Question about Dating Celebrities

[ElvisN]

A question for @Inliytened1 or anyone else who has massive experience with dating. 

When I was in university I met a girl who was godlike and famous in my school. I feel deeply in love with her.  So deeply that calling it infatuation would be an understatement. To make the relationship happen, I ended up having an enlightenment experience. In the end, she chose someone else and had a baby with him. I still chased her because my mind just couldn't get over this profound limerence. My mind doesn't fall that hard for someone unless they have specific qualities.

Now, this is where it gets insane. The show Wednesday came out and I totally fell in love with Jenna Ortega. I was experiencing extreme psychosis for years then, so I was crazy enough to start texting her. That infatuation lasted one and a half years before it went away, and I dropped the whole thing altogether.

Finally free of love addiction, I decided to go back to school - this was September 2024. I studied Research Methods and Mathematics in school while at home I would peruse through Leo's old videos - hundreds of them. I needed to make up for lost time so I would watch Actualized.org for hours a day, at 2x speed.

After the semester ended, I went back home - December. During that time I was invited to a family gathering at a picnic. I was not feeling that great about myself at the time. At some point, I decided to just lie down on the grass and stay there for a while. Something about that changed my confidence level, because when I went home I told my Dad that I wanted to join him in business.

The next several months I worked 12 hours a day x 6 days a week to master business. But after the first three months, something weird happened. It like Ortega's ghost returned to my experience and I had to leave work to continue pursuing spirituality.

So I made an excuse to go back to school, but secretly to do weed and alcohol, to healing my mind and my body. I did a month of that before my parents came in and took me back home.

I was trying to get enlightenment. I thought it can't be that far. I continued smoking weed at home but it was becoming too much. So, my parents sent me to a rehab.

I know this is the dating section, but I'm feeling the need to reveal my life story to someone.

Over there I met Rebeccah, a psychologist whom I started thinking was meant to be with me forever. I didn't focus on that too much.

Instead, I decided to pursue enlightenment full time. To summarize, I ate thousands of leaves, walked for over 10 hours a day without a break everyday for 2 weeks. I would ground myself on the earth for hours and hours. I was basically given the whole garden to explore as I wished. I was very supported.

During that time, I met a patient in the rehab who was reading a book on shamanism. He told me he was from the US, and that he'd had various esoteric experiences, both on psychedelics and on meditation. We didn't talk much, but I gave him my Conversations with God trilogy which he read in 2 weeks.

Finally, I returned home after 5 months. I was completely transformed. It was the greatest experience of my life. No amount of weed of psychedelics could have done that for me.

That was the end of last year.

This year, I decided to set a new challenge for myself: to grow even harder than last year.

I was able to get some cash secretly with which I smoked weed for an entire month. Yes, I gained a lot of weight, but I also completely transformed my psyche. I became very confident, whereas before I felt like I was always crawling because of the profound psychosis I had. I was experiencing reality as if everyone in the world can see each one of my thoughts, constantly. I lived like that for a year.

Mid-year this year I got the idea to rejoin my Dad in business, but this time my purpose would be two fold: to learn business skills, and use the experiences to progress spiritually. My growth skyrocketed.

 

What do you think?

[ElvisN]

That spiritual guy, he said his name was Adams

Edited 14 hours ago by ElvisN

[ElvisN]

Profoundly grateful for Leo

[ElvisN]

@Leo Gura You're not enlightened btw

[ElvisN]

Your worst days are the best days of your life

[ElvisN]

I don't actually work that hard. I'm lousy.

[LordFall]

You're putting massive pressure on yourself trying to solve your entire life, spirituality, and dating in one giant leap. When your mind is racing between enlightenment quests, extreme fasting, and fixating on people you see on a screen, adding more big ambitions usually just fuels the burnout.

Forget dating, forget celebrities, and drop the search for enlightenment for a minute. The most spiritual and grounding thing you can do right now is wake up tomorrow, go to work with your dad, do the physical tasks in front of you, and stay completely sober.

Real stability isn't found in a breakthrough or an intense experience. It's built in the boring routine of showing up every day and letting your nervous system calm down. If things start feeling overwhelming or your thoughts start racing again, talk to your dad or reach back out to the professionals who supported you before. Keep your world small and simple right now. 

Once you got a good growth curve going then we can talk about hosting events and building a brand so that you can meet real influencer and celebrity girls in a way that gives you a shot at dating them. 

Edited 6 hours ago by LordFall

[ElvisN]

@LordFall Wow, you have amazing advice.

 

It is good to be wary of self-deception.

[LordFall]

Glad it resonated. Rooting for you bro. I'm on a same path, I love influencer girls. It's a worthy end goal. You have to baby step your way there and handle the boring repetitive side of life first up though to build yourself up.

I cold approached Sara Waisglass in Toronto a few years ago

It did not end up in a win for the Fall nation in this case, we talked for like 5 mins on King Street in Toronto's entertainment district. I had no idea who she was but I got her at the end. She didn't follow me back unfortunately.

Another ex friend of mine had a much bigger brand than mine and had a penthouse 5 mins from there and he apparently brought some Netflix actresses back but I also don't think he fucked one but he got closer than me. 

This stuff is fairly straightforward to build up to although it takes time but if it's honestly your goal then YOLO why not go for it. 

The self-deception comes from thinking that you have a unique soul connection to these people and spam messaging them is gonna you there. If we use a non-dual frame work every single man has a soul connection with every single woman so it's not really what's gonna move the needle. Do you have an Instagram? Build up your personal brand and host events. That is the way.