Fear of being seen

[Olaf]

I have noticed lately the fear of being seen. It is something I noticed in myself and therefor also can spot in others. It is the idea that it is `scary` to be seen in public, the whole idea of being caught, even think about pick up, the idea that someone sees you doing pick up, almost like you are trying to hide what you do. Why can´t you be an open book? Why can't you draw attention to yourself? Why do you have to hide?  Why do you feel uncomfortable being seen, noticed? Why is it akward? Because you are deep down afraid of being seen. Imagine you fall on the floor, is it embarassing if no one sees you? No. Yet if 100 or 1000 people see it, it is sooo embarassing? But why? Because of this fear of being seen, being generally aswell as authentically seen.

So instead of pushing yourself more, maybe it is good to dive into this fear of being seen. As an experiment draw more attention to yourself and see what comes up. For example dress in a way that draws allot of attention to you, something crazy, colourful, unique whatever. There are many ways to dress to stand out and to draw attention to you, you don't have to walk naked on the street, but something more bold. Why is it bad people are looking at you and your clothes? What bad could happen? Or another exercise could be to be a bit louder, like start talking a bit louder on the street or if you do pick up, start doing pick up almost over the top loud. Not as a strategy to get laid HAHAHAHA, but to dive into that feeling of being seen.

After that exercise, sit with yourself, sit with that fear, and let it go. Put your hand on your heart. Breathe in love and breathe out the fear, shake it loose and tell yourself "it is okay to be seen in my own authenticity"

This is the real inner work, real release work, to be okay with being seen and even love yourself being seen. Aren't you such an amazing person who is worthy to be noticed and seen by others? I think you are and we can't give our gift to the world if we already get afraid by drawing some attention to ourselves. It is not that you have to do these exercises every day, but once or three times already gives you some reference experiences and will help you to let go of a big chunk of this fear. 

[Hojo]

I think because we have an inside private world and an outside world. We try to hide the inside world via the outside world.

Take an example. If you get jealous about something, you dont want people to know so you try to act normal but your body is not reciprocating. Your face get red and you start to shake. You cant 100 percent keep it quite.

Now someone comes up to you and ask are you jealous? You are angry that they are calling out what you are trying to hide. While you know you feel it you dont want others to know because of certain situations. You might not even be part of what your jealous of so the emotion could be not logical to you.

So you are trying to hide and its not working

 An empath will be like ok I can see what this person is going through and won't mention anything. where there are some people who will come up and just say what you dont want them to see.

Its kind of intrusive thats why.

The jealous person is trying to deal with the emotion without involving themselves and the person asking them is forcing involvement on them.

Edited yesterday at 09:19 PM by Hojo