Approach Anxiety

[Olaf]

I still have approach anxiety, but probably less then most people on here. I think the biggest thing that helped me with approach anxiety was to just approach more. You can do all kind of letting go work, but if you don't take action all that work is for nothing. I know a wingmen who does endless letting go work and he approaches no one maybe 3 people each time max, I literally get introverted being with him, because of his approach anxiety, I would have less approach anxiety going alone then with him hahaha.

Now I am definitely not perfect, ask Zenterus, I got allot of shit to work on, but I would say that I atleast approach at the end of the day, which is a very important start. So no amount of inner work will make you have 0 approach anxiety, I have approach anxiety even when I approach 4 days a week at the moment, it doesn't matter, just take action anyways and over time it becomes more normal and anxiety will become less and less, sometimes it will be as small as a tiny nerve.

Now I have days where my first set I don't feel any approach anxiety, so yes that is possible, but don't expect that to happen in the first 2 months and even then it swings one day you are full of approach anxiety other days you have almost no approach anxiety. Sometimes the approach anxiety goes away and then it comes back, but ultimately you got to grow a pair of balls. This is the reason why you also should go out alone sometimes. I approached a very attractive girl alone last week and I definitely grew some balls from that, because she was a very intimidating girl, that even with a wing I probably wouldn't have approached her. The worst that can happen is that she rejects you, but if you never approach you will never know?

Maybe the girl that is your future wife is one approach away and how cool is it that you didn't get her through some dating app, but by you being confident and bold to actually go for it and that sober without any alcohol. I think that if you do it that way, you deserve it more then any other guy who is too shy to approach, because why would he be worthy of any woman? He has no balls whatsoever. 

[Inliytened1]

I still have approach anxiety and my body count is probably near 300.  You will always have that.  When you stop having it I would worry. 

[Olaf]

@Inliytened1 yes I think that it is just okay, aslong as it is not over the top where you can't approach for hours long or days, at some point you got to approach also the longer you wait the more anxiety builds up and then when you approach all that anxiety comes on the girl lol. That is why I try to decide if I want to approach someone or not in a few seconds max and otherwise let it go. 

[Inliytened1]

14 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@Inliytened1 yes I think that it is just okay, aslong as it is not over the top where you can't approach for hours long or days, at some point you got to approach also the longer you wait the more anxiety builds up and then when you approach all that anxiety comes on the girl lol. That is why I try to decide if I want to approach someone or not in a few seconds max and otherwise let it go. 

I have one worse.  Once it got in my head what if I lose the hard on. Imagine having her on the bed.  Pussy open. Begging u to answer and you're staring it down with a limp dick.   You can psyche yourself out till the cows come home man.  

Edited 22 hours ago by Inliytened1

[Olaf]

@Inliytened1 I don't have those problems, because I haven't come that far yet

[Inliytened1]

20 hours ago, Olaf said:

@Inliytened1 I don't have those problems, because I haven't come that far yet

Oh man.  Just got laid.  Yahoo. And i came through. I performed. Put the condom on right in front of her and stood strong.

Edited 1 hour ago by Inliytened1