things I am looking for in a woman

[LordFall]

36 minutes ago, Jirh said:

@LordFall It has to feel like an obligation to her, not something she's eager to do.

Otherwise, she's gone.

You're gonna cut yourself off from really feminine expressive women though. The type of woman that likes to dance around and be a bubble of joy. 

It seems more wise to simply assess your woman for signs of fragmentation of her psyche, avoidance and dysfunctional coping mechanisms that would lead to her externalizing her problems and looking for quick dopamine to feel better about them(like fucking or making out with another dude.)

If your woman doesn't have that in her psychological makeup then cheating on her man with a random dude from the club will sound more like a nightmare to her than an enticing option. 

[Olaf]

@Ulax Yes Spanish girls can be really attractive

[Olaf]

@LordFall it is not like a woman always chooses to go out and cheat, she just happened to meet a really attractive man, and the vibe is there and the alcohol is kicking in, she is having fun, next minute you know it she is kissing that guy and only afterwards remembers her boyfriend. No need to be jealous or controlling: just be aware of what is going on. It is almost as if she can't help herself, the whole environment is designed for her to cheat, so I am not blaming woman on this per say, just be aware. Some woman even are aware of this so they go together to drag each other's friends away when they see they are getting horny talking to a guy.

[LordFall]

9 minutes ago, Olaf said:

@LordFall it is not like a woman always chooses to go out and cheat, she just happened to meet a really attractive man, and the vibe is there and the alcohol is kicking in, she is having fun, next minute you know it she is kissing that guy and only afterwards remembers her boyfriend. No need to be jealous or controlling: just be aware of what is going on. It is almost as if she can't help herself, the whole environment is designed for her to cheat, so I am not blaming woman on this per say, just be aware. Some woman even are aware of this so they go together to drag each other's friends away when they see they are getting horny talking to a guy.

Is this your lived experience or a thought you've had? I've went out with women multiple times that were both single and had boyfriends and I've also ended up hitting on many taken women and the scenario you've described is exceedingly rare. 

Your point on your woman having high quality friends is important though. If her friends are cheating on their man and she's okay with that for example then obviously that's a pretty big foreshadowing moment towards your own relationship's chance at loyalty. 

Edited 1 hour ago by LordFall

[Jirh]

@LordFall

You can have your preferences and others can have theirs.

Someone has to cater to club girls. And that happens to be you.

[LordFall]

I'm simply guiding you towards deeper insight regarding behaviouralism and what constitutes accurate green or red flags.

Yes, I like calibrated and in demand women so I'm sure they'll end up in clubs at some point. I also like introverted women so perhaps I'll end up with one of each. My dating strategy revolves around building my life up to the point where that factor doesn't really threaten the stability of my relationships. 

[Jirh]

12 minutes ago, LordFall said:

I'm simply guiding you towards deeper insight regarding behaviouralism and what constitutes accurate green or red flags.

These things are relative to many things, like lifestyle and personality type. A red flag for you can be a green flag for others, and vice versa.

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Yes, I like calibrated and in demand women so I'm sure they'll end up in clubs at some point. I also like introverted women so perhaps I'll end up with one of each. My dating strategy revolves around building my life up to the point where that factor doesn't really threaten the stability of my relationships. 

Personally, I love deeply introspective & contemplative smart spiritual girls, similar to those here on the forum. But those girls don't exist in clubs. Clubs typically attract unserious girls who are generally reckless in life.

Edited 1 hour ago by Jirh