my private students' dad is love bombing me and encouraging tax fraud

[Joseph Maynor]

You can establish boundaries energetically and through behavior without having to say anything, at least at first.  If he doesn't get it, then you may have to start to say.  

[Lyubov]

Sounds like an amazing client to be honest, pays for canceled lessons and increases pay without having to negotiate. I tutor as well and that sounds like a dream….

But you need to learn to enforce boundaries. He is kinda flirting with you. Don’t send photos to him, put a wall up if he advances on you. Keep it professional and be strict about it. 

[Olaf]

@Judy2 honestly he is not just crossing boundaries, he sounds a bit creepy.. like if you don't feel safe I would suggest to stop the lessons. 

[AION]

You sound like you are conflicted about him and that is what he senses. He definitely wants some sessions with you that is for sure.

[Judy2]

2 hours ago, AION said:

You sound like you are conflicted about him and that is what he senses. He definitely wants some sessions with you that is for sure.

i'm not romantically interested in him, if that is what you are asking. i am tutoring his children and like to think that i am a person they can place trust in. he is like 60 or something and has another daughter my age who already has children.

5 hours ago, Olaf said:

@Judy2 honestly he is not just crossing boundaries, he sounds a bit creepy.. like if you don't feel safe I would suggest to stop the lessons. 

the way i see it, he has more of an administrative role but the main focus of my work are the three girls, and i get along well with them and also feel that they deserve the tutoring i can offer. 

if things escalate further, i think i'll have to make him aware to keep it together for his children's sake. maybe it's stupid to wait to say something unless something worse happens, but i wouldn't know what to say or how to say it now.

Edited 5 hours ago by Judy2

[Lyubov]

3 minutes ago, Judy2 said:

i'm not romantically interested in him, if that is what you are asking. i am tutoring his children and like to think that i am a person they can place trust in. he is like 60 or something and has another daughter my age who already has children.

the way i see it, he has more of an administrative role but the main focus of my work are the three girls, and i get along well with them and also feel that they deserve the tutoring i can offer. 

if things escalate further, i think i'll have to make him aware to keep it together for his children's sake. maybe it's stupid to wait to say something unless something worse happens, but i wouldn't know what to say or how to say it now.

Just chill, do nothing. You don't need to do anything, just make it clear that it is professional when he steps over a boundary. Don't send him photos, keep discussion on his kids only. Be brief if he asks you personal questions and don't share information outside work with him. If he sends emojis jsut ignore them. he is a flirty old man that likes you, just keep an eye on him, it will likely be fine.. 

[Judy2]

33 minutes ago, Lyubov said:

Just chill, do nothing. You don't need to do anything, just make it clear that it is professional when he steps over a boundary. Don't send him photos, keep discussion on his kids only. Be brief if he asks you personal questions and don't share information outside work with him. If he sends emojis jsut ignore them. he is a flirty old man that likes you, just keep an eye on him, it will likely be fine.. 

ok, that sounds doable

 

[AION]

@Judy2  ok i understand