happened and enjoy themselves.

So I don't know if something is wrong with me for feeling terrible after casual sex, like maybe shame issues? Enmeshment issues? Or whatever. Or if I'm just more spiritually sensitive than most apes.

AI iis not good at everything but it is very good at therapy. 

[Raze]

So just have short term relationships.