The obstacle for real meditation

[Breakingthewall]

The main factor that makes real meditation impossible is the need for self-definition, for identification. This need is inherent to the human being; it is a mechanism of social cohesion that allows the group to function as a single entity.

Real meditation is not achieved through techniques, but through stepping out of the psychological matrix of identity. The real work is not in the practice of meditation, but in self-exposure, coherence, and integrity. Loyalty to yourself as absolute value. 

When the psychological axis shifts from the need for self-definition and validation to integrity and transparency, the mind becomes silent. Only then does meditation make sense, as one gains access to the primordial layers of the psyche: the drive for permanence, the fear of harm and disappearance, the need for control and other bases of the human psyche 

Directly perceiving these underlying patterns is what eventually allows the psyche to open. “Openness” means the absence of limits. Limits define, and create a sense of control and security. The absence of limits is initially terrifying, unsustainable for more than a few seconds. The system automatically contracts again.

Anyone seeking liberation must seek this rupture. At some point, it becomes more tolerable, until it is perceived as freedom. Identity is then replaced by effortless openness, as it is revealed to be a mental process. not false, but not fundamental, not absolute.

Openness is not an “open mind,” but the fact of being perceiving itself without mental limitations. It is something simple and, at the same time, complete. Not definable because there are not limits. 

This is the state where life becomes beauty, perception becomes deep and the heart becomes open. 

[Davino]

Insightful, thanks for sharing

[Someone here]

Another issue is that meditation is based on quieting the “monkey mind” and its constant chatter.. or at least being able to observe the mind from a third-person perspective ..as if there is literally a monkey blabbering inside your head..and you create distance between that monkey (the mind) and yourself as awareness.

The problem is that we are so accustomed to identifying with the mind that we believe the voice in our head is important. But when you try to silence or calm the mind..it often grows a hundred times stronger and more chaotic.

This is especially true for me because I’m addicted to stimulation ..constantly doing something like listening to music or playing video games in my spare time. Because of that I struggle with insomnia. It’s difficult for me to lie in bed in complete silence and darkness without being occupied by something.

I need to cut certain habits from my life and start living more meditatively.

 

[Grateful Dead]

Yes, once the mechanism of the ego is seen through, meditation becomes effortless and natural.

I think a major obstacle is our understanding of time, the idea that we have to meditate for longer than a moment. If you consider the present moment as the entirety of time, the need to meditate longer than now disappears.

Sometimes my mind is very quiet during meditation, and sometimes not, that doesn't make much difference to me. I let my mind be as it is and don't try to change it, revealing a stillness that is already present, independent of whether the mind is active or quiet.