Starting a 30 day challenge

[LordFall]

Immersion challenges are one of the top ways to make drastic improvement in a short time. I've always wanted to do a full on 30 day challenge but always procrastinated it. Ideally I wanted to wait to be a full on digital nomad with business income so I could do it stress free but I just moved to Montreal and the women are gorgeous here so I figured might as well start the process now. 

I'm gonna do this newbie starter variation from the GirlsChase forum since my cold approach is rusty and go from there. I like his idea that he presents in his blog here where overall all you need is to talk to 4 new women daily to overhaul your dating life in 30 days. 

https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/newbie-assignment.34/

https://www.girlschase.com/content/can-you-approach-4-girls-day-30-days

My personal weakness when it comes to this stuff is I tend to overationalize(I'm an INTP) and avoid talking to the women I truly want. I've been on a few years monk mode working on levelling up myself outside of dating so now I think is a good time to bring it back. 

I did day 4 of the challenge yesterday which was saying Hi to 6 women. I did about 8, felt good. There was a habs games yesterday with a lot of women wearing hockey jerseys so I used that as a crutch to do a few opens that worked probably the best, goes to show the power of rapport. Already a lot of lessons from the simple saying hi challenge, for example when walking around one of the best opportunities is stopping at street lights. I thought it would be really awkward because if it goes bad you both have to stand awkwardly and wait for the light to turn green but I did it it once and it wasn't that bad. I told this girl wearing a cool outfit that I liked her style and she said thank you; if anything I should've kept the conversation going since she smiled and gave me an IoI(played with her hair afterwards) but I'm trying to not pressure myself too much early on since that tends to loop me back into overthinking. 

I encourage everyone in the forum looking to actually change their dating life to do the same challenge. I see a lot of questions asked where it's obvious that taking action is the main answer. I'm gonna document the results in my obsidian notes, might share it as well in the journal section of the forum if there's interest in learning from my experiences. 

[CARDOZZO]

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Good luck!

[Zenterus]

Keep crushing it man! I did similar "challenges" a few times throughout my journey and I found them very transformative!

After about a week of consistent action, approaching becomes complete second nature. I could strike up a conversation with anyone, anywhere, and I was SMOOTH AF. 

No compliments, no direct game. I just had a vibe about me and the flirting was so subtle but effective. Results were well worth it.

I say "challenges" in quotations because I never did it consciously. It was more like "I have some free time, I want to get back into hardcore dating again, so Im gonna talk to x amount of girls everyday until something comes of it." So its was a very loose structure, but again, well worth it!

I dont read journals though, so I'd appreciate you updating your journey on this thread instead.

[PsychedelicEagle]

Great! Enjoy the adrenaline rush 

I've done a milder approach — 2 per day at least five days of the week. It worked wonders, I met so many attractive girls. The beginning was brutal tho, and it took me months to start having results.

Bare in mind I did that in my 30s when I already had significant experience. Each person is at a different stage of their life and may need more/less time — also the place they live in may affect the outcomes, etc.

[LordFall]

Appreciate it guys, so far so good about to head off for day 4. 

11 hours ago, PsychedelicEagle said:

Great! Enjoy the adrenaline rush 

I've done a milder approach — 2 per day at least five days of the week. It worked wonders, I met so many attractive girls. The beginning was brutal tho, and it took me months to start having results.

Bare in mind I did that in my 30s when I already had significant experience. Each person is at a different stage of their life and may need more/less time — also the place they live in may affect the outcomes, etc.

Yeah I'm about to hit 31 and I do have decent results from other avenues but I always felt like there was something missing. The more I do the cold approach challenge the big insight I'm having is I've always been fundamentally scared of the women I truly desire. Most of my experiences have been taking what's there either women hitting on me or just whatever matches I get on dating apps. The women that really amazed me out and about though I would subconsciously avoid like the plague and I'm still getting to the bottom of it but there is something really scary about facing what you want in life, at least for me. 

 

13 hours ago, Zenterus said:

Keep crushing it man! I did similar "challenges" a few times throughout my journey and I found them very transformative!

After about a week of consistent action, approaching becomes complete second nature. I could strike up a conversation with anyone, anywhere, and I was SMOOTH AF. 

No compliments, no direct game. I just had a vibe about me and the flirting was so subtle but effective. Results were well worth it.

I say "challenges" in quotations because I never did it consciously. It was more like "I have some free time, I want to get back into hardcore dating again, so Im gonna talk to x amount of girls everyday until something comes of it." So its was a very loose structure, but again, well worth it!

I dont read journals though, so I'd appreciate you updating your journey on this thread instead.

Yeah I think it really depends on what MBTI personality type you are. For a lot of people a daily challenge structure feels quite strange and restrictive. For me it feels like a natural progression and just talking to people out and about feels arbitrary and draining. 

One of the hardest days was yesterday day 6 of the challenge where the idea is to get rejected intentionally. I figured out through the 1 hour of walking around before I made myself do it that I have a lot of ego still in my seduction. I want women especially the attractive ones to take me seriously and validate me so saying something really dumb to get rejected was quite difficult and I had to take myself out of fight or flight a couple of times. Literally felt like people were watching me and especially other men triggered intense momentary frustration.

I went with a simple "Excuse me, are you looking for a husband by chance?" and all 3 responded really well giggling so that was encouraging. Today is the genuine compliment day so we'll see how that goes. 

[PsychedelicEagle]

4 minutes ago, LordFall said:

The women that really amazed me out and about though I would subconsciously avoid like the plague and I'm still getting to the bottom of it but there is something really scary about facing what you want in life, at least for me. 

At the end of the day, reality is made out of nothing. If you approach that which you fear close enough you will see there is no substance to it whatsoever. The key, however, is to expose your emotional, subconscious mind to these types of experiences often enough. Perspective change must happen at the deeper layers of your psyche, which are not rational.

Excited for you and your new journey!

Edited 20 hours ago by PsychedelicEagle