Are You Aligned In Life?

[integral]

On 7/1/2026 at 3:47 PM, Miguel1 said:

This is why I am sick of pick up based dating and sex. It's performance based. I push buttons to get reactions. There is no real intimacy, connection, passion, safety with the other person. There is no truth in it! There is no trust and surrender. There is no real caring.

 

This is solid advice.

I know a few women who are extremely attractive and yet they weren't able to have good sex or even an orgasm until their late 30s because their partners were not able to navigate and connect with them the way they needed to as this video explains very clearly.

Its a significant learning curve reaching a point were you can help people through their sexual trauma as a man. And based on all the issues with divorce rates and everything, I assume that vast majority of people are nowhere near this level. 

Oh and this girl is off the physical spectral attractive🔥 Yet still has insecurities with sex because of an operating system of people pleasing trauma

Edited Friday at 06:54 PM by integral

[Miguel1]

12 minutes ago, integral said:

This is solid advice.

I know a few women who are extremely attractive and yet they weren't able to have good sex or even an orgasm until their late 30s because their partners were not able to navigate and connect with them the way they needed to as this video explains very clearly.

Its a significant learning curve reaching a point were you can help people through their sexual trauma as a man. And based on all the issues with divorce rates and everything, I assume that vast majority of people are nowhere near this level. 

Oh and this girl is off the physical spectral attractive🔥 Yet still has insecurities with sex because of an operating system of people pleasing trauma

Oh brother, there is no fucking way I can ever be satisfied with some random hook up sex with a club girl, when I have experienced the deepest, most sacred love-making.

Around the age 25. This was when I was done with my ”peak” pickup year, having sex with so many girls I lost count halfway into the year. At this age, I first experienced a smaller form of true safe intimacy and love-making. After that, there was no going back to pure pick up artristy just to maximize the quantity of sex.

If I didn’t get lucky and bump into some really beautiful souls, I might still be chasing sex mindlessly.

It’s hard to explain true intimacy (body, mind, soul) to someone, when they haven’t experienced it. I see that issue on this forum often.

Your text was well said.

Edited Friday at 07:01 PM by Miguel1

[UnbornTao]

On 7/2/2026 at 1:07 AM, oOo said:

I actually feel like moderators should be held to a higher standard. Leo has shown this as well. This is now, growth overtime.

@UnbornTao you're an idiot sometimes, granted, but we all are in our own way. People coming together on a personal development forum for mere passive positivity and endorsements from others is just as bad as people coming together to bring others down.

I'll take that, and I agree for the most part.

It would be better not to mistake the self-image of being 'highly conscious' for something real and grounded in actual consciousness. What's actually happening underneath, beyond the claims?

If that's what's going on, it needs to be called out plainly - the justifications people use to feel superior to others, because they believe they've landed on the right set of ideas, don't hold up. The whole story is convenient, but false. I shared a video on authenticity earlier that's quite relevant here.

To put it crudely and oversimplified: your shit stinks just like everyone else's. If you think otherwise... pay attention. You're not special.

Also, take a hard look at your ideals. And if you want to socialize, do it. Don't dress it up as you being the reluctant outsider forced to play along with 'lesser' games, or anything like that.

Edited 23 hours ago by UnbornTao

[oOo]

On 04/07/2026 at 4:59 AM, Miguel1 said:

Oh brother, there is no fucking way I can ever be satisfied with some random hook up sex with a club girl, when I have experienced the deepest, most sacred love-making.

Around the age 25. This was when I was done with my ”peak” pickup year, having sex with so many girls I lost count halfway into the year. At this age, I first experienced a smaller form of true safe intimacy and love-making. After that, there was no going back to pure pick up artristy just to maximize the quantity of sex.

If I didn’t get lucky and bump into some really beautiful souls, I might still be chasing sex mindlessly.

It’s hard to explain true intimacy (body, mind, soul) to someone, when they haven’t experienced it. I see that issue on this forum often.

Your text was well said.

This feels more like advertising from a personal however minor ego backlash than it does a reconciliation on personal views around relationships.

You started off saying you can't do relationships because of the games, then you finish with "if it wasn't for the 'beautiful souls' (likely around age 25)".

This feels like the games continued in terms of how you pursued women, you never found your lover and so now you feel regret for the intimacy you did achieve but have now lost, or haven't fully understood in a way that you can act it out properly in reality.

And now you're pretending this was your internal doctrine the whole time all the way through, when in reality it now feels like a defense against potential pain from the intimacy that you actually seek. 

This creates a circular argument with yourself to justify why you will never achieve the relationship you want that's actually based in reality, not an idealistic image you have of your partner and real down to earth relationships.

Just my off the cuff feedback.

You do you.

 

 

Edited yesterday at 04:10 AM by oOo

[Miguel1]

@oOo I am not sure what you try to say honestly.

My issue remains very simple and clear:

I can’t find someone with whom I have physical, emotional and intellectual intimacy.

[Yimpa]

On 6/28/2026 at 1:04 PM, Miguel1 said:

Honestly, I am considering just straight up putting you into the mute list, if that is allowed.

You don’t need permission, you are the authority of your own life:

https://www.actualized.org/forum/ignore/

[Miguel1]

2 hours ago, Yimpa said:

You don’t need permission, you are the authority of your own life:

https://www.actualized.org/forum/ignore/

Unfortunately or fortunately, you can’t put moderstors in there.

[Yimpa]

34 minutes ago, Miguel1 said:

Unfortunately or fortunately, you can’t put moderstors in there.

I didn’t know that!