How to have ultimate power over your partner

[Sugarcoat]

On 2026-06-07 at 5:04 PM, Schizophonia said:

He's the kind of guy you like to read to feel intelligent when you have too much ego, but not at the level to read “real”psychoanalysis/psychology/psychiatry etc. Like Robert Greene.

At best it's quite intellectually inadequate, at worst it leads to a rather paranoid and neurotic outlook in general.

They fixate on this idea of masculinity, instead of just tapping into it already in themselves or something 

Edited Monday at 03:35 PM by Sugarcoat

[Schizophonia]

51 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

They fixate on this idea of masculinity, instead of just tapping into it already in themselves or something 

Paradoxically neurosis is what castrates men the most; It is even the acceptance of castration itself.

So learning to have a fulfilling life will naturally be much more masculine than those perspectives.

If what i say makes sense.

Edited Monday at 04:26 PM by Schizophonia

[Sugarcoat]

8 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

Paradoxically neurosis is what castrates men the most; It is even the acceptance of castration itself.

So learning to have a fulfilling life will naturally be much more masculine than those perspectives.

If what i say makes sense.

Neurosis = toxic inflammatory heavy deluded mind layers . 😄

[Schizophonia]

3 minutes ago, Sugarcoat said:

Neurosis = toxic inflammatory heavy deluded mind layers . 😄

Totally

 

(pretends having understod the joke*)

[LordFall]

On 6/7/2026 at 11:04 AM, Schizophonia said:

He's the kind of guy you like to read to feel intelligent when you have too much ego, but not at the level to read “real”psychoanalysis/psychology/psychiatry etc. Like Robert Greene.

At best it's quite intellectually inadequate, at worst it leads to a rather paranoid and neurotic outlook in general.

This is your take after reading the way of the superior man? Have you read it or just read a summary and made up a conclusion about it? The book itself is quite great. Not foolproof but definitely higher quality than most of the masculinity discussion on the internet. 

[Sugarcoat]

Respect them because you love them, love them because you connect with them, connect with them because they are truly that one special person for you 

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[Breakingthewall]

You can set all sorts of goals for yourself, but in a relationship, you'll be who you truly are. Your emotional makeup will surface, and nothing can stop it. Furthermore, if you try to act a certain way to achieve a certain goal, and that's not what truly comes from within you, you'll only confuse the other person, leaving them unsure of who they are until time and crises have passed, and then they could see your true face. 

[LordFall]

1 hour ago, Breakingthewall said:

You can set all sorts of goals for yourself, but in a relationship, you'll be who you truly are. Your emotional makeup will surface, and nothing can stop it. Furthermore, if you try to act a certain way to achieve a certain goal, and that's not what truly comes from within you, you'll only confuse the other person, leaving them unsure of who they are until time and crises have passed, and then they could see your true face. 

The one massive flaw in this is that your identity is not static. Your emotional makeup as you unwind your trauma and learn emotional intelligence skills. Your will is what defines you and what you're willing to do for what result. Most people's will is weak and falls towards the path of least resistance.

Therefore in a globalized dating market where the competition is increased we now find ourselves with subpar partners all around us and a big long road of self-development if we really want to experience high value partners. I thank God I was not born a woman and would have to get knocked up by the average dude out there lol, that would be rough. I can understand a large proportion of them have quit dating. 

[Breakingthewall]

5 hours ago, LordFall said:

5 hours ago, LordFall said:

The one massive flaw in this is that your identity is not static. Your emotional makeup as you unwind your trauma and learn emotional intelligence skills. Your will is what defines you and what you're willing to do for what result. Most people's will is weak and falls towards the path of least resistance.

 

Agree, the thing is where that will points. To be integral, true, to give your best, to love and to build, or maybe to win, to be great, to have pleasure, to be loved, liked and admired, so to take. Imo the vector is the key

 

5 hours ago, LordFall said:

partners. I thank God I was not born a woman and would have to get knocked up by the average dude out there lol, that would be rough. I can understand a large proportion of them have quit dating. 

Well, what about those women? Are much better? Maybe they seem mature, self confident, ambitious , but then you realize that what is inside them is only the need to fit in and his soul is sold out. I'm not saying everyone is like that, nor are all men like the average dude you mentioned.

[LordFall]

Sure but generally I don't think women need to be as developed as men. Men don't have much value by default and need to bring more to the table whereas a woman well incubates your kids, raises them and nurtures the structure that you have built. It's a generalization but it seems to be the way most relationships thrive. If you're a well developed man you can date a midly developed woman and she'll follow your lead if she's open to coaching. The reverse seems to be less satisfying for most people. 

[Breakingthewall]

16 minutes ago, LordFall said:

Men don't have much value by default and need to bring more to the table whereas a woman well incubates your kids, raises them and nurtures the structure that you have built.

Ok, let's say that I agree. Then I could say that those women are completely incapable of giving love and life to their children because they are neurotic people trapped in their self-image, living in a state of perpetual semi-depression.

Perhaps from the outside they appear high-class, but perhaps an illiterate woman from a village in the Congo has the open heart that they have closed, and that is what a mother will give her children: an open heart, not comparative neurosis. So who is worse in the dating market? Honestly I don't know 

[LordFall]

Some of them are like that but I don't think that's the majority. And as a conscious man who's picking a mother for your children it would be your duty to identify such traits and either work with your partner to solve it or to not date people that are too deep into neuroticism or narcissism. 

It's funny you talk about the Congo, I plan to do a world tour over the next few years and date women from all over and my dad is planning on doing some work in Africa specifically Chad not Congo but perhaps I will try dating an illiterate village girl and I'll report back on how that went. Women are very different in different places in the world, it's become a trend to hate on western women because they're too neurotic. I think a lot of them are great and worth investing into but I'm quite curious to check out places like Colombia, Africa and Eastern Europe and seeing how women compare.