Dating app and social media are fucking dating up

[Inliytened1]

On 10/26/2026 at 3:10 PM, Alexop said:

It is an observation. I see many women stuck in choice anxiety 

 

Lots of women are because they are scared of making a decision.  Maybe they have been burned before.  Find someone who doesn't have this problem

 

[Inliytened1]

On 10/26/2026 at 3:36 PM, Valach said:

@Alexop

Definitely noticed the same thing. I think dating apps and social media in particular contribute to a less healthy society, with less genuine connection and intimacy between people. A lot of young people seem to struggle with becoming overly dependent on them. And in their own way, these platforms are deeply objectifying—they encourage us to see other people as profiles, pictures, and options rather than as whole human beings.

He's talking about women who hide behind them.  Women who are paralyzed due to past trauma. Trauma

 You should know about this topic 

 

[Alexop]

1 hour ago, integral said:

Yes, it does mean that they are wrong in what they are saying.

What they say and what they do are not the same. 

She will date the next guy that stimulates her emotionally. Whenever it has nothing to do with any higher self decision making, it's not a higher order brain function. It's a lower order brain function.

She thinks that she's making decisions with her higher brain, and she's not. She's doing it with her lower brain.

The things she says are higher self ideals, but that's not how attraction works. Especially not people in their 20s.

 

Yes

[Inliytened1]

Yeah but to @Alexop-s point i have also seen chicks who play games acting like they are available on the sites when in fact they shy away from all relationships. They shouldn't be on there at all.  They are just playing games.  Either they have been seriously hurt or they are talking amongst their friends like he said.  Either way it's wasted energy for us.  

 

Edited 6 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Alexop]

3 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

Yeah but to @Alexop-s point i have also seen chicks who play games acting like they are available on the sites when in fact they shy away from all relationships. They shouldn't be on there at all.  They are just playing games.  Either they have been seriously hurt or they are talking amongst their friends like he said.  Either way it's wasted energy for us.  

 

I dated lots of women on dating apps. Not a single one was having a normal behavior. Avoidant behaviors, daddy issues, trauma around men.... Scary was that there are so many...

Edited 3 hours ago by Alexop

[Alexop]

But I would reframe my argument a bit. Dating apps and social media are just a part of the problem. It is a combination of individualistic culture, car-centric infrastructure, snowflake culture of avoidance, emotional immaturity and low social skills, immature men, society's lack of understanding of masculinity, raise of awareness on men's bad behavior and more.

Edited 1 hour ago by Alexop