Being cool and present

[Olaf]

The best wingmen I have has been doing it for 3 years and I noticed that he was able to remain composed despite the nerves. When anxiety comes up, approach anxiety, your first set of the day or even later during the day. What you do is you don't stay, not for 1 minute, 10 minutes 2 hours, you leave after the first sentence, they call it warm up. Yet this guys approach was his first one of the day, he told me he was a bit nervous, then when approached went well and was a 30 minute conversation. What I make up from this was that approach anxiety doesn't rule him. He stays present, cool and smooth. Then during the conversation you have several points where you might want to move, look away, have nothing to say, moments you let the anxiety take control, you start fidgeting or talking fast. But what if we don't let anxiety take control even tho we feel it? What if we don't give expression to that anxiety, we don't start talking fast, we don't start fidgeting, we don't start to move around even tho that is everything that the body and anxiety wants to do and we remain calm and cool from the first approach on. Then this might be the real transformation, this exact thing made me think of Jeffry, who is anti warm up and state building and always talks about coming from presence and changing the signal that you give off, in the case of this guy his signal was cool and smooth despite the anxiety of his first approach of the day. What do you guys think?