approaching was a bit rough today

[Valach]

13 hours ago, Miguel1 said:

Some year ago I met a guy who was in the game for 10 years, and he asked me for advice. His level was basically of a total newbie. I was shocked. Still had approach anxiety.

I would argue that some level of approach anxiety is healthy and warranted even after years and after having success. I still get anxious when approaching a woman I like,

A lot of guys who have no fear simply dissociated from their own emotions, not good.

Edited 2 hours ago by Valach

[AION]

Women teach you to love the process instead of the result. That is probably also the cure to get rid of your depression and at the same time the solution to get girls. If you just talk to them to have fun in the process things will work itself out. This also counts for life in general. Just have fun and enjoy the process. It is not an intellectual thing. And it is not easy.

Edited 2 hours ago by AION

[Olaf]

Today went better, I watched some things on Owen about decision, persona and self judgement fatigue, I think that set things in perspective I realised that I am acting like an introvert as I am introverted lol, but that when I am doing this social stuff I should act more like an extrovert, aka get energy from conversations by removing the fatigues, the energy leakages. That is why going crazy in a club would work, because you just talk with everyone and you spend very little time in between sets, not out of rushing to talk to people quickly, but to just let yourself take action fully without holding back or judging yourself. Something I am still figuring out to navigate, but something I wanted to share. @LifeEnjoyer thank you for your answer.

Also the idea of introverted people is that they get energy from taking breaks and being alone and I think what Owen is trying to explain is what extroverts naturally feel and that is that you can get more energy from being social. It comes down to energy. 

Edited 1 hour ago by Olaf

[Miguel1]

1 hour ago, Valach said:

I would argue that some level of approach anxiety is healthy and warranted even after years and after having success. I still get anxious when approaching a woman I like,

A lot of guys who have no fear simply dissociated from their own emotions, not good.

It wasn’t a healthy kind of anxiety.

[Valach]

4 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

It wasn’t a healthy kind of anxiety.

Not disputing that;)