Dating One Person At Once vs Multiple - Before Commitment

[LordFall]

5 hours ago, Consept said:

Whats feeld about?

Feeld is a newer dating app, it attracts more alternative lifestyle people so if you're into polyamory or BDSM it's the best place to find people on there. Seems to also be way less bots than other major dating apps like Tinder. 

I think if you're seriously dating you should be on 3-4 dapps at the same time and get premium on at least 1-2 of them and test it out. I've never tried premium feeld but it's been good in matching with more open minded girls. Tinder overall has the hottest girls though but it's a big pond it's harder to compete on there. Can still get great results if you build a good profile though, I've met some great girls on it. 

[Inliytened1]

12 hours ago, Joseph Maynor said:

I'm really enjoying talking with and meeting people lately.  

on apps or in person?

[Ascent X]

On 13/8/2026 at 10:15 AM, Miguel1 said:

Let’s drop all the PUA toxic bs for a moment.

If you’re goal is to find a healthy relationship that is deeply aligned, should you date one person at a time or multiple?

The more I drop the PUA paradigm, the more it makes sense to date only ONE person at once.

Your dating should be so honest, authentic and vulnerable that you find out about the potential of the relationship in a few dates.

If you only do surface level dating, then of course it takes forever to find our if you are aligned and compatible.

What do you think? What are your reasons?

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P.S. If I see one Grandiose joke, or one Daddy joke, I’m gonna Spank you.

let’s drop the gay shit and denial of PUA / GAME principles, or Evolutionary psychology & Power Dynamics/ value exchanges. core to survival and value based relationships, ie. sex.

 

If you have tons of prior experience and secure attachment style, a career, busy life, great friends and family, aren’t needy or desperate & truly think “im tired of playing around, im ready for the one and a family”, you’re actually a catch and highly desired, & you’re +35 years old…

sure dating one person at a time, can maybe work,   if things happen to just automatically be on, click, super high chemistry & aligned and you’re certain you would like to spend more than 6 months with that person off bat.

 

if not, you’re wasting your fucking time, & as a man you need to dating multiple women, and dating from a place of power and abundance 

otherwise, you’ll fall for the first mediocre toxic girl who spreads her legs for you, and she will smell your neediness from a mile away before you even text her, and she will leave you, for a man dating multiple women who doesn’t need her.

If you have multiple options, you are taking your time, you are seeing who you have genuine chemistry and connection and compatibility with, you are at ease in no rush and abundance… this allows you to be the most raw and authentic, this is the best place you can be, this puts you in the power position, and now you choose.

& that’s the only way women will feel attraction for you. A woman will never feel attracted to a man she feels better than, or feels he needs her more than she needs him. Polarity/ Attraction/ thermodynamics 101.

 You must be abundant, not be needy, know what you want, have tons of experience and competence, have rock solid core confidence,  they must smell your abundance.

 

Best bet is create a social circle, a funnel pipeline, have multiple female friends, bring many women into your life, be honest upfront, and with time… 

from a place of abundance and actual experience, a place of power. you vet & choose. 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Ascent X Just about all of what you raised aren't the issues @Miguel1 has.

[Ascent X]

4 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@Ascent X Just about all of what you raised aren't the issues @Miguel1 has.

he either falls into 1 of the 2 categories. clearly not #1.

 

his issue is he wants a healthy relationship and can’t get one, right ?

strategy of dating multiple women, and vetting from abundance is the only way.

 

dating 1 women at a time, “to get to know her” is the same as commitment. Why commit if you don’t know her. only 3-5 dates or months and you don’t actually know her.

 

the hell is “dates” and “dating”, it’s live a great compelling lifestyle, and invite people and women into your life along for the ride, hangout, vibe, share great experiences and conversations, and you’ll naturally see who you like the most.

 

process of “oh okay i’m preparing for a date, this is third date now, wonder if i commit” “i should only focus on this one girl because my brain can’t handle analyzing more than 2 people at a time” is flawed.

 

if you are even asking the question, as a man, you need multiple women in your life.

if you found a girl, who’s the only one you want, and she feels the same. he’s not going to ask the question. he simply drops the other women.

no man is going to find and connect to that one special women who’s down without having multiple women in his life first.

 

What i said still remains.

or you can actually argue me with specifics.

[Natasha Tori Maru]

@Ascent X You could start by asking relational questions so you understand the issue, and not just think you have understood  

[Ascent X]

6 minutes ago, Natasha Tori Maru said:

@Ascent X You could start by asking relational questions so you understand the issue, and not just think you have understood  

yeah you’re not saying anything.

 

you can start by actually being specific, picking apart what’s off, and say something alternative. Or not replying at all.

 

he asked questions. I gave my answer and perspective, having thought the same questions a long time ago.

Im not investing more, or trying to get his full life story & be his therapist to give an  indepth fully tailored reply. that’s your job as a moderator 

[Natasha Tori Maru]

2 minutes ago, Ascent X said:

that’s your job as a moderator 

You are quite mistaken.