Is modern parenting bad?

[Basman]

Seems overly lax and lacking in discipline, anecdotally speaking. Parents seem incapable of setting limits around children and don't have any strategies or tools to manage behavior that isn't an ipad. It seems to be both a skill issue and an overly permissive as if childhood is this sacred space exempt from reality. We in general seem overprotective of children and scared of coming off as abusive. A 180 from beating kids with rulers. On that note, is there ever any times where some kind of physical handling is constructive, in contrast with conformity of putting hands on kids?

And yes, I was at a restaurant with a screaming child, but I'm genuinely curious. I'm not having a Reddit moment, I swear. It's hard to find any insight that isn't terminally online losers ventposting because a kids crashed their trans meetup at the local library. 

[Basman]

Most young children in my life, not a lot admittedly, have been kind of spoiled with very soft parents. Annoying and entitled, so it seems to be a societal trend.

[enchanted]

Yes you could be right. The older generations were raised with fear, indtimidation, coldness, toughness, bluntness, and authoritarianism. This produces external results (resiliency, good behaviour, conformity, responsiblilty) but inwardly it's very damaging to happiness and spirituality and creativity. So these inwardly damaged parents decided not to subject their kids to similar fates and raised them in a much softer way. The law of unexpected consequences kicks in and you get some unexpected negative consequences. 

Also consider that adults have complained about the next generation for as long as history has been recorded and maybe even before that. There's records from ancient Greece of adults complaining that the youth is too relaxed, entitled, lazy, uses too much slang etc! 

Edited 8 hours ago by enchanted

[Raze]

 

[Basman]

5 hours ago, enchanted said:

Also consider that adults have complained about the next generation for as long as history has been recorded and maybe even before that. There's records from ancient Greece of adults complaining that the youth is too relaxed, entitled, lazy, uses too much slang etc! 

This is more about the parents though. They are why these kids are acting spoiled and brainrotted.

Edited 3 hours ago by Basman

[caspex]

Everything has its pros and cons, depends on what you consider 'bad'.

I live in India where most of the parenting you'll see is the traditional kind. 

I think the major shift is from believing you know what's best for your kid vs. believing your kid will figure it out. 

Reality is nuanced and sometimes you know best while sometimes it is best to let your kid figure it out. 

 

Both extremes are bad and make dysfunctional human beings.

 

 

[Lyubov]

6 hours ago, Raze said:

 

interesting, listened a good bit to it. Agree with much of what he is saying. 

[Basman]

An entire generation raised by Logan Paul.

Edited 21 minutes ago by Basman